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Does anyone else now wince after reading the bra threads on here...

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showtunesgirl · 09/07/2013 13:05

...when encountering people who go: Oh I'm a 34A when they really are most probably not?

I am finding it hard to convince people out of believing their M & S sizes and refer them to the bra gurus fitting guide. But it's so deeply ingrained into common thinking that anything over a D is massive and that they MUST be a 34/36 frame even when they are blatantly smaller than me and I measure as a 32!

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StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 18:45

:) that's definitely what I like to hear notso. It's something that bugs me about M&S-so many people take their daughters there for their first bra fitting and there are so many cases of their fitters getting it wrong, and also making rude or derogatory comments about women's bodies that I just think it's setting girls up to feel uncomfortable about their breasts/bras. And that can turn in to health problems later on - back issues, nerves, neck, mastitis etc etc etc.

You've done your daughter a big favour IMO

IsThatTrue · 13/07/2013 18:56

Right my lovely fitted bra is diffung in horribly between my breasts, everywhere else feels great. Any ideas what is causing this and how I rectify?

StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 19:08

Most of the time its a bra specific issue. Which bra is it, and how close set are your breasts?

IsThatTrue · 13/07/2013 19:56

Left alone they are about 2cm apart, the bra is a Flirtell adele Confused this is so hard

StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 20:11

I think the gore on that looks relatively low for that style of bra, so that could be an issue. With a 2cm gap it's probably not that it's pressing on breast but rather that the wire is pushing on your ribcage. If you have already detagged it you can try bending the wires outwards very slightly just to take the pressure off.

ouryve · 13/07/2013 20:28

I've found out just how stretchy curvy kate bras are!

I ordered a 32FF Lottie and the same size Princess, last week. They did miraculous things to my boobs, but I had awful armpit boobs, and the central gore was nowhere near my chest. The cups were plainly too small. The 32G Lottie that arrived the other day didn't give nearly as good a shape, but at least fitted, with the usual top gape on my long, thin right boob. After one wear, it had stretched so much that I could do it up on the tightest setting. The difference in uplift was quite amazing, though, and there was much less gape.

So, I've found a princess in a 30GG and I shall see how that goes. I might have to wear it backwards for an hour to break it in, mind, since I have dodgy hands and wrists!

If this fits, I think I've found my go to bras!

There's loads of Curvy Kate for less than £15 on Amazon, btw.

StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 20:42

It's brilliant when you find "your" bras. CK are very stretchy and I'd always suggest the lower back size - maybe with an extender for the first hour or two while it grows!

IsThatTrue · 13/07/2013 20:49

Yeah it's detagged it felt great until last night, then this morning it felt like it was bruising my ribs. I'll try bending the wires a bit, any bra recommendations with this in mind?

ouryve · 13/07/2013 21:04

I'll have to invest in an extender, since I'm slowly losing weight, at the moment.

StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 21:16

It's a bit trial and error - I generally find freya and fantasie press less although they aren't quite as strong. Most bravissimo branded are OK on me for that- I love the Betsy Bow, it's one I wear all the time

BookFairy · 13/07/2013 22:12

statistically thank you so much! I went bra shopping at John Lewis and it was such a revelation! There was even a sale :)

StatisticallyChallenged · 13/07/2013 22:59

Did you manage to find something wonderful and well fitted? The John Lewis fitters are generally quite good - a few not so but certainly head and shoulders above the other department stores

BookFairy · 13/07/2013 23:26

I found 5 perfect bras in the sale :) As soon as I put on a 32 DD balconette and scooped I could immediately see that it fitted me perfectly. On my way down Oxford St I kept noticing all the women who were wearing the wrong size!

TondelayoSchwarzkopf · 13/07/2013 23:34

The shaming of Marks & Spencers on here is quite justified. This is kind of off topic but I once went to M&S Marble Arch and asked in the lingerie department where they stocked their suspender belts. "A suspender belt?" the lingerie saleswoman in Mark's & Spencer's flagship store asked. "A suspender belt?" She then went to ask her colleague what that was!

BringOn2014 · 14/07/2013 00:27

Hoping someone can help me with my measurements, ive been wearing 32H and feeling a little tight all over. off to get new bras tomorrow so what size should I be buying? I measure 32, 45. Thanks!

