The Naked Crepe

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Psst, over here!

What shall I wear?

Something dramatic - obvs!

BD - what a saga - good luck for successful contact.

Rose - agree - get an early night.

MM hope you feel better soon. We've put on the heating this weekend as the mornings are definitely a bit nippy now.

Herbs - it sounds like a bit of meanness under cover of a kissy emoticon. She should be being supportive.

Hello Rabbi frock

Herbs, I'd be effing furious if someone did that to me.

Rose, all the very best for tomorrow!

Am currently waiting on update for dd, for whom I had to remotely procure an ambulance. She has no functioning phone and everyone in her accommodation went home this weekend. Dizzy, light-averse, rash and high temperature. The 111 service insisted on escalating it as they couldn't speak to her directly. Dd stayed on Fb messenger until the paramedics turned up. No idea what's happening now.

Hmm. Not sure what is going on. The paramedics have decided it's not meningitis, and have advised dd to go to the Dr in the morning (which is what I advised in the first place). Am a bit concerned that she is angling to come home again.

Crem, wishing you good luck and a large dollop of fortitude for the coming week.

I fear I have pissed off my local friends, as I've been so worn out by how things have been with dd for so long, that I have more or less gone into hiding since dd went off to uni. I just haven't any oomph left after work and domestic stuff and am trying to find some kind of new equilibrium, so that I don't get so crushed every time dd lands a new crisis on me.

Jeez Stropps, what a thing, your poor thing. Hope she is fine tomorrow and she was perhaps feeling rough and because they have all (rightly) had meningitis symptoms drummed into them, perhaps that affects things? When I had swine flu I remember wondering if I was light-averse....

Oh Stropps, how terrifying for you. I hate that things are escalated over the phone, and then you look daft. You most certainly aren't daft btw. There is only so much you can do remotely fgs.
I so hope this isn't another Dramallama incident. All you can do is make sure she get to see a doc in the morning. Do you think she's off her meds again Stropps?
No wonder you haven't had time for your friends. It's they who should be taking time to care for you. You've been so strong Stropps. There will be time for more work/life balance when dd becomes more responsible and ds is off being brilliant somewhere. It should not be anther stick to beat yourself with.

Rose definitely upgrade to Good Evening and Welcome Rabbi attire.

Is it Fresher's flu perhaps? that nearly did for dad last September. Awful mixture of symptoms.

Thanks, Lalsy. She's not really shaken off the fresher's flu virus and was complaining of her eyes "being funny" last weekend. But it has to be said that she is an epic hypochondriac and I find it well nigh impossible to know when she is actually ill. I think even she has trouble sometimes knowing when she is actually ill. Also, she has apparently completely come off her ads. I think it's important that she takes her issues to the doctor, rather than to me, because whether they are physical or not, I can't solve them.

Stropps, I think it'll be a very good thing if she ends up seeing a doctor regularly - then they can get to know each other and take appropriate responsibility. I never got ds to have a proper relationship with a GP. He just uses NHS online now.

X-posts, Crem. You guessed correctly Re meds! You know how it is.... I'm just so fucking tired of not being able to relax. And this constant expectation for me to wield my amazing magic wand. Argh.

Sorry for the whinge. On a brighter note: ds had a successful taekwando grading this morning and is now a red belt. He doesn't find it easy and I'm proud of him for sticking with it. And while I was on Messenger to dd, ds made some cupcakes. He only managed to injure himself slightly with the electric whisk and put in 3 times the amount of baking powder required. Turns out the cakes still tasted ok with extra baking powder and a bit of blood in them. :)

X-posts Molly. Yup, I agree. :)

Oh God, Stropps How stomach-clenching for you. But a relief that the paramedics don't think it's Meningitis. But WTF is she doing coming off her ads?
Crossing everything that she goes to the GP tomorrow and they deal with her thoroughly.
And on another note, why are all her flatmates going home at the weekend? Surely they are meant to be partying?! And I'm sure you haven't pissed off your local friends - very sensible to try and catch your breath.

