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Creme de la Crepe

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MrsSchadenfreude · 22/08/2015 10:52

New thread...

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MollyLair · 30/08/2015 17:51

Wetsuits and actual sea are more Xtreme, Stropps. Plus you shouldn't do that on your own with no-one to rescue you from riptides, sharks, etc.

I think I should've been more mindful/meditative in my swimming instead of thinking "fucking bastard splashing showy-offy crawl get outta my lane you bastard". That kind of thing. Very male dominated, the outdoor pool in wind and rain, and severely competitive.

GiddyGiddyGoat · 30/08/2015 17:58

A big vote here for sea swimming - it is brilliant!
You can't help feeling better after a swim in the sea.. and you don't need anything more than a cozzie and a towel. And it's free.
And did I mention it's brilliant?

MollyLair · 30/08/2015 18:01

Oh, wait, is that a Crepey coach trip to the coast in the offing? I'm in. I loved sea-swimming as a kid and still do it if I can find willing companions.

BeachysFlipFlops · 30/08/2015 18:56

Thanks for all your kind messages - I've have spent most of the day in bed - not, unfortunately in a 21 year old lush sort of way - but trying to trounce this bloody flu. Dh and Dd1 were at work, so I had dd2, ds and his mate here, plus said mates dog.

Very uneventful day generally, except Dylan tried to jump out of the bedroom window this morning (and I don't live in a bungalow) Grin

Pub lunch and walk tomorrow, assuming I'm feeling up to it.......

MollyLair · 30/08/2015 18:59

Oh, Beachy, I missed that you also had flu. Sad And on your birthday! Hope you got some nice pressies, though?

BeachysFlipFlops · 30/08/2015 19:10

Haven't opened them yet but...ssshhhh, I know what one is, because I bought it myself Grin

hattymattie · 30/08/2015 19:17

Beachy - belated happy birthday and I hope you feel better tomorrow. Rotten to be I'll on your birthday.

Here most impressed with DH who has pulled the dent out of the car door with the toilet plunger. Just the scratches to sort now.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 30/08/2015 19:23

I love swimming in the sea and need no excuse to do so. Or anywhere outdoors, but particularly the sea. I used to swim in the Thames as a child. The DDs were horrified. Grin

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wordassociationfootball · 30/08/2015 20:20

Many happy returns Beachy. Hope you're feeling lots better tomorrow.

bigTillyMint · 31/08/2015 07:29

Beachy hope you're feeling better today and have a lovely lunch and walk and pressies!

Swimming in the sea? No thanks - it's way too cold for me! Unless it's the soupy Med or somewhere exotic, of course!

I am at my lovely friends - went out for a delicious Thai meal and long chat last night. Am now contemplating how I am going to find DD and her mates in the sea of muddy revellers at Reading. Her phone died last night and none of the others have oneConfused

BeachysFlipFlops · 31/08/2015 08:18

I hope I didn't give you this flu, Molly. The mini MU day was the first day I felt rough and that seems a loooong time ago now!

But better today and all set for walk and pub in the rain.

I think part of the general malaise yesterday was AF arriving with possibly the most generous present ever received from her, on my significant birthday! How kind.....

Rosebag · 31/08/2015 09:52

Hatty D'ya think a plunger might work on my Crepey flesh Grin

Glad you're a bit better today, Beachy…hope you enjoy today a bit more, and that they all make a fuss of you Wine Cake Flowers

Hope you find DD, Tilly we managed before mobiles but i really don't know how

We were supposed to be going for a family breakfast at a nice Le Pain Quotidien this morning. I am the only one up and dressed Angry

I am two thirds through Maestro The Terrible's DD's coming of age weekend. So far I have been to the religious ceremony, a celebratory tea party and there's a Disco party tonight. I did not expect to be invited at all. I have been a big person and sent her a bouquet of flowers in addition to the gift her her DD. I am finding it all so difficult though,…keeping a grin on my face and making all the small talk. In the second half of the tea party yesterday, they arranged a sing song with everyone but various choir members featured. I felt small and horrible….should be able to rise above it by now...…Sad

Well there's sounds of movement upstairs…

Rosebag · 31/08/2015 09:53

ps Molly do you feel any better?

motherinferior · 31/08/2015 10:23

Ros, you are nicer than I am. Mind you so are most people.

I am feeling knocked out! The gloomy lack of sunshine, plus own AF issues, is making me want to do bugger-all; though sadly not in the setting of last week.SmileSmile

Cremo · 31/08/2015 10:26

Molly and Beachy, feel better soon.
And Rose, that's a lot of small talk to conjure: surely you don't have to do the disco, as well? It's been a long time since I've been to a Bat that hectic( maybe 20 years) but I know the level of expectation involved. Also 'meh' to the singing and ignoring of you. Grr on your behalf.

Off to the delights of a French supermarket today as the weather has given in. I do love a forrin shop, in particular baking ingredients not found at home. Oh and shower products , and er, wine...Grin

Auriga · 31/08/2015 10:35

We're home from a hugely enjoyable & restorative holiday that felt much longer than two weeks. Have been dipping in when wifi (briefly) allowed.

Very happy to see you back, Stropps. Agree with everyone who said DD's freedom to express her bad feelings is a credit to you. If she had to hide them from you it could only make things worse for her. I speak as someone whose DM ruthlessly punished any expression of feeling she didn't like or agree with. It does amaze me how hard it is not to repeat some of her behaviour but we were brought up to think the sky would fall in if we were angry or even reasonably assertive.

