Crepeys say Bah Humbug, (it's not Christmas yet)

[beachyhead]

Here we go

Went in to town but shop I wanted wasn't open. I am feeling very tearful and have just had major row with ds over homework and piano practice - apparently all my fault that he can't go out, did point out he'd had a friend over.

Not sure I can do this anymore :(

Ah, BD, so sorry to hear that not only are you feeling poorly, but you're depressed as well. No words of wisdom, but you're not alone. I think we all have the right to feel it's beyond us at times. Is there anyone around who can come and give you a hug and hold your hand for a while? If not, why don't you take yourself off for a nice warm pampering bath? Or do your nails? Basically anything that makes you feel better about yourself. {{{hugs}}}

BD - where is your DH? I always feel I have to fight the battles with the DC's whilst DH skulks behind the laptop or newspaper. It sounds as if you need some reinforcement and for DS it's better coming from a male.

Also - follow NU's advise below.

... advice!

Oh BD, I know how you feel - I have been feeling tearful quite a lot recently and like I can't do it any more. Wednesday night was particularly bad. In my case, DH was sadly making things worse. Teens/tweens ARE very difficult (don't we all know it!) and your DS will be just at the worst possible point of tiredness - just having started in big school and still 4 weeks to Christmas. It may not ease for a bit, but it will get better. And you will learn to stand back and let him face the music at school/piano teachers/wherever. Plus your work is horrid ATM.
What cheered me up on Thursday was going to see a really cheesy American film and simultaneously getting 2 texts with good news from DH and DS. NU is right - look after yourself and have a duvet day if necessary[tea]

I am exhausted after a day at the Christmas Show with a friend - good choice on a wet Sunday! Meanwhile DD is still paintballing and DS now has 2 mates round as his match was also cancelled as the spanking new 3G pitch isn't draining properly!

Sorry to hear about all the crap you're having to put up with BD. If it's any consolation (and it often really is for me) you are so not alone...

I find it all too easy to think that everyone else is enjoying a happy / stress free / calm and kind family life whilst I have to put up with and participate in ridiculous arguments / shouting / swearing and general bad behaviour... We've just all had the most stupid set to whilst trying to go out for lunch - something that was meant to be a treat ffs - that came from nowhere and escalated to WW3 (three, III) in a couple of minutes. A fragile peace is now in place but still. Exhausting and depressing.

I also think that when there are episodes like this it's all too easy to forget all the good behaviour and nice times - they get wiped out in the heat of the moment. Much sympathy. And where is dh in all this?? With us dh lets terrible behaviour wash over him while I have to wade in and then get all the crap from the dss - which make me absolutely furious with him - and so on and so forth... GAH!

Have retired to my bedroom with a cup of tea to sulk and clear out my cupboards.

Crem, are you there?

... And if the weather where you are is anything like it is here then that's quite enough in itself to make you feel depressed.

After giving advice to BD I have just abandoned DD2 as she asked me to read her essay and then when I point out grammar mistakes she argues - so what is the point?? Grrr

Thanks all... DP has waded in ( he's like Hatty's usually and sits behind his computer screen ignoring it all).

It's just all so bloody wearing and I have a monumentally rubbish two weeks at work coming up, including trying to deal with current 'issue' (and an audit where I know we have some erroneous data that we will be picked up on) Until that is resolved things really aren't going to improve much.

I am WFH on Friday and think I might book a GP appointment just to get bloods checked etc.

Weather here was actually fine and a beautiful sunset.

And if you're reading this Herbs then you shouldn't be

QQ

I bought wrapping paper and Nigellas italian cook book (£5) to cheer myself up :)

"I have to put up with and participate in ridiculous arguments / shouting / swearing and general bad behaviour" - QQ you are making me feel much better

oooh pleased to report DD2 came down and have me a hug - exasperating child. Meanwhile she has sent her essay go DD1 at uni to comment upon - as if she didn't already have enough on her plate.

Interestingly the DD's seem to be getting along much better now the elder has gone and can act on a consultancy basis.

... and still no Crem - must have been a good night .

And me .

dd and I used to have a row pretty well every Sunday. I miss her, not those.

BD, if your boy is year 7 - is that right? - both my dc were on their knees by this point.

Yes Y7 and I know it's a big step up, but I also feel we have to nail this homework stuff now before we get any further along...

Should we send out a search part for Cremo?

Party?

Yes, I think you are right BD. Gettinga good routine going now makes it so much easier when they are older. This bit is just tough as everyone is worn out - it will get easier!

Want to know about Crem.....

Can I just say, DS was excellent at doing his homework in Y7 - did it as soon as he got in, before doing anything else. Admittedly he put in the optimum effort rather than the maximum, but still... Now in Y9 he has had numerous detentions for not doing it (and other stuff) and we are having to supervise him more heavily than in Y7. Just saying

Yes where is that party animal Cremo?

Not sure about English school year but I find the year when they are 14 the worst.

For everything Hatty, for everything .

And yeah, BTM, that's the other rule - they surprise us and move the goalposts all the time .

He's not bad at doing it really and doesn't find it that hard, but evenings are not the best time for us (very long days all round) so weekends are best, but had a very full day yesterday, and a sleepover and then he has to be dragged to it.

Hatty, DD had her worst year last year having just turned 14 the July before. DS is going to be 14 in 4 months and I am hoping that this will be his worst year!

I know Lalsy

This term - the autumn term - is far too long and dark and miserable for everyone, let alone Y7s and their mums. They should have Xmas in November. And another jamboree in December.

Sorry you're feeling like this, BD , but I understand too. We all have to take so much ( partic from teens but from other crap too) and do it so well most of the time, that no one can see when we have reached the end of the line. And DP's/DH's make themselves physically and mentally absent. Homework is in my Room 101 together with wasps and the M25. DH had better watch out in case he ends up in there as well.

QQ thanks….even though we are the original family from hell, your comments make me feel less alone, for one.

DS1 was 14 when he had his exclusions and wasn't allowed to go on an extended school journey because out of all his subject teachers, only the PE teacher gave him a clean bill of behavioural health… One teacher told me, if he didn't knuckle down he'd never be any good. Well, he made good. Take heart Crepeys.

Monty you old soak.

What a mare of a day. Grey and chucking it down relentlessly. Managed to work til 3pm and then tea out with the outlaws. I'm not sleeping…I'm waking before 5am every day worrying about facing Maestro on Tuesday. Feck.