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Crepe Fear!

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GiddyGiddyGoat · 11/10/2015 18:13

Ta Da.

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BeachysFlipFlops · 22/10/2015 11:02

My dd failed hers by one mark the first time round as well. She went on the train though, so whether she was angry or not, I missed it. You are SO controlled Stropps, I take my hat off to you multiple times. I would revert to the 'If you are going to act like a toddler, I'm going to treat you like one' thing (which probably wouldn't help at all). Dd1 comes home in 48 hours + driving time, which we are very very excited about. She's sent a list of 'required' meals (after me prompting), most of which seem very high end and non-studenty Grin

I'm feeling very exhausted today - I woke up in a sweat after a proper nightmare at 4am and didn't get back to sleep again. I haven't had a nightmare for ages - not sure what brought it on. Might nap later.

Good luck today Stropps and Crem and hope the outcomes are what you would like.

Rose, let's mini MU next week?

Stropperella · 22/10/2015 12:20

Hmm, well, I booked her a repeat test as soon as we got home, in the spirit of "If at first you don't succeed" etc, but I got no thanks and told that it was pointless her learning to drive anyway etc. I ignored this and took the dog for a walk. Then I come back to find her asleep on the sofa, having eaten half the cakes that she had instructed me to buy as she needed to take them in for her biology class. She says she's not going to biology, so she just ate the cakes and is now going back to sleep. I have not shouted (yet), as I am getting ready for my interview (and the 50 minute drive to get there), but I'm afraid I have cracked and cancelled the test and got my money back. Dh has turned off the wifi.
I'm trying not to cry and trying to think what I need to take with me - prepared it all in a rush last night and I'm not sure everything is present and correct.
If I get this job, I am giving serious thought to asking my mother if I can live with her part-time, as she lives only 5 miles from the school and I'm beginning to doubt that dd and me living together is a good thing.

Blackduck · 22/10/2015 12:52

Oh Stropps :(. Sending you a big { } and hoping you are okay. Focus on the interview - it's important!

motherinferior · 22/10/2015 12:53

We need a Crepey retreat cottage, available to all who need to run screaming from the bosom of their families.

Blackduck · 22/10/2015 13:02

MI don't we just....

bigTillyMint · 22/10/2015 13:26

Stropps, well done for cancelling the test and getting the money back. I think going to live with your DM part time would be no bad thing - gives you some space, your DD some growing-up (or not) time and your DH the opportunity to step up to the markWink

Good Luck for the interview!

motherinferior · 22/10/2015 13:45

And yes well done on cancelling. There's needy and there's taking the wotsitAngry

Rosebag · 22/10/2015 13:58

Stropps DS2 failed his, last Thursday...by one mark. He was like a bear with a sore head and said he couldn't go into school the next day as everyone would laugh at him.... (and he likes school). He's calmed down now and rebooked for a date in November. Now just stay focused on this afternoon for the moment, and face the other stuff afterwards. Flowers and love to you.x

Yay Beachy I will be in touch.... Smile

I have had the most lovely morning, lounging around a coffee/restaurant with my BFF making breakfast stretch into lunch and idling the day away. I am now home and have some ironing to do,(I quite like ironing Blush ), will watch Gareth on player and ya boo sucks to the world. I am at MI's metaphorical Crepey retreat Grin Wine Brew Cake albeit briefly.

Rosebag · 22/10/2015 13:59

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herbaceous · 22/10/2015 14:26

I am in the science museum with a headache, but mercifully few other children. Trying to tempt DS away from screens and towards something Improving.

BeachysFlipFlops · 22/10/2015 14:35

I'm heading for the Imperial War Museum tomorrow, equally with emphasis on 'improving' rather than 'screens'! We might go to Brick Lane as well for vintage stuff.....

Rosebag · 22/10/2015 16:09

Houston....we have lift off...now, we wait....

^This is an automated email. Emails sent to this address will not receive a response.
Dear DS2
We are pleased to let you know that your school, college or centre has sent us your UCAS application, which we received on 22 October 2015^

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BeachysFlipFlops · 22/10/2015 16:20

OMG have I missed the boat.... Was hoping to do dd1's forms next week when she is home ( not that I have a clue what's going on them!)

Rosebag · 22/10/2015 16:26

What...UCAS...nay!!! The deadlines' January....

