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Crepeys on the Verge of an Examination Meltdown

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whattodoforthebest2 · 02/06/2015 10:49

Not sure if I should be starting the new thread as I'm the last poster on the old one - is this how it works?

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motherinferior · 13/06/2015 09:13

Not in easily accessible form = pile of scrunched-up receipts when he can be arsed to produce them, BD? Ffs, my accountant makes me fill in a monthly spreadsheet of outgoings from my business account. And I'm a lowly Luddite only responsible for my own budget.0Angry

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 09:45

Glyndebourne sounds like my idea of a total nightmare in every wayBlush I would rather be in the mud with crappy toilets, and that's saying something!

BD, does he have a secret shoe fetish or something?!

cremolafoam · 13/06/2015 10:20

Bloody well done MI! I am in awe of 50 lengths before brekkie!
(Secretly hopes the pool was 2mt longGrin)

We have been rudely woken by a strimmer operating in what felt like under the bed. Not nice. Dd is still planked out. I am going to sit in the garden with the Gruniad and my audiobook. There are some upsides to this broken foot lark.

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 10:24

In the garden, Cremo? Do you have sun today? It is grey again hereSad

motherinferior · 13/06/2015 10:48

It's awful, isn't it, BTM Sad. I was looking forward to sitting in the garden with a glass of wine too.

Stropps, will you be throwing your pants at the stage? And saying casually "oh, my boyfriend's in the band" ?

magimedi · 13/06/2015 11:02

So pleased you enjoyed it, MI. It's the mental kick that I get from a swim that endears me to it so much.

I'll be off for mine this afternoon.

Am also dying to know how long your pool is! The one I swim in is 25M so 40 lengths = 1K, which sounds so good!!

hattymattie · 13/06/2015 11:07

If I did 50 lengths before brekkie I'd have to go back to bed to recover!

MontserratCaballe · 13/06/2015 11:17

Great work on the swimming, MI. I haven't been for ages either - at least a year I reckon. Maybe I will go next week.

Conducted my ladyjog and now about to do the Sally Hansen leg thing. Wish me luck. Will report back.

motherinferior · 13/06/2015 11:26

Normal pool, 25m.

I used to swim a lot.

I may retire with a book now. I've finished writing something slightly boring and was going to write something more interesting but I went to bed late last night and could do with a zizz. Although I shall bear BD's boss in mind and do my vv tedious spreadsheet first.

cremolafoam · 13/06/2015 11:35

Sun and cloud-a bit mixed, but just warm enough to sit out. Grey forecast for later-boo

Dd is up and has agreed to help Dh with the grass. The planets must have moved favourably in the last couple of days. ( whispers- it's a miracle)

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 11:40

Cremo, that's so good!
Could she be a bit like DD (who is like MIL in this respect) who gets all shouty and defensive when she thinks you will be against something/doesn't like/want to do what you are suggesting?

Stropperella · 13/06/2015 11:44

Well done on the swimming, MI. I am partic impressed that you did it before breakfast. I am no good at doing anything strenuous before breakfast. I get all dizzy and weedy.
This morning I am feeling a bit dizzy and weedy anyway, as I have not had enough sleep at all this week and it's all been a bit full-on (by my standards).

Yes, MI, I shall obvs be throwing my best pants at the stage. :) Dh is so chuffed that I thought they were good and that I stayed for the whole thing. He thought I would go home after 20 mins. I now feel pretty bad that I didn't go to a big thing they were playing at a few weeks ago, where they played to about 1000 people. Blush Although in my defence, I was deep in assignment hell at the time and dd was still nuts with exams and would have refused to look after ds.

I was amused to note that black leather biker jackets appeared to be de rigueur for ladies in or associated with the band. The last time I wore a jacket like that, I was still going through my extended "making my parents proud" phase and spending a lot of time riding on the back of a Harley behind a fat bloke with a ZZTop beard. Due to my short, stocky stature and broad shoulders, I cannot rock a biker jacket.

Stropperella · 13/06/2015 11:46

x-posts Crem. That sounds very good! Keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you - hope things staying the way they are now.

lalsy · 13/06/2015 11:55

Crem, this sounds very promising. I do think maybe they sort of hold their breath in the first year - a chance to exhale in safety and comfort of home may give very different perspectives perhaps? No gold medal for me though - dd cleared out on her own - yesterday was getting her back in with so much stuff.

BD - FOI request, perhaps from a mate? Takes 2 mins to do and they do have to go through the motions of showing it will be impossible. You can ask what do they know (or something) website for help, and do it through the site if being public might shake them up?

MI, well done. I wish I was a better swimmer as I do love it - swimming in the sea is usually the high point of my summer.

herbaceous · 13/06/2015 12:18

What the buggery bollocks is going on with the weather? I'd just put all my winter clothes away, and now this.

