Good luck on your last day MI - hope you have an extra nice bottle of 
ready for tonight. Onwards and upwards, eh?
MrsS, what is it with these gaslighting people? Tis not just a romantic relationship phenomenon, I am finding more and more delusional "it's all your fault" people as I get older. I used to think, surely, surely, they must know they are massively in the wrong, but now I realise they really believe that they can get away with it. My sister is like this and I alternate between being seriously worried about her, totally furious at her, and completely destroyed by some of the things she has said and done. It's exhausting, but I see her very little so I manage. I can't imagine having to handle someone like that every day at work. Massive sympathies and I hope the mediator sees through AB's awfulness. Soon you will be free, at least!
Herbs, hope dh's family is ok after the funeral - look after the surviving siblings if you can as now is the time when people have a collapse and get sick after a shock like that.
BD - I like your ds's thinking, despite him being rude about your wardrobe. If it makes you feel better, I managed to put together a very good (if I say so myself) Mary from The Secret Garden costume for dd just from my own wardrobe, so I am a few hundred years more current than you, but still 100 years out of date...