Mission Crepe: no surrender

[Collymollypuff]

Here ya go...

I will edit with my name but later. Am off for a joyous oncology meeting now. First train already delayed, but at least I built in extra time at every (long) stage of the way.

After spending the night next to one snuffling snoring man I am sitting on a train next to another snuffling snoring man.

Rudy I hope it's nothing too much to stress you re your DM. I have registered and hope I did it right....

Good luck MI Are you feeling any better today?

Honestly, men....who needs them with their snoring and unappealing habits...

Anyway...more S&B news... yours truly is spending money again.. I am turning into Herbs with reference to coats. The coat I ordered from Landsend is on back order so I might not get it till the new year!! But I like the look of it so I'm going to wait and hope it was worth waiting for...

Meanwhile, I have made my first ever purchase form Pepperberry Just couldn't resist this dressy coat 30% off and free delivery... here because I seem to turn up to all these posh do's in my anorak. lame excuse

And I have been looking for a jumper dress for ages and managed to find a code for this one which I have had my eye on for a while, but no Black Friday discount. Anyway, searched the web and managed 10% off and free delivery. Better than nothing...

Thank you, Rose - I am feeling quite a lot better but still not fab. But needs must.

Now I'm 50, it seems I can't work technology. How do I change my nickname on Elfster? Or maybe I've already put it there. I can't tell.

No hangover today, for the first time in five mornings. Bliss.

Herbs, log in, click on Home, click on Welcome [your name], click on edit in Nickname field, put your nickname in there.

MI, your poor love, thinking of you today - all sounds a bit much.

My dear, that model in the second Rose link is looking all akimbo on that pub table! I like the dress though. I must try them for a straight wool tube skirt or if anyone has any ideas?

Thread titles please? Could be related to Christmas/ hiding crepey necks under Father Christmas beards/ crepe wrapping paper/ etc.

Herbs - dont worry - everybody knows who you are. I have to confess a muddle between auriga, alto and wilbur. Plus am not overly sure about Monty - think I've got Molly sorted though (even though she's opted out).

MI - hope you're bearing up.

Here we have been rehearsing the first year primary Christmas panto. I think the teacher is very courageous!

Thinking of you today, MI.

Hatty, I have been in to amend my name with my nickname so you will be able to spot me . Loving the group avatar too. Rather too close for comfort though in my case. Must keep twitching

Sorry I haven't quite caught up - but hope the sickies are feeling better and everyone's hangover has abated.

Thinking of you today, MI

Apparently though Miss Kate of Winslet also wets herself on a trampoline or after a sneezing fit, so we are in good (and relatively young) company.

Hello all. On last bit of journey back after no wifi.

Well, it went as well as could be expected and I am quite surprised - she is responding well to this drug. OTOH it is quite clear (to oncologist, he didn't say this to her) that she wouldn't be able to handle a more toxic kind.

If she continues to respond well and if they get her immune system up (with injections to boost white blood cells) and last but not least if it is an oestrogen-receptive cancer so she can have tablets after these six (6, vi) rounds of chemo...then she will have bought herself some time.

Not, I suspect, much time.

I could have done without my sodding father trying to cry on my shoulder .

Crepeys, I need your advice. I have been offered another teaching slot next term. Onc advises against, saying Flexibility Is Paramount and pointing out how much they do depend on me (not in a "this is your duty" way but it is vv clear that without me they would have been v confused by several things today). DP says oh no you can't put work on hold. I would like to do it but it all gets a bit much juggling everything even without the cancer.

God MI - some very tough choices. I think you risk running yourself into the ground. I'd probably delay the teaching for a while. Personally I'd be unable to focus on the teaching and worry about being called away. Unless, of course, you need something to concentrate on to take your mind off your mum. Depends on what you need to keep sane.

Where's wise Rose when you need some useful advice?

MI, I would decline if possible. The strain of juggling lots of things is great, even without the complication of a sick parent, plus the travel is so wearying on top of the emotional energy required. Letting people down at short notice is also stressful even when one has a cast iron reason.

Can you explain the situation and that you are keen, but circumstances counsel against so you would be keen to take it up again for the summer term? More later but glad mother was tolerating her treatment and sorry about your father

I would also say decline the teaching for next term and then see about it the following one for the same reasons as Monty and Hatty. The teaching does seem to be quite stressful and you could do without that extra stress if you have the stress of your DM, etc.

Glad it was no worse then feared, MI. I think dh would have a point if this was your day job, and a career-defining opportunity. I don't think you should feel you ought to do it as things stand, and given I think you have found it at times stressful and not well paid enough to justify the hassle?...BUT if you want to do it in your gut, and it will provide structure/variety/something solid and absorbing if the going gets tough, then go for it and cut back elsewhere if needs be? Well done on being offered more, whatever you decide (and can you take a few days t mull it over - you must be drained).

Both DP and Dsis clearly think I am mad

Why MI? Do they think you should take the teaching?

I agree with the others, in the current circus you shouldn't.

I shall add my not inconsiderable weight to the argument. Juggling lots of stuff is stressful, teaching is stressful, ill parents are stressful, so the three together is stress cubed.

Does DP by any chance have one, steady, salaried job, and cannot understand the tiring brain whir of the portfolio career?

Adding to the other crepeys - no, MI, don't take on extra work right now. Plenty of time in the future.

The Big C continues to rampage through the lives of crepey nearest and dearest; DM phoned earlier in floods of tears with news that her DSis (only 72) has been diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer. She is in intensive care currently, having had the tumour removed, but it is unknown at this stage what, if any, further treatment she will be offered (or indeed accept). DM lost her DB last year.

MI - cut yourself some slack. (As long as you can afford to in terms of £SD).

Dealing with your mother in what sounds to me like the last days of her life is enough stress without adding anything else to it.

Without wishing to sound awful, you may regret being even more tied up & unable to be with your mother when you look back at this period of your life.

If you don't need to do it, (the job) don't do it.

I was very pleased, many years ago, that I was free enough to be able to spend time with my mother (who drove me wild with rage at times) at the end of her life.

I don't 'know' you at all - I am a new crepey & I hope you don't mind me putting in my penny's worth.

Wise words from all the Crepeys new and old. MI single handed teaching is one of the most stressful things to cancel at short notice. We have few understudies if any as I know to my cost. Cancelling my classes when DDad died was such an added trauma and it complicated everything...and then rearranging them so the clients didn't miss out.
The "unknown" in the terminal DParents situation is so very hard ..one is constantly thinking, should I? Should I travel? Should I plan ahead? Should I commit to this or that? Should I do anything I can't get out of quickly and easily? If you can reduce the stress of that even by a smidgen, it's worth it, so delay the teaching if it'll give you some flexibility and peace in this difficult time. Xxx
CV that does sound grim Your poor DAuntie.

New title? Something Christmassy? The Crepiest Reindeer of all? Crepey Night? Santa Crepey?

Ding Dong Heavily of Thigh?

All I Want for Christmas is Youth?

Crepeys from the Realms of Glory?