LilBlondePessimist · 14/07/2013 01:11

Hi, I have read this thread in amazement (although haven't got to the end before I was compelled to measure!!) I'm measuring 31/39". What size does that make me? I currently wear a 36D/34DD, but these are nursing bras (if that makes a difference?). Any help would be most appreciated. Thank you xx

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maja00 · 14/07/2013 06:15

So you should be a 30D, is that right?

Maybe try one in that size and see if there's a difference?

LilBlondePessimist · 14/07/2013 07:29

I'm in Aus too and I was led to believe that 30=8, 32=10, 34= 12, 36= 14 etc. at least that's what my uk bras say on the tags.

StatisticallyChallenged · 14/07/2013 07:32

Whilst some shops (M&S) have some quality issues, it's not so much a matter of price and needing to buy a very expensive bra. You can get some fabulous bras at very reasonable prices - admittedly I can't tell you the Australian sources but over here (and they do international delivery) look at www.brastop.co.uk for an idea.

Now, the most likely reason for the 32B feeling too tight is that it was too small in the cup for you. If the cup isn't big enough, then it pulls on the fabric in the back making it feel too tight. So I am around a 30HH, but I can't fasten some of my old 30Gs at all and my 30GGs are unbearably tight.

The easiest way to do it is to go and pick up a 30C/D/DD/E (always better to try a few bigger too as it's easier to spot a cup which is too big than one which is too small) then pop the bra on back to front. It should be fastened on the loosest hook (one nearest the end). The reason for trying it back to front is to isolate the band from the cups so you can check the band is ok. It should feel firm (and will feel tighter than your 34s obviously) but it shouldn't be unbearably tight. If it's awful then you might want to try a 32 in that specific bra but given that you measure 30 I would suggest until you are very sure of your size that with each new bra a 30 is your starting point.

Once you are ok with the back, pop the bra off and put it on. To do this, put your arms through the straps, lean right forward and drops your boobs in to the cups.

Now time to scoop. Reach round and fasten the clips and stand up. All those bumps, lumps, back fat, armpit fat - they get yanked in to the bra! However it only works if A: the back is small enough and b: the cup is big enough. Until you are used to it, stand side on to a mirror. Lean forward, put your right hand inside your left cup, reach round as far as you can and pull/scoop/yank all the flesh/soft tissue that is bumping under or over the back, around the straps or the armpit and haul its ass in to the cup. Repeat at other side. You might need to do it a couple of times (as doing one side knocks the other out slightly)

Now have a look and see how the bra fits. A too small cup will have bulging somewhere - not necessarily in the middle. Depending in your shape you might bulge between the cups, over them, at the armpit or towards the back. If the cup is too small the scoop won't have the desired impact. So any bulging in these areas try a cup size up first.

Australian sizes - according to a couple of websites I have just checked, a 30 is an 8 and the cup sizes are the same. Are you sure a 34A is a 10A - if these charts are right then it would explain why trying an 8B was far too tight as the cups would have been quite a bit smaller than you need.

SorrelForbes · 14/07/2013 08:43

BringOn2014 Try a 32J and maybe a 32HH/32JJ.

LilBlondePessimist Try a 30G/FF and a 32FF/F

Use the guidance a post or two above by StatisticallyChallenged to help you get the band fit right first before sorting the cups.

IsThatTrue · 14/07/2013 09:57

statistically thanks so much, I've bent the wires out slightly in the middle and it is much better! I love having a bra that fits! :)

Jojobump1986 · 14/07/2013 16:00

I'm looking for a reasonably priced nursing bra in 30FF with as little gore as possible. Any recommendations? The ones I'm looking at because I found them on eBay are the Royce Heather & the Panache Alisha but both look to be wider than I'd like in the middle.

StatisticallyChallenged · 14/07/2013 17:52

Unless you are looking at wired bras, I wouldn't worry too much about the gore on nursing bras. The buggers never sit flat anyway - IME anyway. I have freakishly close set boobs but it isn't a problem in non-wired bras as they just don't have the same ability to tack to your body

blobandsnail · 14/07/2013 20:25

This may have already been asked but if I'm honest I can't be bothered to go through 16 pages.

I've done the bra intervention, am now totally in love with my boobs (can't stop touching them!) in a 34G bra.

However I have a bit of a problem, I have a drawer full of bras I will never in a million years fit into (38/36 B's/C's). I don't want to just bin them and I doubt a charity shop would want them. I've heard of charities that recycle bras. Does anyone know of any or have any personal recommendations?