The Greatest Crepe

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I hope I have remembered the chosen title correctly - I have used Crem's title (think it was Crem's) as the old thread is full.

Herbs - will be fab to have lots of time en famille in the summer but eek re new job on horizon.

Inspired by CV and Rose I have put 10 things on Ebay. They range from size 10 to 16. WTF.

Forgive lack of previewing.

Rudy, how are things?

So sorry to hear about DPs, Herbs (and other Crepeys who are in a similar position). DH has a 7 day pill box, with at least three compartments per day, which he sets up weekly with his medication - he was forever getting lost with where he was, and it works well for him.

I hope you are recovering from the stress of DM's funeral, MI? And I was glad to hear that DH had apologised for his comments.

Auriga, that sounds lovely. I must admit it was important for me to know that my DPs were buried in a pleasant place.

Back from the depths of Leicestershire where the weather was miserable and cold (just like here then). Yesterday morning was a bit off, as DH discovered that the car wouldn't go into reverse: we called out the RAC (who were very prompt), but they couldn't do anything. They said we should be OK to drive the 200+ miles home and so it proved. The car is currently sat on the road as we couldn't risk it on the drive.

Semi quiet day for me: DH and DS have gone on a 100 mile cycle challenge (DH in some trepidation), I am looking after two DGC this morning while their parents do some decorating.

In S&B news, I bought some bright, but extremely fugly flat shoes - will post a photo later (when I can be bothered to go upstairs and get them).

They have those chemist dosset boxes, but the pain meds are somehow separate.

Have spent the night in a state of semi wakefulness, dressing any disaster and having s major fret about everything while I'm at it.

The only positive of the situation is that it seems I am now able to cry about it. I do little else when not in their presence.

Herbs

WAF, I love original artwork: I frequently gaze at two in my sitting room which I love, both by the same artist (the DC covet them, too - they will be the first thing out of the house when I die). We have unexpectedly come into a bit of money and DH said over breakfast this morning that he had thought earlier in the week we ought to decide what to do with it, but I guess some will be going to the expensive BMW dealer to fix the car - I would much rather be buying something beautiful for the house ( or me!).

Oh, Herbs, so sorry. Hugs and strength from me.

herbs you just have to somehow hang on in there. As you know this time last year we were in remarkably similar circumstances. DH had received his redundancy notice, DDad had deteriorated so badly that DM wasn't coping, her trying to recover from a knee revision, DS2 was taking AS levels and I was getting into strife with Annoying Trustee. Eventually we cut our summer hols short when things reach crisis point. The best help was the SW and the assessments she arranged plus the geriatric consultant once DDad ended up in hospital because they spoke the truth about the care needed. When the home carers weren't enough ( one wonders if they were ever enough, tbh) the care home was the only answer for our particular situation. Not everyone needs it, of course. there is much empathy on this thread.

mi glad he apologised and realised he'd crossed the line. Happy Birthday. You are ordered to have a nice day.

Welcome home mrsS. Did I read it correctly...DH was making you supper???

Nice to hear waf enjoy the good times. We can't take it with us, and I'm all for a bit of spending, me.

I really must get up. I see from flight arrivals that DHs plane landed just under a hour ago. I still feel decidedly rough and am coughing like a hag. We have another day of revision to look forward to, and presumably DHs washing All the while I have this sensation of life being on hold.

Herbs, hang on in there, I am so sorry it is all so hard. I hope getting back home helps you adjust a little.

MI, have a lovely day!

WAF, how exciting all round. Do you know what kind of desk? I have wondered about them.

Herbs, how are things today? I so feel for you: as you know, I am familiar with that ' here we go on a sunny Sunday' feeling.

Auriga, what an incredible pain. And I too love the Highwaymen.

Thank you all for the birthday wishes. And the sun has joined you!

Happy Birthday MI!

Herbs, sympathies here too. And how you're feeling is entirely normal, IMHO.

Auriga - where does it end?

MrsS, did he pick you up?

Had a lovely evening round at friends last night, a decent nights sleep (DH went up to the loft) and no hangover! But where is this sun of which you speak, MI?

Wishing you a very happy birthday, MI

Happy birthday MI

The sun's here, finally, BTM.....

Yes, happy birthday, MI. and well done for buying the painting, WAF. Bread and roses.

Herbs, the saddest thing DM said to me was 'you're my Mummy now' ...but it was true. Once I accepted that, things were easier. Well, maybe easier is the wrong word. But I needed to make that shift in my head.