I'm singing in the Chingford Festival later today, and want nice weather so lots of people will mill about and appreciate our efforts. I was supposed to be going to see MiL (for the first time since she's been diagnosed) but have a sore throat and sniffle, and as she's on chemo is not allowed to be in contact with even the smallest disease.

DP has taken DS, so I am alone. I am going to sneak lots of DS's old, unplayed-with toys out of the sitting room while he's away. Otherwise I can never get rid of anything - if I ask whether I can get rid of, say, a toy pushchair, hideous doll, etc, that he hasn't touched for years he claims he still plays with it and gets all 'hurt'.

MrsSchadenfreude · 13/06/2015 12:29

DD1 has signed up for National Citizen Service (well she has filled in the forms and they are going to contact her). Does anyone have any experience of this and what it involves?

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 13:36

I know, Herbs. We were going to meet friends for a pre-dinner cocktail at a hipster roof-top bar, but have decided to go to a hipster café for cocktails instead. Well, the men will moan and want to go to the pub instead.

And good plan re the toys. I used to do thatWink

MrsS, no experience, but interested to hear what it is/involves.

Stropperella · 13/06/2015 15:21

Breezy, but currently sunny and reasonably warm here. Which is just as well, as it looks like we are off to a (free) outdoor cinema event in the park. Ds has already disappeared off down there, dd meeting up with her group of bffs and coming down and a couple of mum friends are taking the picnic blankets and I must dash to Tesco to get supplies... Fingers crossed the weather holds.

NUFC69 · 13/06/2015 15:22

Herbs, my DD could never throw anything away: I remember her having a tantrum when I wouldn't let her have my old, broken, washing machine in her bedroom. Well done, MI, very impressed with the swimming. Fingers crossed, Crem, that DD keeps it up.

Had a wonderful time in Vancouver yesterday: we hired bikes and rode round Stanley Park and along the beach back, then caught a ferry and did a hop on/hop off cruise round False Creek with lots of stops. Highlight was finishing at Granville Market which is a foodie's dream. Dinner was a Greek meal (we have a huge doggie bag left!). We have woken up to blue skies: off to collect a hire car soon so we can head on.

cremolafoam · 13/06/2015 16:31

Houston we have meltdown.
Dd has been waiting to unleash hell which happened this morning.
She has told Dh that she 'was terrified to come home because she's so afraid of his anger' she then hyperventilated so much she had a panic attack.
The whole thrust of this behaviour is to guilt us into signing the guarantor part of her tenancy agreement without which she is stuck.
I have remained completely calm throughout a series of blackmailing style attacks. I really think her personality is altered to the point of being unrecognisable from yesterday( drugs, influence ) I dunno.
I have told her unless she can reach the point of being reasonable and able to sit down , present the budget and talk sensibly about her reasons for wanting to move in with the bf, we cannot possibly sign anything .. She has spent most of the day wailing that Dh is evil ( sorry what.?)
Finally after persuading her to "come down off her cross" as it were , have a shower and stop shouting, that we think she has already decided and set us up, so she may as well go ahead and do what ever she wants, but we will not act as guarantor for it, or fund it in any way.
She is currently delighted and says she can find another guarantor
It is all maddening and like dealing with a 2 year old child.

The only thing that I'm am frantic abut is her MH , the co-dependence of her relationship with this boy ( his parents really want to talk to you , erm NO!) and her financial security.
She cares not a jot and has no plan for her future.

All this in the space of 3 hours. She has stomped off down the road in a smug flounce.
MI - would it be ok to pm you re that friend you have in Glasgow?
I need a battalion of allies when this all hits the fanSad

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 16:34

Oh Cremo how horrible and worrying for you, but really well done

bigTillyMint · 13/06/2015 16:35

Posted too soon

On standing firm and keeping calm. You said all the right things - I can only hope to do the same if I am ever faced with a similar situation, which is always possible.

FlowersWine

cremolafoam · 13/06/2015 16:44

Thanks BTM .
She has rocked up at my sisters house. I am busy texting everyone I can think of not to be persuaded into acting as guarantor. I so wish I didn't have to do this. ( weeps)
I can't even think of telling my frail parents about this. My dad would just throw money at the problem to make everything lovely again, iykwim

lalsy · 13/06/2015 17:17

Crem Flowers, as BTM said, really good on staying calm, especially with the MH worries as well, thinking of you x.

MrsS, ds came home with the stuff - from memory it is 3 weeks, 2 residential (one fun adventure, one working out the volunteering programme), one at home (doing the vol project in a group), in the summer and then some weekend days iN September. We decided it was too much in September (given sport commitments). It did sound good, tho I found the bumpf both a hard sell and vague which was a bit offputting.

NUFC69 · 13/06/2015 17:23

Crem, didn't want you to think I had read and run. You are doing absolutely the right thing - calm, not shouting. Will be thinking about you and DD and hoping that she comes to her senses. I am afraid they are so intense at that age that everything is difficult. Do try to make sure that no one will act as guarantor. X