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Feeling quite aggressive about ageing

168 replies

FluffyCubs · 25/05/2015 19:43

So

Got a face fulla fillers but I just need radical.
I'm saving for a facelift
And bought a dermastamp
And am now considering ingesting untested c60 to combat ageing, even joined a bit of a cranky forum (longecity)

Anybody else being quite obsessed and stepping beyond creams etc?

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suzannecanthecan · 26/05/2015 15:53

not that I want to make a faustian pact or anything of that nature you understandWink

suzannecanthecan · 26/05/2015 15:57

if everyone looked 30 at 80 it wouldn't be creepy, it would be normal.

People used to have all their teeth pulled out to save the hassle and expense of dental treatment, they might have thought it was weird and creepy to want to hold onto your teeth.
Now we consider it normal to go to the dentist and have 'youthful' teeth.

Ok my analogy isnt watertight but what I'm saying is that 'normal' is a dynamic concept

Floisme · 26/05/2015 15:58

Here's the thing. I'm getting older and (unless Suzanne has come up with a pill to extend my life or good health Grin) I don't see why I should pretend otherwise.

I still enjoy clothes and thinking about my appearance and I still want to look good. But I want to look good on my own terms and for me that doesn't mean trying to look like I'm 30 or even 40. I'm 58 for fucks sake.

I used to love Style and Beauty. I loved the frocks and the hair and even the odd row about handbags but these days all the threads seem to be about ageiing. It's starting to get me down.

florascotia · 26/05/2015 16:00

No, it's nothing whatsoever to with the naturalistic fallacy; I did say very clearly that I thought medical advances that extended life and relieved suffering were a good thing. Being horribly serious, it's a matter of resources and fairness and equality.

Nor is it anything to do with vanity. Existentially speaking, we are formed by our experiences and our surroundings and our chosen responses to them, and by our interactions with others. Our choice of how we present ourselves is also part of who we are. As I said, I'm all for making the best of our appearance, but - just for me (others can do as they like) - I don't want to hide behind a mask. Seems ultimately rather meaningless. That's all.

MitzyLeFrouf · 26/05/2015 16:08

It would be creepy to me. A planet full of people of all ages, but none of them looking a day over 30. Would be most discombobulating. To be honest I think you're overestimating people's desire to retain a youthful appearance.

noddyholder · 26/05/2015 16:18

How old are you? I am 50 soon and pretty vain tbh I had botox a few times and it looked great but then I stopped as I saw a friend starting to look odd after about 7 years looking good with it. I think it is a mind thing and you have to tackle it It is a bugger though especially when you put looks high up the priority scale which you obviously do.

BabyGanoush · 26/05/2015 17:59

Look, if 30 was the oldest anyone would look, the quest would be for people to look 21, or 18, or 15

So let's forget that plan Grin

queenbrunhilda · 26/05/2015 19:00

You have my sympathy. Was feeling OK and 100% set on ageing naturally and gracefully. Then my forehead has unexpectedly developed a permanent lopsided frown (side of my parting - which tells you all you need to know about sun damage...). I look like Herbert Lom in the Pink Panther films. Am trying everything, creams, massage, bits of tape - but now appreciate the appeal of Botox a bit more.

noddyholder · 26/05/2015 19:09

I do the tape

Baddz · 26/05/2015 20:05

Isn't it all a bit mid life crisis?
Mourning what's gone and isn't coming back?
Why shouldn't we look our age?

niminypiminy · 26/05/2015 20:06

Floisme I want to like your post.

I actually don't understand all this stuff about ageing. When I had my first child, at 41, I promised myself I would never be coy about my age, I would never ask anyone 'do I look old', I would always be straight about it and would accept it. I would look in the mirror with my children beside me and like what I saw because that's the me my children see and it's the me they love.

And essentially I've kept to that resolution. I love clothes, I like make-up and hair, I like to look good. But I want to look good as who I am: a woman who's lived quite a lot of life's rich tapestry. I want that richness to be in my face not ironed or bleached or botoxed out.

AnyFucker · 26/05/2015 20:10

goodness me, some of you need to get a (different) hobby

Greengardenpixie · 26/05/2015 20:19

Well sadly i have heard of a young woman going for botox at 25!!! FFS!!!

florascotia · 26/05/2015 20:25

AnyF - Am not sure who you are criticising. If the botox enthusiasts, then live and let live. Otherwise, the subject of enternal youth has engaged philosophers for thousands of years. I think Mumsnet can cope with it for an afternoon or so...

ChablisChic · 26/05/2015 20:27

Niminy - I want to 'like' your post, my sentiments entirely!

suzannecanthecan · 26/05/2015 20:40

surely at worst it's just a harmless self indulgence, you can call it meaningless but so ultimately is life....not to mention absurd and futile

Then again if I can live for long enough I might be around for the singularity, could be entertaining

Greengardenpixie · 26/05/2015 20:59

Its quite frankly being self absorbed imo. I personally try to curb this [ i can become self absorbed] and try and remember that how you look is not the be all and end all and there are far more important and more interesting things to do with the short time that you are on the planet.

ihatethecold · 26/05/2015 21:01

AF.
you've obviously read the thread!
Why be rude??

Lagoonablue · 26/05/2015 21:06

Stay slim, good haircut, dress nicely in trendy but classic stuff. That's my aim. Oh and be well groomed.

noddyholder · 26/05/2015 21:22

I am surprised at AF criticising and suggesting another hobby tbh

noddyholder · 26/05/2015 21:23

I didn't look younger with Botox but did look less knackered which was brilliant I can't lie

AnyFucker · 26/05/2015 21:31

don't be surprised, noddy

I find it hugely sad that women feel they need to do this to themselves to feel even half way ok

why ?

get out there in the fresh air, get a dog, get down the gym, forget spending dead money on making yourself look kinda false (and I am sorry but people who use Botox and fillers do not look good, even if other people also invested in the process tell you so)

liberate yourselves !

Ruralninja · 26/05/2015 21:31

I honestly mean this kindly, but noone but you cares or minds about you looking older. So who is it for? Looking decent for your age and healthy is the goal isn't it?

Sallystyle · 26/05/2015 22:00

I am on the skin care thread and I have loved the changes in my skin because my acne is better and I look healthier. If I get less wrinkles as a result due to the retin A then that is a good bonus but I am ageing, I am meant to age and I am bloody glad that I am getting the chance to age unlike some.

I want to look decent for my age and that is my goal. Botox, fillers etc? nah. I want to be confident in myself and the natural ageing process and own it because it is me, how I am meant to be.

OP by your own words you are obsessed and if you think you might be developing body dysmorphia please see your GP. There is of course nothing wrong with wanting to look your best but to be scared of ageing to the extent you are is not healthy. I understand feeling a bit down about getting older as well but you seem to have taken it to another worrying level.

And I would not take the pill either.

I also find it interesting how so many women find older men more attractive. My husband has aged a lot since we met but he looks better for it imo and I often hear people saying men look better with age. Do they really? or is it just ingrained in us that woman look shit with age and we buy into it?

AgathaF · 26/05/2015 22:00

people who use Botox and fillers do not look good - obviously you're entitled you your opinion. It's a shame you feel the need to say that though. Fillers done well can look good, done badly look awful. But there is no way that you can know everyone who has had them, so you're not really in a position to judge.

I wish women could accept the choices made by others, rather than having to criticise. Up to the individual if they want to feel better or more confident by having fillers, or botox, or dyeing hair, or using make-up, or wearing spanx, or whatever floats your boat. Some do, some don't - nothing wrong with whatever your personal choice is.