Beachy, sorry you were ill for your birthday, hope you can celebrate properly when you feel better. Rose, the weekend sounds like quite an ordeal, is that why you were crying on the phone to ConS? Or is it All Getting A Bit Much Generally?

I managed, even enjoyed, a week with my mother in the Hebrides, which I'd dreaded for many reasons. It involved taking her to see two of her oldest friends, in their 90s. Sitting listening to their conversations gave me a lot of food for thought about the perils of ageing: they each just talked about themselves & showed no interest in anyone else at all (other than as an accessory, eg 'I've got 11 grandchildren').

DD loved seeing her ancestral home and of course she has no unhappy memories or bad associations with it, so her pleasure rubbed off on me Smile and DDog entered a second puppyhood.

MollyLair · 31/08/2015 11:14

That sounds rather lovely, Auriga. And you have been amazingly dutiful.

Re the flu: the worst aspect is that dh is saying it isn't flu because it's not bad enough. It is fucking awful. So I am going back to bed today and he can provide all the food as well as doing all the housework. He is such a wanker.

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MrsSchadenfreude · 31/08/2015 11:24

Go Molly! But will he not come in every five minutes asking inane questions like how many tea bags you put in the pot, and where is the hoover kept, and do you not want to listen to Woman's Hour on the radio? Do you know where the toilet rolls are kept, as the one in the bathroom is nearly finished... And are you going to get up now?

Auriga - that is spot on about the self absorbed elderly. I shouted at my mother on the phone last night - said that a normal person would ring up to find out how there DGD was after an operation, not hang on waiting for a call, and that a normal person didn't use the phone as a weapon but as a two way communication - ie sometimes she might call me. There was silence, and then she started telling me about the Asda bus and what she had bought...

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MollyLair · 31/08/2015 11:36

No, MrsS, he tried that yesterday and I barked at him that I was listening to a Programme. He would never, ever suggest something nice like that I might WANT to listen to Woman's Hour, for he is a wanker.

Self-absorbtion of the elderly - yes; what's that about? Dying brain cells? Sad Or just lack of human interaction?

motherinferior · 31/08/2015 11:39

Molly, I've still not forgiven the friend who told me firmly "you are not depressed" during my vv grim period around 1999: her script was always that she had had horrible things to her and how on earth could I compare my situation to hers, and in any case how could I complain about my family because she had no family (and we'd known each other since we were 16, and she liked my parents Confused)....all in all she felt it was completely justified to assert to someone who was displaying classic depression symptoms that in anyone else they would suggest depression but obviously I couldn't beAngry...

bigTillyMint · 31/08/2015 14:22

Yes, DM is pretty much self-absorbed. Though she did surprise me by remembering to ask about DD's GCSE results.

Managed to pick DD and her mates up from Reading (after waiting in a different carpark) - wet, muddy and tired but they had the best timeSmile

Glad you had a lovely holiday Auriga.

Hope you feel better soon, Molly.

Rose, well done on you for gritting your teeth, but don't do more than you want to.

Cremo, what baking delights have you found en France? My French friends always buy up all the baking stuff here!

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MrsSchadenfreude · 31/08/2015 14:45

Oooh, things I bring back from France in the baking department: the sweetened shredded coconut, caramel syrup, cake decorations (although you can pick up the French brand I have in TK Maxx most of the time, for peanuts), good marzipan... I used to like the Daddy icing sugar in the pink plastic tubs. Can't think of anything else. Other things I bring back: Narta deodorant, the green eau de cologne stick one, Bioderma Micellar Water, eau de cologne, Eau Jeune eau fraiche, back in the grocery department, hot chocolate powder, poivre saveur... wine... more wine... sirops, but you can get Grenadine in Waitrose now.

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bigTillyMint · 31/08/2015 14:50

Ooh I'll have to copy that list for Feb. And then get to a decent supermarche!
Am crossing my fingers that the 4 comedy phone calls in French to the aged couple who are renting out their chalet and the €200 cash I have sent ensures the booking!

Rosebag · 31/08/2015 15:27

Good luck Tilly

That's very interesting…the point about increasing self absorption of the ageing relllies. DSis and I were talking about that very thing the other day….that in the last year or two DM has gone from being a most concerned and empathetic person about everyone else…to rarely asking about anyone…event the DGC. Their world is shrinking I guess, and health problems preoccupy them all the more.

Thanks Cremo I am heartily sick of the endless rounds of Battys and Barmys. This is quite modest tbh…but lots of bitty things over a long weekend. I need to move on about choir and be more grown up about feeling left out. Never was much good at it…. Hmm

Auriga that's admirable..about taking your DM away. Star And lovely that your break really was a break. I burst into tears when ConS called me because I was on the verge…just about everything, especially DDad's decline but lots of other stuff too….. He just had to say one kind word to me and it set me off. We're old friends and often talk about our respective DParents…his are absolutely ancient, housebound, don't live near and he's an only child.He gets tearful about it too. We didn't get much work done, needless to say!

I am going to try on the Nordstrom floaty top I bought a while back. Hopefully how it looks on me will benefit from the weight loss…and I have got Next to send some smart back trousers. I think a disco in a marquee in this crap weather requires more than a strappy cocktail dress…..I'd freeze my tits off Grin

Rosebag · 31/08/2015 15:28

Loving Molly's wanker diatribes…Grin but wish you better.