Very sad DD, new haircut please help!

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My lovely DD had all her hair cut off yesterday. She's been thinking about it for ages so it wasn't a mad impulse.
She took a cute picture of an Anne Hathaway pixie cut with her. She also had some colour as she wanted to be blonder. She's very upset with how it looks and thinks is it is very middle aged and not pixie! I think she looks gorgeous but agree that the cut and colour isn't brilliant. It's so short though that we don't know how to change it...Are there any hairdressers out there who could advise? Can the cut be rescued without taking loads more off?? Please please help, I was so proud of her for being brave and going for a change and she's so upset.

unlucky - I used to get called Crystaltips as a girl! I wish I could show your daughter what my hair turned out like! You need a special sort of hairdresser to understand very thick, very curly/wavy hair.

If she's going for one of those styles picture than see which of your local trendy barbers is open.

My hair is a disconnected undercut and longer on top. They cut these styles day in day out and don't get nervy about doing really short hair on women, unlike some hairdressers (I've regularly faced Mrs Dvs issue in hairdressers). Plus it's cheaper

[Lweji] We get that you don't think the OP shouldn't let her DD have time off school. You have said it quite a few times now . I'm sure it's frustrating but sometimes you have to except that other people don't always agree with your point of view however adamant you are. This thread isn't AIBU.

Sometimes you just have to let things go.

This is mine when it was blonde, the sides are a no.1, your dd doesn't need to go that short a 2 or 3 look great too.

Accept not except. it's the glue

Do you know any salons that you can book online for tomorrow? Know a few do here. Hair and lunch then see how she is and go in and complain to other hairdresser. Maybe new stylist can take some before and after shots so you can show them what you mean?

I'm sorry OP but it's awful.

It reminds me of those wedge haircuts from the 80s favoured by boys who tucked their burgundy jumpers into their stay press trousers.

Your poor dd.

I think a block of colour would help massively. In the meantime wash and restyle?

I hope you can get it sorted soon.

If she hates the hairstyle, one day off school isnt going to kill her. However, you could get her to try and make it more funky by perhaps putting some gum/waxy stuff to give a bed head look then do the clip thing. The thing that makes it look worse is the parting. If you kind of get her to mess it up a bit, may help a little? I would get her to wash and dry it, get rid of the parting and try bringing the hair forward. Rough dry it then apply a little gum/wax or other thickish hair stuff.

Poor dd. I'm glad you're taking her to get it sorted. She'll remember that, OP. I seriously wonder what some people think is going to happen if a teen misses a day of school. You don't ruin your life chances if you catch a stomach bug, for example. I used to miss days quite regularly for orthodontic appointments, music exams . Possibly the odd holiday. I don't think anyone batted an eyelid and my grades certainly didn't suffer. Some people are unable to exercise judgment and see everything only in black and white

I think my sides are a 4 or a 6 in my pic, so not too short.

I have had my hair in a very short crop on and off for years.

I always take in a picture of Jean Seberg (and explain that I realise I have fuck all chance of ever looking that incredible!)

The hairdresser always says, 'ooh that is really short' and then cuts it too long, so I ask them to take some more off.

9 times out of 10 the hairdresser will ask if they can then add half a ton of waxy goop to my hair and try to bouff the fuck out of it with a hairdryer. Sometimes I let them carry on because it seems to make them happy (bouffing must be in their DNA) - if they do this I run straight to the toilet and stick my head under a tap. Most of the time I ask for a teeny bit of wax, and then sort it out myself.

The lady who cuts my hair now, uses scissors followed by feathering scissors to chop into it (I have very thick hair)

I prefer it when my hair is a strong colour - has been dark brown, pillar box red and is now bleached to buggery platinum blonde.

This is a lovely Jean Seberg

I think your dd probably needs a stronger colour, and for her hair to be thinned out a bit, it probably would do better for not too much product and not too much bouffing.

When i was a teenager, if i had have hated my hair cut i would have been taking every day off till i liked it, regardless of whether i had my parents permission. Far better to take one day and just get it sorted than let the misery drag on. If it were my dd (if funds permitted) i would make a day of it, get it sorted in the morning, then have a girly lunch and go and try on clothes and make up in the avo. Those are the type of memories which stay with you forever. (as would being forced sobbing into school and being called 'Clare' for the rest of the year - but for very different reasons)

Oh the bouffing hazey it was the bane of my life when I went to hairdressers.
I used to have a Louise Brookes style bob in my younger days. After my hairdresser had finished drying it it looked like a helmet

The hair isn't long enough for loads of these styles though. It's short from the roots, no longer bits to sweep across. Tbh, id be tempted to wash and style myself, pushing it forward and tweaking bits - there's no length to tuck anywhere behind ears etc - and then waiting a week or two so i knew exactly what didn't work.

It's a lot longer than a crop like mine!

Oh dear. As others have said that is very Claire Balding. Who I absolutely love, but really not the hairstyle for a young teen.

I have short hair, and agree it is REALLY hard to find one who has the balls to cut it short enough. The good news is that cut can go waay shorter. I'd also look at a white blonde maybe, it definitely needs to be one solid block of colour.

Ps honey love love yours. But I think I'm too old for that I'm over 40 and don't want to look like I'm trying to recreate my lost youth even if I am

Yes but I think either bits need to grow, or she needs to prepare for a total crop - some of the styles need length where there isn't any. Plus shaved sides might be against school regs?

Yes, I thought of Clare Balding!

Whoever did those highlights needs a complaint logged against them.

I would take her somewhere top notch to try and rectify it.

no shaved sides, but not too bouffy. Just more length taken off, and a more solid colour.

(and wonky eyes....ignore my wonky eyes)

Can you get a box dye over it tonight so it is all blonde all over and style it more like this.

So bloody what if she has the day off school tomorrow.

I wouldn't want to go to work with a haircut like that because I would be so self conscious and as teen it would have been mortifying.

I am pretty strict on taking days off for school but in this case it would be the right thing to do. I couldn't stand the thought of my child having to go to school feeling really self-conscious and possibly have to put up with teasing on top of it. I am not a hard arse and as a one off I see no reason why she shouldn't get this fixed before going back to save her feeling mortified.

If my mum made me go to school with a bad haircut instead of taking me to get it fixed first I would have really disliked her and thought her cruel.

Good luck for tomorrow OP.

BTW, my hair is much thicker than your dd's and curly. I have a pixie cut and it looks just fine :)

I think your dd has very thick hair so it will be difficult to get right when it's short. I have the same problem. I agree products and playing with it will help.

Hazey that's lovely, I'm dying to post a selfish too but I just meant some of the longer swept styles weren't going to be possible. Rather than rushing to a cut, maybe get the colours fixed and then wait a week or two.
Fwiw I usually am.anti days off but I would for this.

It looks like the hairdresser did the highlights on long hair, then cut it short, which is why you have the spotty look, as it really doesn't work well on short hair. ( not a hairdresser myself, I just pay attention). Loads of really good suggestions, and I'm going to borrow a couple of the pictures for when I go to the hairdresser not tomorrow as planned as my son has just been sick