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And so we Wisely turn away from any summer purchases to Avid thoughts of stylish winter coats. Which means (surely) that the sun will shine, after wool jackets are bought....

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notyummy · 10/07/2012 12:24

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Portia4 · 18/07/2012 08:32

Morning All! Have been trying to catch up with thread for the last week!

Mim sorry that you are having a difficult time with your mum again, my own mum who went to boarding school from the age of 6 is a bit of a cold fish, but I think that she just doesn't know any better, I have tried to have a much warmer relationship with my own Dcs.

Well done on the house find Hopefully, the next part of your life begins....

NY you really do sound like the hostess/ wife with the mostess!

Doña your hols sound great, we spent 3 years in Scandanavia, dd1 was born there, from an S&B perspective, I do remember lots of Gortex and sensible shoes, that were easy to take off when I went indoors!

Ollie oh la la,la la!

I bought a couple of tops in Massimo Dutti, and my beloved navy leather jacket which I spotted before I went awLay was ?80 cheaper in Spain and not in the sale, I also bught a lovely coral blazer.

Congrats on the driving Mim and Amber

Better get to work!

blossoming · 18/07/2012 09:49

Barging in, up to my elbows in treacle for teachers' sticky gingerbread, to say how amazing Shopbop is. Ordered replacement 912s on Monday afternoon and they are here already.

FritziGreenEyes · 18/07/2012 09:57

Morning all! Checking in from museum coffee shop with beautiful view of city skyline. And it's finally a sunny day Smile Wearing my CdC white sleeveless shirt with a three year-old pair of navy Hoss Intropia shorts that got too big two years ago and now fit perfectly. Not sure whether to be Blush or Grin about it as I love them so much: perfect length, cut and colour. Have also dug put my red H&M Hasbeens and plan a brisk walk to the shops a la dona.

amber Well done on passing your test. Will you get a car? I'm very Envy of charity shops selling Bottega Veneta bags. They are my absolute dream bags!!! Maybe I need to start a bag fund.

alwaysrunninginheels · 18/07/2012 09:57

Love the talk of mums and parenting. I often wish I had a shorter temper and was not so frustrated by DS2s difficult nature. But does the fact we are aware of these things mean we try harder? I just hope my children know how much they are loved and wanted. ny mentioned something that hit a cord with me where parents can't remember children's name. My mil and FIL are the same- sometimes it can feel as if you are the only one with inlaws who could forget something as basic as their grand children's names, birthdays and basically show no interest at all. Smirnoff is the love of their lives which I find hard to accept as to the outside world they present an image of normality but it's so far from the truth!!! Makes you more aware of the relationship I and DH hope to have with our children as adults.
On a lighter note I have 5 children today to entertain today and the weather is frankly dreadful(what's new). I may venture to the pool as a source of entertainment but am fearful my swimming costume is so old and unworn it may disintegrate in the water. Would not be a s&b moment.....

FritziGreenEyes · 18/07/2012 10:00

portia Great shopping haul! Good to have you back Smile

emo Do you have any holidays planned soon?

FritziGreenEyes · 18/07/2012 10:04

alwaysrunning You must be very brave to take 5 children swimming! Couldn't you just put them in waterproof clothes and let them run wild outside while you watch them from inside with a cup of tea?

Still trying to get the image of suntanned Mr Ollie speaking fluent French out of my head. Wink

alwaysrunninginheels · 18/07/2012 10:19

fritz I am more than a tad apprehensive and have a freshly baked cookie in my hand and a mug of tea to fortify myself. I fear without an outing the day will be too long as the extra children are here til 7pm and the age variation from 5-10 means I can't get them all to agree on a film at the cinema. Damn this rain....

AmberNectarine · 18/07/2012 11:01

fritzi it was only the theory test, sadly, still have the hurdle of the practical in a couple of months. Probably won't get a car initially, as we have a perfectly serviceable yet distinctly unsexy Vauxhall Astra sat in the garage doing nothing for 80% of the time, but in the future I would like something a bit more exciting!

