How Sexy Do You Dress?

[LillyJames86]

I recently had a new baby this summer and like most new mums I spend my days in comfy and rather shapeless clothing. I am back to my pre-baby weight but I still don’t really feel desirable or sexy nor do I normally have the energy to spend putting on makeup or dressing up. This is a big departure from how I dressed pre-baby and I think that this change from dressing with effort and care to wearing workout clothes everyday has left me feeling unlike myself.

On New Years eve, my dh and I were invited to party and as it was the first night I was spending away from the baby I decided to dress up and put in effort with my hair and makeup. I wore this dress www.selfridges.com/en/celeb-boutique-danielle-bodycon-dress_143-3003429-DANIELLEPINK/ I felt great and like my pre-baby self. It made me realise that maybe I should put in the extra effort in my daily life to look good so that I felt better about myself. It got me thinking - how sexy do you dress on a normal day?

I certainly wouldn’t be wearing clothing like my new years dress on daily basis but was thinking about ‘sexing up’ my daily clothes a little, such as trading my baggy t-shirts for fitted v-neck,wearing high heels more often, not spending my days in scruffy sweats and workout clothes and putting in the effort with my hair and makeup.

How sexy do you dress/how much effort do you put in to what you are wearing/hair and makeup?

I dress to be cool rather than hot!

That is, I wear clothes I want to wear rather than 'dress sexy'!
Trainers are definitely not mumsy - much less so that a naice ankle boot or my personal boak a leather knee boot with tucked in jeans.

My DH and I have the same pointless conversation every time I get dressed

Me: 'hmm, what shall I wear?'
DH: 'something sexy/tight/that shows off your body'
Me:

I then put on whatever I fancy.

Today I am wearing leather shorts, which sounds a bit Babestation, but I'm wearing them with opaques, Pistols and a slouchy burgundy jumper. So a 'sexy' element, I suppose, but tempered with other, more relaxed items, which I guess is how I try to dress every day. I.e. Mini skirt + flats, leather leggings + plaid shirt, cropped top + high waisted skirt. However, it's not really about looking sexy as much as contemporary and wearing things that flatter/balance my figure. For example, I wear bodycon dresses/cropped tops as I have a very small waist and a relatively flat stomach, not to impress a man.

I think most people go through those post baby wilderness years, I know I did. I hope you find a style that works for you OP.

Maplessglobe those particular ones aren't mumsy you're right, they're Kanye West and they're vile.

I don't like ankle boots either...

That dress is a bit Madonna 1990s cone bra concert outfit.
Kind of.

Thank you for the comments everyone. It is really helpful to read what other people wear on a typical day. You all have inspired me to get out of my workout clothes and wear something more flattering today and I feel all the better for it!

I think part of my problem is that this new life if mine is such a departure from my old life (of course it is!) and spending all day stuck at home and feeling like a mess is not what I am use to. But I have realised that just because I am home all day looking after my new little dd doesn't mean that I can't look nice or spend time on myself!

For the record: No, I am not a man and no I did not look like a hooker on new years eve. I used the word 'sexy' for lack of a better term.

I have been going through a leggings and jumper phase recently as have got a bit chubby and hate the cold but generally I like to wear dresses or short skirts with either patterned or opaque tights or sometimes leggings. I like bodycon type dresses, need to change this a bit at the moment, its my 40th so have decided to treat myself to a few new bits. I also wear make up, but have just started wearing foundation and lipstick as well. OP I love your dress, I bet you looked fab. I agree that just because you are at home, doesn't mean that you cannot look nice, I know after having my first DS I was keen to wear nice clothes and make an effort as it made me feel more like the old me. I don't go out to work as such now(I am self-employed) but still feel that it is important to make an effort.

I don't dress to look or feel sexy, however I do try and dress to suit my body shape, and prefer styles that are fitted and flatter my hourglass figure
For me trainers and sportswear are only for the gym
Casual wear would be jeans or jeggings with a cashmere sweater, mainly boots in winter
I like sweater dresses with opaques and boots to feel a bit more dressy
Smart casual (but no denim) is the rule for work, so fitted trousers with a silk shirt, or dress and jacket combo, I suit wrap dresses, which I will wear with boots if cold
Rarely get very dressed up but higher heels and a more glam dress usually suffices
I very rarely wear any make up, but always have polished nails, appropriate jewellery and try and do my hair well (try being the operative word, wish hairstyling had been taught at school!)

Of course I do, though you would look at me and wonder if it was just your thought, not my intention. My dresses have to fit quit closely but never too right. I might wear slingbacks and red toe nails. My bag will be feminine and perhaps have a chain not a strap. Shoes generally are bought to look stylish and not be too uncomfortable. I know kookie can be very sexy.

AmberNectarine wrote
My DH and I have the same pointless conversation every time I get dressed

Me: 'hmm, what shall I wear?'
DH: 'something sexy/tight/that shows off your body'

This sounds like exactly the conversation I might have with my DH! (He is useful, however, when I need to decide between two different items.)

Like you, I may wear a "sexy" element day to day (e.g. shorts, mini skirt, disco pants) but will tone it down with something else (opaques, slouchy jumper, etc) so I don't look over the top.