29 crepes a leaping.......

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Well, I've grabbed the bull by the horns & am leaping into the new thread........

Felt very sad no one else had started one whilst I scoffed dined.

If no one like the title I am more than happy to have it deleted & go with anything else.

DH has taken over the catering for the month of February......... the food is good but the angst is another matter

Oh, Rudy, are you OK? Can we do anything to help? Completely understand about taking a step back from MN, but do meet up with us in RL. I'm in Cambridge on Friday and could meet for lunch if that would help at all. PM me if you'd like to.

Happy birthday, CV. You are indeed storming ahead with the new job search. Richmond is a lovely place, and the park is to die for.

Echoing others Rudy - here if you need me. PM or whatever. Hope it's all solvable

Happy Birthday CV A very interesting birthday outing. We all want to hear about your prison dinner!!

I know that feeling rudy. It's actually this forum that has helped me to share a bit, as I also close down. Do PM if talking one to one helps. Lots love xxx

Getting cleared up to go home now. I hate leaving here although have to admit I need some space from DD who is doing an English past paper with very bad grace. I'm sure she wouldn't rather be doing the hoovering though...

Oh Rudy, hope RL gets back on an even keel. The Crepey Sage Advice Centre remains open, and hopes to see you again soon.

Well, not much chillaxing so far today. The house was a tip and the cleaners will be here later, so I've been putting laundry away and clearing those little piles of junk that seem to accumulate spontaneously on random flat surfaces (our dining room tabel suffers from being the first resting point one comes across on entering the house, so it's always covered with detritus). Birthday presents were somewhat underwhelming - chocolates from the DCs, a dull-but-wearable Per Una top from DM and a lovely dressing gown from DH that I chose and purchased online myself but hey ho, I guess they're saving their pennies for the Big One next year.

Happy birthday CV and strength to Rudy.

I know that feeling.

Half term is wearing a little thin at the moment, and I've only got one here. Stuck in year 10 exam revision.....well stuck in when heavily monitored. Using the time to do house admin. Why are passport forms so hard to fill in?

Dd2 has gone on a rekkie with a friend, glamping at Stonehenge (in February!) very overexcited

My house is full of girlish laughter.

I feel quite homicidal.

Rudy come and vent here if needs be. Even in a cryptic fashion!

DS is having his hair cut in a v trendy barbers. All distressed brickwork and beard oil. All the barbers have numerous tattoos and wallet chains.

Then to darkest Romford for some Star Wars themed laser quest.

Herbs star wars in Romford!Do tell more? Thats not far from me Didn't know anyhing so exotic was on sale there,

Hello Rudy - do stay with us - or as the other say, come on and vent from time to time.

Rudy I don't know what kind of site it is, but I was in all kinds of shite all last half term and I know it's awful x

CV hope you get taken out for a lovely evening.

Sympathies to those with DC supposed to be revising - as you know, I have left DD to it completely!

Beautiful here today

Arrived home in the very early morning and went to bed. Have just surfaced, but could do with some more sleep, but if I sleep now, I won't sleep tonight.

Pants are on a nice hot wash.

MrsS, buy yourself some nice new pants?

Yes, have been perusing Figleaves.

Sorry to hear that Rudy

Just waving feebly after several v long writing days while fam away. I have been loving the silence so much. Cat seems bloody noisy. Maybe I can send him away next time I'm trying to get something finished.

Happy Birthday CV, and sending you good vibes, Rudy. Hoping to see everyone on the 12th.

Everyone has gone out to see Star Wars, leaving me in peace. So the joys of my return:

Someone has "borrowed" my pillows for a sleepover guest, rather than using the spares that they couldn't be bothered to look for. And has not returned them.

The cat has shat on the bath mat. Again.

No-one has done any washing; there is so much stuff in the laundry basket that it has all fallen out.

There really is no food in the house - one egg, no butter, some dried up cheese and numerous jars in the fridge. DH went out muttering to get something for dinner tonight. (I refused to cook.) They have been out every night in my absence, or had takeaways.

The house is a tip, and no-one has hoovered since I did it before I left. It is like I am being punished for having been away, being the breadwinner etc etc - the resentment is palpable sometimes.

Oh and does anyone else's DH/DP have no idea re empathy? Said I was worried about my appointment at the breast clinic and was told "It will be fine. Get a grip." It's exactly two years since my melanoma diagnosis, which isn't helping, and he was the same over this, and was also utterly hopeless when my father died too - it's like, he has never experienced anything like this, so has no idea how to deal with it. I want to give him a very hard smack sometimes.

Mrs S - agree with MI - go treat yourself to knickers!

Christonabike, MrsS, I would quite seriously be thinking about LTBs. All of them. This is a really horrible way to act.

Mrs S - really sorry re the cross post. DH sounds a bit useless but I think a lot of men are - not sure my DH would be much use in your situation. He has literally no concept of comparatively minor things like the menopause. There is no excuse however, for now organising the washing or having a meal on the table. My DH would have managed that, although hoovering and bathroom cleaning would have had to wait for the mysterious housework fairy. I would have been well pissed off about the pillows - these are sacred objects for me plus somebody coud have moved the cat sit! on your behalf.

LTB was my first thought Mrs S. Know I've said it before, probably unwisely, but your H can be an utter shit. And your DDs are following his example. What does he actually add to your life?

... apologies for the numerous typos.

I think a lot of men aren't very good at sympathy but many of them do try. Mine is doing his best.

I'm really angry on your behalf.

They don't appreciate you Mrs S and they should. We do!

Oh no, MrsS what a thing to come home to..... As far as the housekeeping issues are concerned, I've said before....go on strike. I usually find prefacing this with a monumental hissy fit helps to hammer the message home. Then treat yourself to a lovely solo meal at local hostelry and arrange a cleaner from an agency on the credit card. ( I have one of those.... )

The empathy thing is something else entirely. I really don't think a lot of men see the complexity that we do. They are but simple creatures. Perhaps as far as DH is concerned, if you're ill you'll have the treatment, get better and that will be the end of it. They don't get that what we actually want is someone to hold our hands and comfort us when we wake, shaking and sobbing in the middle of the night. The see no reason to kiss anything better, because the doctors are tasked with the responsibility to make it better in due course. We of course, have looked after the DC, kissing a lot of things better, and recognise the psychological power of TLC.
Personally, I'd go with the hard smack.....

What time is your appointment on Tuesday?

Oh yes: "What shit have you brought back, now?" Umm, coffee? That we can drink.

I don't think it's too much to expect to come home to a clean-ish, tidy house. I got a rant about how he had had to wash the kitchen floor, as "someone" (ie me) had left a bottle of cinnamon essence in the wrong place, and he had knocked it off the shelf and it had smashed.

I don't have the energy to be really angry at the moment - too much other shit going on, so will shove this to one side for now. Next work trip at the end of the month - may go for the weekend and have a nice time with friends who live there (and cause more resentment).