Am Angry as have been waiting in for NaP delivery, checked online to find they attempted yesterday but left no card. Apparently I was supposed to just guess. The woman on the phone couldn't have given less of a toss if she'd tried. Now will not get it til Friday as an out all day tomorrow. Grrr.

DH in my good books again after coming home early, collecting DS from nursery and bringing me nice chocolates for passing my theory. Well played, DH.

girlsofsummer · 18/07/2012 11:37

TBH Blue and others I dont really think a bit of grumpiness matters if you are loving on the whole. I don't think any of us should feel under pressure to be perfect... nobody is perfect!! But havign said that, sometimes I am a bit too liberal with the shouting. I shouldnt do it, simples!

girlsofsummer · 18/07/2012 11:43

hmm might be useful if I pick out what made my mum such a good mum. I think it was her kindness, unselfishness (at her own expense), general "tuned in-ness" to what was on our minds that really mattered. SHe was quite strict on behaviour and did shout sometimes but not as much as me probably (hard to remember). Mostly she gave out (and still gives out) a feeling of total security and unconditional love and never judges. If one of us was unwell she would sit patiently and stroke our hair until we feel asleep.

SHe didnt work out of the home when I was growing up but she did for my younger sibs. She didnt spend any 1 on 1 time with us as there were too many of us and didnt play with dolls etc (she was always busy with housework etc) but never minded us making forts and other messy stuff. I know I am not as good a mum as she was (working out of home for a start as well as being a grump) but if I could be half as good I would be pleased.

I think if you get the unconditional love part right then you are probably most of the way there.

DonaAna · 18/07/2012 12:29

Yep GoS I agree. I also think being overperfectionistic about motherhood is a mistake - less than perfect is fine. I'm trying to convey to my girls what it is like to be a real woman in the real world - that includes bursts of anger and juggling with career and travel.

Just had a brilliant working morning. Took my computer to a sidewalk cafe and read the entire book MS - plus drank a cup of espresso and ate a napoleon (I'm following the French Women approach, ie, savoring every bite and enjoying life to the max but trying to be smart about it). Then had a very light and summery lunch of new crop potatoes, pickled herring and green salad. Felt very summery in Roxannes, white shirt, green Dayanas and Zatchel. Ample people watching: Bloss, I saw a woman wearing black cropped skinnies, chunky heels, white tee and gray blazer and an amazing raspberry bag. Without the bag the outfit would have been boring and ordinary, with the bag it was sublime.

On my way home went to a couple of boutiques and found a few good quality long sleeved tunic tops for everyday wear (for SS in Scandinavia, for AW in Italy): floral silk cotton (in my favorite colors) cotton coral, navy linen. Looked really good with skinnies - I need longline and dropped waists to keep my proportions right.

Have looked a little at AW clothes but the colors are all wrong for me. I prefer to wait until the winter sales. My winter wardrobe is pretty complete anyway from past seasons - may update it with a few key pieces but do not need anything major. And many of my summer favorites can be worn in winter too.

Marsha what a pain with the washing machine! Ours died when DD1 was born and we had to wait for 2 weeks for the replacement Sad

Portia sensible shoes is my middle name. Love many things about Nordic countries but weather is not one of them.

girlsofsummer · 18/07/2012 12:33

am wearing pink jeans despite grey weather. With leopard tank and navy cardigan, magenta blochs

THinking more on what the magc parenting formula might be, I bet in the case of most of the lovely ladies on here whose mums make having a close & loving mother/daughter relationship difficult its not anything as simple as their mum being too grumpy and shouting sometimes as they were growing up but based on reasons more complicated than that.

MarshaBrady · 18/07/2012 12:56

Love the outfits today GoS and Dona!

I'm hanging out in current elliot floral skinnies and light grey tank. I still love wearing them.

I know horrible having to wait on washing machine. I can get one faster but it's a 6kg rather than 7. And suddenly I am obsessed with kilos and fear that one less will bug me like a half size too small Lanvin.

suburban · 18/07/2012 13:27

Afternoon everyone,

Lovely sounding outfits and mornings Dona / Fritzi / GoS. Peeing down with rain here so am in cashmere and boots.