Auriga that is very wise. I know what you mean. Feeding and caring for them, BUT, and it's a big but, it makes you feel so alone. I was only thinking today if I had known when my last 'real' conversation with my mum was going to be id have spent more time. I feel very isolated and bereft at the moment.

MI have a fab day.

MrsS how was dinner?

WAF - I have a Paula Riga (faint boast) which I love :) and bits and pieces of sculpture (nothing worth mega amounts but I love them)

Ruddy hope all is okay

The sun is here too - hooray! Have sent DH off to get BBQ coals, etc whilst he gets the car washed.

Ironically, once I saw that DM was really going downhill, all my frustrations at her never really having been a "mother" to me dissipated, and I just feel sorry for her now, having to live on with dementia. It must be so much worse when you have always had a close relationship with your parent/s and they are now no longer the "adult" in the relationship.

Rudy! ( blinking auto correct!)

Happy Birthday MI! I wish you a special day. have you or yours planned anything? There should be .

Oh Herbs. I can't add anything that hasn't been said already. I hope a kindly SW will come along soon and galvanise things. Can you get home today?
You need some proper rest. [zzzzz]

Auriga, the glade sounds like a very beautiful place to be dms final resting place. It's what I would wish for , for myself. Much chat about these things yesterday, following the funeral of dfriend.

Rose, sorry you are stil feeling awful. it does sound like a version of the hideous virus that I had a couple of months ago. Rest and plenty of fluids , I'm sure Sister would agree. Typical that it would strike you down in the middle of exam period. Take care.

I have decided I am bordering on the feral. Eyebrows wild, Hair needs coloured, hands gardening-bashed, tummy flabby, feet blistered. I need to practice a bit of self-care today. This, while watching the tennis[exciting]
Dh is out 'helping my DM with DIY. WHY!? ,while our house falls down around our ears.

Sorry I missed it was your birthday, MI. Have a great day with, hopefully, lots of pandering.

Sitting on my lovely gliding bench in the garden in the shade of the cherry tree - DGC are playing with the sandpit and the outside tap: the 5 yo and I have been weeding more of the garden path. When I last heard DH and DS had done about 25 miles, fingers crossed DH copes.

Happy Birthday MI! Hope DP has got you something nice and not more Chanel No.19!

Peeps, can I run something work related past you? Our head honcho has emailed me saying "I think we agreed you would cover the meetings in XX next week." We didn't - someone else was supposed to do it, but she is now sick and won't be able to do it. I emailed back and said, no, Jane was supposed to cover this, but I assume she won't now be able to. I said I would do it if I had to. She hasn't come back to me yet. I've just looked at the calendar and the meeting starts at 0900 on Monday morning, so I would have to travel on the Sunday. I don't want to do this a) it is DD1's last weekend with us before she goes off on her school trip for a month and b) I am still owed two days travel time from previous trips, which I haven't yet managed to take. And frankly, I am getting a bit tired of being shafted for travel because my kids are older than HH's or the deputy's. I've been away for both half terms covering stuff because HH won't travel during school holidays (her DS is in Reception, although I know that is really neither here nor there) and I just want to say, no, I don't want to do it. I know she won't be happy about this. The travel is also to a city that I really hate, for personal reasons, but that's not the main reason I don't want to go. Any thoughts?

Could you make up some important personal appointment, or something that would prevent you going on the Sunday - maybe they could reschedule the meeting, or you could just not go at all and she/someone else could do it?

Would you be able to get everything agreed in writing in the future, then you can point back to the email where it had been agreed?

i think as you have said you will you cant really back out this time, but say there is no way you can go there on the Sunday due to personal things so you will arrive at on the Monday. They should think themselves lucky you are going at all.

Agree with BD Mrs S.

CV just want to say ACU vue moist do vari focal lenses which work pretty damn well with my astigmatism and other stuff. Fear my eyes might be too dry like Hatt's. Is that why they feel stingy Crepeys?

Unfortunately if I don't go on Sunday there is not really much point in my going at all. The earliest flight, leaving London at 0630 wouldn't get me to the airport before 0930 and I'm looking at another hour to get to the place where the meeting is held. I'll see what she says tomorrow. The only other option would be that she does it, but I don't think she will want to - probably for the same reasons as me!

Just been to an Open Gardens with a friend where we were amongst the youngest there - quintessentially English experience, with an ensemble playing and tea and cakes. And roastingly hot!

MrsS that doesn't mean it should be delegated to you! In the circus you describe I'd say I've checked my diary and it's not doable for family reasons -sorry and all that. Agree with BTM re getting everything in writing. If it's that important she should go.