Herbs, she's a friend? Block her - you don't need that shit.

BD - he's arrived!

Just been to see Bridget Jones baby - I love Emma Thompson. She is fantastic. She may be ten years older than Renee Zellweger, but you would never know - she looks amazing. A fabulous Crepey Icon!

AFAIK the calling of the ambulance means the doc will have to check her out. This is a very good thing, I should think.

If she has stopped taking her ads suddenly this can cause all sorts of physical symptoms - quite dramatic ones. She really shouldn't be on and off them and only stop with her GP's help (sorry I expect you know all this) - but might it help to make sure she knows - if she a bit of a hypochondriac it might help her take them responsibly if she thinks stopping will make her feel ill?

Good for ds, Stropps. What a star.

Hope dd gets to the doc and onto the ADs ASAP.

I am sure people understand you going to ground and if they don't...well, they don't deserve you. Easy to say I know but honestly, you have lived on high alert for so long, and the dramas keep coming even if things are better overall, do what the hell you need to to regroup and work out what shape you want your life to be, now you have got a bit of it back.

Clothes sorted, dinner cooked, junk sorted, UCAS conversation held. Can I have my weekend now please?

Yes it's probably the lack of tapering off the meds that's the cause. After my recent Lyrica cold turkey , which caused dry throat, runny eyes, itchy skin, weeping neediness , and palpitations. All of which could have been the flu. Shitola Stropps. I don't know when you stop feeling on high alert. I still do a bit about dd, because you never know the minute she might stop her meds. I feel for you enormously.
Will be able to get brief updates from the cafe en France, but there's no wifi in The Land Of Family Removals are Us.
See you on the other side.

She knows, GGG, believe me. And she is being deliberately vague about when she stopped the ads. She implies that she stopped with gp input. But she is a habitual liar and it is very difficult to work out what is real and what isn't. This is why I often use the word "allegedly" when retelling what she has told me. I thought I noticed shiftiness when I enquired about the ads last weekend.

There is no managing dd. She just does what she bloody well wants, no matter who advises her, and then expects me to pick.up the pieces. It is exhausting and increasingly depressing. I am sad, because I also find it increasingly hard to like her. The pathological lying is so horribly reminiscent of her father.

Good luck, Crem.

Sorry to sound so horribly negative about my own offspring. Probably time for me to take a break from the Internet. I've had enough of trying to put a positive spin on my elder child's shenanigans. I am entirely fed up with the situation and have started to feel as though it is never ever going to get any better. This is just who she is now and that's all there is to it.

I'm going off under my stone for a while, before I post something even more regrettable than my more tmi posts.

Oh Stropps. Your lovely DS is a star, and I do not blame you in the slightest for feeling so frustratedsad/down, etc about your DD.

Good luck tomorrow Rose - hope it's all you wish for.

And Stropps - no idea if this is true or helpful but I was once told that children are vile to their parents because they know they can rely on the love. So the viler they are, the greater the compliment. As I said, no idea if it's true but posting in case it helps.

Strops, please don't stop talking to us. We know how utterly frustrating and relentless it is for you. Hope it's just a temporary blip, and she'll be feeling better and back on course again soon.

Lalsy - I used some sort of Veet wax strips. Like glorified sellotape.

Herbs - pah to your unsupportive friend.

Crem - bon voyage!

Anyway, the film was pretty good, and stuck fairly closely to the book (apart from the trans-Atlantic shift), and Emily Blunt deserves an Oscar for her portrayal of alcoholic Rachel. It was nice to get out, just DH and I, even if it was only for a few hours. I came home and cooked a blinding chicken & mango curry and a plum crumble, which greatly pleased the natives. Now trying in vain to get DS to pack for his Biology field trip (four days wading in a stream in Wales).

Stropps darling, please don't feel you have to go to ground on our account.

And sorry for own whingeing. I am finding life harder than perhaps I expected at the moment. (Dur-ur.)