Please get the boots Blue I love them, but think I am too tall to pull them off for everyday wear. Tops wise I have just ordered this which is v boring, but good value and the sort of thing I live in in the winter.

V impressed with my new Topshop boots nice soft leather and solid heels, but they are too big so need to swap.

Sounds divine where you are Dona I love Scandinavian style. I have these boots in Chocolate for deepest darkest winter and can't recommend them enough. Completely watertight, very snuggly, grippy sole I love them.

Charity shops here can be vg I have a very battered Louis Vuitton handbag and lots of cashmere, but like Hopefully don't have the time to rummage anymore.

I don't think anyone can profess to be a perfect parent as it is such a learning curve, I just try to be as self aware as possible, admitting when I make mistakes etc...

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blue2711 · 18/07/2012 14:02

What could I wear these pink boots with please? I really want to buy them! Am I being ridiculous?!

darknessvisible · 18/07/2012 14:04

Issimma thanks for the news on the Whistles leopard skinnies - disappointing but not unexpected. I splashed out little on some Noppies skinnies here. Might be worth a look at this site if you're struggling to find good skinnies. Did you have your scan today? Did you find out the sex? We can't decide whether or not to find out...

Ollie I'm also a literary snob (something to do with my job Wink) so I'm giving Fifty Shades a miss too. I've just finished this and would highly recommend...

Amber well done on the test and great to hear that your DH is on message now.

Dona loving your pins and your posts! Have you done any more walking in heels practice??

This discussion of motherhood is thought-provoking certainly. Like others I try and do my best and hope to be good enough rather than try to attain perfection (impossible). The thing I need to work on is certainly my patience (or lack thereof).

I have just pinned all the bags that I own on to a board and I'm slightly horrified that some of them are just sitting (in dustbags admittedly), waiting to be used again Blush.

darknessvisible · 18/07/2012 14:05

blue I love those boots too but am stumped as to how/when I'd wear them. Curses!

DonaAna · 18/07/2012 14:07

Blue I'd wear them with sleek all black at night for the drama (probably too dramatic for me - thinking cigarrette pants and a slimline blazer) or blue jeans and a white button down shirt for a casual day look.

Possibly also emerald ciggy trews and, white shirt, white blazer.

Others?

Love them btw.

DonaAna · 18/07/2012 14:10

Might also work with opaques and a minimalist (COS type) dress in the same color (why am I constantly thinking green?). No accessories, neutral nude bag or better yet, no bag.

DonaAna · 18/07/2012 14:18

Darkness I love fellow book snobs! Keep the recommendations coming! (But need to say that I have a weak spot for trashy - once tried to learn Russian by reading the Men are from Mars / women from Venus book - I find men much easier to read than than that book in Cyrillic.) Love good nonfiction and travel writing.

Am thinking about walking around the block in killer heels tonight Grin
Will take DD1 to the local library in Dayanas.

Love this compact city. Saw another local living rock legend - in the art gallery downstairs. Almost the same as having him in my living room...

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darknessvisible · 18/07/2012 14:30

Issimma I'm RC on Pinterest. I hope I'm following you!

Decameron · 18/07/2012 14:30

GoS, totally agree, my parents were very strict (don't think that's a bad thing though I did not appreciate my every move being tracked when I was 16) and my father was quite shouty and impatient, still is the same, but I know he would do anything for us and my mother was the same. They did their best and they loved us, and that's all you can do.

I am going to check out your bags now, Darkness. Thanks for the book recommendation. I enjoyed his previous books.

Yes, Issimma, you owe it to your daughter to get the Gracie.

Cool boots, Blue. I sometimes wish I were a centipede so I could wear all my shoes at once!

Grr that I missed the Acne boots on the outnet, MrsCB. I can get 20% off at My-Wardrobe if I do go for the black.

Glad you are having a great time, Red.

Dh is back to being really busy again and has cancelled his week off next week. FFS!