Auriga · 22/10/2015 16:50

Stropps, sympathy re DD's meltdown and good luck for your interview.

....but don't go & live with your mother unless you work out your terms and boundaries carefully beforehand & probably not even then. Frying pan, fire, etc.

bigTillyMint · 22/10/2015 16:58

Auriga, surely a night a week wouldn't be too bad?

Collymollypuff · 22/10/2015 17:21

Might be better if you could find supported accommodation for dd, Stropps?

hattymattie · 22/10/2015 17:53

We are on the final de final draft of bastard PS before I decamp to the UCAS support thread.

hattymattie · 22/10/2015 17:54

Pressed to soon - how's it gone Stropps?

MrsSchadenfreude · 22/10/2015 18:28

Stropps - I don't do hugs, so I will sympathise madly and give you a manly pat on the back. I would be at screaming point by now, I think. I agree re Crepeys Hideaway. Somewhere warmish, near the sea and with no neighbours.

Addle - I too have a louche wing of the family, who were theatrical, and Great Great Auntie Iris who used to run a very successful upper class brothel near Russell Square, apparently.

Think new job is going to be Demanding. Will be OK once I get into the swing of things, but at the moment, quaking when asked to "write a thinkpiece on what we might do with X country by early December."

Blackduck · 22/10/2015 18:32

Dp in s moment of 'if you won't do it I will' has booked me and ds a two night stay in Venice Grin.
This is, in part, compensation for da missing out on the Sorrento school trip.....

NUFC69 · 22/10/2015 18:54

What lovely gesture from DP, BD. I loved Venice when we went last year.

Stropps, how did you get on with the interview? I can't believe how patient you are with DD, by the way. I think I would have given up with her by now. I also would be tempted to say, 'If you behave like a toddler, I will treat you like a toddler'.

Just about to serve out the Spanish Risotto for dinner - tomorrow it will be McDonald's for lunch at the request of DGS1 as he has an Inset day.

Stropperella · 22/10/2015 18:57

Hello all. Thanks for the sympathy re: dd. I came back at about 5.30pm to find her lying sullenly in bed. Dh said she was previously lying sullenly on the sofa. Has not gone to school, has not done anything. I cannot actually manage to speak to her just now, so angry am I. I cooked a quick supper and ate with dh and ds. She didn't stir from her room, so I'm not going to attempt to approach her. Really, I do feel there are limits and they have, in fact, been reached. I could give you a very, very long list of things that I have gone out of my way to do for her just in the last few days (not least dragging myself to Brum and back after she said she didn't want to go and then changed her mine at the last minute) and in fact I am relentlessly optimistic and put in so much work on her behalf, but there comes a point..

Anyway, I thought the interview went very well but I've no idea whether they will offer me the job. I think they maybe have other candidates but they weren't there today, but I don't really know. I found some of the questions quite amusing and the whole experience nothing like a state school interview at all. I enjoyed myself Grin and, well, despite the commuting probs it will engender, and the fact that it will be a huge challenge for me after 17 years of being a freelance translator and lurking in my loft office, I would really like the job. If I don't get it, I must make sure not to lie sullenly on the sofa snarfing cakes. Please feel free to remind me of this if necessary.

hattymattie · 22/10/2015 19:11

Aww Stropps - I really hope you get it - it sounds as if it would give you a new lease of life. Agree, if you can stay with your mum a couple of nights it would also give you a break from communting and family!

I would have cracked long ago with DD if I were you. You really have the patience of a saint but it sounds like she is being a bit entitled and she needs to understand that actions - like behaving shittily to your mother - have consequences. That you, in fact are human and have feelings as well.

herbaceous · 22/10/2015 19:28

Everything is crossed, Stropps. It would indeed be a new lease of life. And if DD has to manage without you, frankly so be it. I would have reached the end of my tether a long time ago.

In job news this end, mild annoyance. Last week when offered the job, HR woman asked me in to an induction session next Monday. Which is half term. So, I scrabbled round for (expensive) childcare, and booked DS in. Then I got an email from HR woman this afternoon asking if I could come in on Tuesday instead, as 'I really only want to work two days next week, and one of them has to be Tuesday'. I have told her to 'spin on this'. Or words to that effect.

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