How Sexy Do You Dress?

[LillyJames86]

I recently had a new baby this summer and like most new mums I spend my days in comfy and rather shapeless clothing. I am back to my pre-baby weight but I still don’t really feel desirable or sexy nor do I normally have the energy to spend putting on makeup or dressing up. This is a big departure from how I dressed pre-baby and I think that this change from dressing with effort and care to wearing workout clothes everyday has left me feeling unlike myself.

On New Years eve, my dh and I were invited to party and as it was the first night I was spending away from the baby I decided to dress up and put in effort with my hair and makeup. I wore this dress www.selfridges.com/en/celeb-boutique-danielle-bodycon-dress_143-3003429-DANIELLEPINK/ I felt great and like my pre-baby self. It made me realise that maybe I should put in the extra effort in my daily life to look good so that I felt better about myself. It got me thinking - how sexy do you dress on a normal day?

I certainly wouldn’t be wearing clothing like my new years dress on daily basis but was thinking about ‘sexing up’ my daily clothes a little, such as trading my baggy t-shirts for fitted v-neck,wearing high heels more often, not spending my days in scruffy sweats and workout clothes and putting in the effort with my hair and makeup.

How sexy do you dress/how much effort do you put in to what you are wearing/hair and makeup?

Everyday I would not describe myself as sexy, but I e definitely upped my game to groomed.

Nice clothes, well fitted, good accessories, nice make up, gel manicure. That's my basic now.

Today I wore-
Skinny distressed jeans
Pony skin van chelsea boots
Slim fit Breton stripe top
Leather biker
Navy duster coat worn over the top
Fake fur stole
Black cashmere beanie
Karen walker sunnies
Maroon nails
Minimal make up- Mac muted Browns eye palette andancome caramel juicy tube.
Matching underwear
I'm 39, have a 6 and 3 year old.

Also had on my fave yellow twinkly statement necklace/collar thingy

nilby - your outfit sounds fab!

What do you wear on days when you are just hanging out around home? Do you wear makeup and dress up if you are just staying home?

I am constantly freezing so I find myself wearing giant jumpers, and micro fleece sweats when I am home - not the best look!

I don't dress sexy like um Beyoncé, but for everyday wear I have a ban on any kind of sportswear, fleece, trainer, functional clothing type. Rather than wearing large jumpers in the winter I wear slim-fitting, shortish jumper dresses, with tights and boots, or well-cut jeans with fitted cardigans in lovely colours. T-shirts and blouses are all fitted, ditto knitwear.

If you don't have any scruffy, baggy clothes in your cupboard you can't wear them, it's a bit like chocolate biscuits.

Thank you!

I would wear the same at home, except maybe no makeup and no jewellery. I don't have "lounge wear" and unless I'm I'll or really hungover I would never ever stay in my pjs in the day time.

I like to feel put together and want to find myself attractive, I'm a bit vain and a bit shallow like that, but appearances are important to me. I can honestly say I have never seen my mother in anything other than a carefully considered "outfit" with her hair and a swipe of lipstick done. P

I wear lots of quite short print dresses with a big knit jumper over plus a chunky statement necklace and block heeled ankle boots. Not sexy but cute and put together. Or skinny jeans or trousers with my beloved leopard print Converse!

My idea of sexy day dressing is Kim Kardashian style and really wouldn't feel comfortable in anything like that to do the school run... I don't like day cleavage but fitted things are fine! I just avoid sloppy unflattering stuff, have decent handbags and do my hair and makeup. Takes the same amount of time as putting scruffy things on give or take 5 minutes!

OP - are you a bloke?

Everyone on here wears Jeans and boots and a stripey top

Twinkle you are missing out on trainers. they absolutely ROCK and make an outfit WAY less Mumsy

I'm a SAHM at the moment, so I need to be comfortable and practical, but I banned all yoga pants, sports/loungewear or baggy clothing when mine stopped being babies.

I wear a uniform I guess most days - skinny jeans with a fitted sweater / fitted top layered with long fitted cardi / fitted tunic too plus low heeled ankle boots of smart, flat over the knee boots. As Elizabeth Hoover said - there are a few stripey tops in there .

I've invested in a couple of good quality fitted coats (one waterproof Didrickson and one swishier black coat for non-wet weather) and a couple of nice handbags, which make me feel more polished when I go out.

But its the sodding school tun, innit? I'm not going out with my boobs hoisted and my fuck me boots on!

I have been known to dress like a Kim K/Liz Mcdonald mash up on a night out, though....

I cant be doing with trainers or Converse, btw. I KNOW theyre the 'I'm still cool' mum uniform, but theyre just not cool to me. They look trampy unless the trainers are boxfresh and the wearer is skinny. Sorry. Harsh words, but thats what i think.

Trampy because of the weight of a person? Really?

I tend to wear skinnies, nice jumpers or cardi, well fitted T or shirt. Always have nails nice, good underwear and I love my converse. Unfortunately I am not skinny so I am apparently trampy.

converse are the worst sort because
a) Mum uniform
b) look shitty very fast
c) give you feet like Sideshow Bob

You're not making me feel any better about myself Elizabeth ...

lol. I have some but only for summer and they def do this to me.

Just read the thread and I think hmm yes agree with lizzy hoover are you a man OP?

Don't like trainers much but god they are bloody fantastic for sorting out a bad back. So I love them and am dee-lighted they get a thumbs up here.

Trampy as in tarty or like a tramp? Just want to know how to describe my look.

yes - Welcome to Mumsnet OP

I think that elizabethHoover might be on to something, are you a bloke OP?

If you're ebf and just on to weaning then don't forget that its just a phase. you'll have all the time to dress sexy etc later after the 'puke on my neck' phase Don't put too much pressure on yourself OP.

Answering the question, do I dress sexy? don't know. DH likes my figure (still have a mummy tum), and I wear clothes that suit me and my figure rather than anything else.

... I love my converse trainers man! DH & I still sport the ones we had at uni, with the crocodile hole at the back

I love DH in his with his ripped, dirty jeans.

those plus a tightly fitted polo t-shirt.....Amen

I'm not being judgy because I am gorgeous and skinny and not at all trampy myself .

Boyfriend jeans or skinnies with trainers or Converse = a dishevelled look to me. Trainers for doing anything other than sport should be left behind when you reach adulthood, in my honest opinion.

Sorry if that offends! I DID say I veer more towards the Liz McDonald end of the tartometer...