Crepe Oddity

[MrsSchadenfreude]

Sorry.

Thank you, MM.

NU - glad it went well in the circs - much strength. So true about being alone....

Here howling a gale (again)

Oh NU, that sounds like a lovely memorial service

I will try to see if DM has any wishes for her funeral other than to be cremated. It isn't really a subject anyone wants to discuss, is it?

NU - glad the memorial service went well. The quote is spot on.

I've had my bile duct scanned several times and no stones. Although I guess there is always the possibility that I may have passed one.

Re funerals, Dm has said that she "doesn't want one of those silly programmes with photos on that everyone has these days", nor does she want All Things Bright And Beautiful, Abide with Me, Jerusalem or a whole raft of others. I am tempted to have "Fight the Good Fight..."

WAF - can you get an appointment with the dentist first thing tomorrow?

DH wants to be buried in his family grave, which is in a part of the country I don't know at all, so I guess I won't be going with him!

There's a book called Last Orders that you can use to guide you through the discussions. Not just funeral wishes but things you wouldn't otherwise think about, like what they want you to put in newspapers. It has checklists for all the essentials, like whereabouts of papers, keys, codes etc. I found it helpful with DM. She decided she wanted her body donated to a medical school but didn't make a Plan B for if they don't want it, so I suppose I'll have to go through it all again.

Did loads of work today. May hit next deadline after all. Another report I was worried about is no longer needed . After Wednesday I hope to be a New Woman

Good luck with you deadline Auriga. A productive surge of work can do a soul a lot if good.

Thanks Mrs S. I will be bombarding dentist with calls from 8 a.m. dd2 is off sick 'n'all.

Like many, stormy weather woke me and also pain.

Can I please urge those of you considering hymns etc at your funeral to insist on a decent organist. I am sure Auriga will agree that many a lovely send-off has been marred by the village plinky-plonker who has only a marginal grasp of timing and indeed harmony. The one at my friend L's in the summer had no idea of Bread Of Heaven at all.

I myself am going to make everyone sit through huge amounts of country music at mine. I may add in Springsteen's song about how it takes a red-headed woman to get a dirty job done.

'Village plinky-plonker'

Will you need a double slot for that, MI. They are often half an hour.

I want Elmo's Song at mine (Sesame Street). It is about how Elmo shares his song with his friends and they call it their own. (Copyright nightmare but I love the sentiment)

NU - have been thinking of you and your friend's family.

Waiting for train to dentist. Have left feverish dd2 on sofa with apple slices and a pot of daffs.

Conversation with mum. She says she does realise she is dying, it's just hard to get your head round. I feel sad. And muddled.

Oh MI. Must be a shock that she's not denying it

Oh MI :( I think my mum knows to too, she just hasn't expressed it like that......

God it's hard, and it has brought to the surface all sorts of things in me - like feeling I have wasted my life/not fulfilled my potential....

MI but it sound like she might have got her head around it. Feeling for you today, I really am xxxx

Nu that is also so sad...about your friend

If I had a choice at my funeral, I would have everyone bopping and singing along with as much glam rock as there would be time for, especially, Bowie, Marc Bolan, Bryan Ferry..and a bit of Bee Gees disco thrown in for good measure. Not forgetting some Stones too. And Adam Ant....With everyone finishing with a group Prince Charming strut across the prayer hall. And probably the Cha Cha Slide too. Sadly, no music is allowed at our burials.....

auriga glad things look like they're catching up work wise.

waf I expect the dentist will give you antibiotics for a week before tackling what ever has caused the abscess. Poor you...dental abscess is worse than childbirth. In fact, I'd happily give birth again, rather than go to the dentist at all Poor DD too.

DH went off to new job looking dapper in new coat, shirt and tie. I might be in mortal danger of fancying him again... Sent me a text to day all seems fine which means he probably likes it... I HAVE GOT MY SPACE BACK .

The teacher for whom I covered her sick leave on Saturday has sent me a little gift via text, on a new App called Givvit which is terribly sweet of her. And particularly so because I'm quite impressed with this App! Has anyone ever heard of it?

I have happily done the weekly shop ( Get a life, Rose) and this afternoon am meeting a woman who wants me to work with her daughter. She was a patient of mine when she was tiny at a hospital I used to work at, and we ran into one another at the theatre where daughter is now a student. I have actually wound up my paediatric practice in favour of consultations only, but this might be quite nice....We will see. Have a good Monday everyone.

X post Also BD xx

Dentist: 'It's an infected wisdom tooth. Has it been infected before?'
Me:'No' (it is only partly errupted and hasn't moved in twenty years)
Dentist: (talking very quickly) 'I'll clean it and give you a/bs. It will probably get infected again in maybe six months or two years so I recommend extraction. Shall I refer you?'
Me: 'No, thank you.'

I have decided I won't be having another infection, and that's the end of it.

WAF, god that's a bit cut and dried obo dentist. They are supposed to have signed a Hypocratic oath meaning saving a tooth is better than whipping it out. How utterly miserable. Poor you. I hope the antibiotics start to work quickly. I usually take two or three together at the beginning to get things started. ( do not do this at home I suppose). Sorry dd is sick too. Wretched. for you.xx

Rose, you sound so positive today. It's wonderful. I hope a small corner has been turned for you in the grieving process.very pleased you've got your space back.

BD love , your life has not been wasted. It's just happened in a different way. I know what you mean-I often feel this way. Be kinder to yourself. You are having a shitty time and have a lot on your plate.

MI very conflicting feelings I imagine. But reassuring that DM is dealing with it in her own way. What about ddad?

Last full day here in wafting land. I am gonna waft for Ireland today.

Oh MI, that's sad but also good that you know that she knows

Rose, I agree with Cremo - you sound so much more upbeat

WAF, fingers crossed the infection goes and that's it. I am lined up for a consultation about getting an implant after half-term - very scary

I am waiting for a call from the Care Home manager who rang earlier to say she would be going this afternoon.

Anyone heard from Rudy???

I am sitting in a taxi from City airport, where flight was cancelled, to Heathrow, where new flight will almost certainly be cancelled too. I didn't want to go anyway.

In that case fingers xed for you that Heathrow plane is also cancelled - Result!

What a pain, MrsS.! Hope nothing is leaving Heathrow either.

MI and BD, sorry to hear your updates. Thinking of you

Enjoy the end of you hols, Crem.

Rose, you seem to have a new lease of life today. Glad DH has a spring in his step too.

How come the planes are cancelled, MrsS? Is the weather that bad?

Apparently so. Now airside and potentially boarding shortly, but not much seems to be leaving...

Apparently DD1's plane last night was all over the shop. Screaming kids, panicking adults, the lot.

Crem, hope you have a lovely last waft, and thank you for cheering us all.

MI, and BD, . In my limited experience, denial comes and goes. I think people deep down recognise what is happening but prefer most of the time to let heir minds and conversations run along normal channels, holidays, haircuts, moans, whatever, rather than invent a new way of thinking and talking, perhaps because it is less exhausting and stressful. Don't know if that makes sense.

Was up half the night with ridiculous period, been struggling with work, want to go to bed NOW but am instead fretting about my rubbish (bin men won't take t if it is in the only place it won't blow away), and am in a terribly bad mood. I perhaps need to schedule some wafting in.....

MI, that sounds horrid. Is she back?