Avidly gazing at spring/summer looks, while Wisely purchasing caghouls......

[notyummy]

Hi all!

Sorry about the rain/hairdo situation Hopefully.

I am eating G and Bs Mint dark choc as I write Verity.

Bloody cold here. And wet.

this was the outfit I fancied ollie with the green skirt and red shoes. Would need a longer skirt though!

ollie like you I have a red haired child, my DD. Her hair is simply beautifull. Everyone comments on it.

bloss that dress would be amazing on you. Love the way they have styled it.

Bloss -thats dress has yor name all over it. Bit it quick!

Red heads unite Ollie! I was fairly certain I would produce a red head (could just sense it .) Obviously I am a red head and DH isn't, but I knew the red genes would win the tussle I was a surprise when I arrived (red hair, brown eyes) from two brunette, green eyed parents!! Luckily my grandad was a red head or questions might have been asked....

Hello All.

Quickly wanted to say happy belated birthday to Ants.

I am so sorry to hear of your friends baby NSG, dreadful. Some very wise advice given here from Ants and bloss.

Sorry I have not been posting. In truth, (and I feel dreadful for feeling like this when you hear of people like NSG's friends) I am a bit out of sorts at the moment. I am feeling down about the BF situation, despite everyone's assurances. Also we have had some very bad news about our finances which means the next few months will be a real struggle. I don't want to be a misery guts, so am just keeping a low profile here and in RL.

I am sure I'll be back soon! Kisses to you all.

Love Kate's blue boucle jacket. Hope she has some time off to wear it with jeans too.

Sorry for odd link. You have to scroll all the way down the page

NSG - What wise words from Bloss and Ants. A good friend of mine lost a newborn at a few days old, following three previous late miscarriages. I really struggled to find something to say to her that didn't sound trite, obvious or placating except to say that I was thinking about her and her family (which was VERY true; I struggled to sleep for quite a period because I couldn't comprehend the unfairness of it and am welling up now just thinking about what happened. She now has two healthy little boys but her little girl is keenly remembered.) I think the practical suggestions already made are fantastic.

MIM - I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling low. I would have thought that tiredness must be adding to the mix of financial pressures and it is not surprising that things feel a bit much. I am so sorry to hear that the bf issue is still weighing on your mind. I know it is easy for others to say that it isn't the most important thing about how you care for your baby, but it is you that has to feel reconciled. Is there anyone you can talk to in rl about it? Please keep posting when you feel able - it doesn't always have to be lighthearted or S & B related here. There is a lot more here.

MiM, I would echo what NY has said and I am also sending you (((hugs))). Don't be so hard on yourself. I totally understand why breastfeeding your DD is so important to you given DS's allergies but that is a lot of pressure to put on yourself and besides, I bf DD and she still developed a dairy allergy so there are no guarantees. Try and make sure you get out some part of every day and please keep posting if you can, I miss your posts .

MiM I echo NY's wise words. It's really difficult when you are on mat leave, looking after a small baby to get perspective as your world has shrunk so much to just your family. I am sorry to hear about your finances. DH and I had a similar wobble after DD was born- to the extent that he was questioning how many nipple shields/ breast pads I was buying! I know this is trite, but it is true, your money worrys are a blip. Try to see things long term. You may been entering a dry period financially but in the grand scheme of things, say 30 year period of time, it is just a blip.

So sorry too that you are still struggling with BF decision. Despite all the nipple shields and breast pads I mention above I actually stopped BF my DD at 7 weeks. It had just become a misery for the both of us and she much preferred a bottle. Some babies do. I do understand. Please keep telling yourself that she is loved and she is fed so she is happy. And in the grand scheme of things (that theme again!) your lovely DD is not going to care at all when she is a lovely 16 year old whether you BF or FF.

I echo what NY please stay on the thread. I know that we all want to support you.

ny genes are funny old things. My mum is brown, her parents and sister are all white. She is definitely their daughter, so nobody really knows what happened there, though they do all hail from India. I was very surprised to produce a blue-eyed daughter.

MiM sorry to hear things are a struggle ATM, as we've all said before please don't stress about the bf situation, you're doing your absolute best and what more can any of us do than that? Don't be so hard on yourself!!

Hugs for nsg and mim (and anyone else who needs one)

DH in my bad books again - came crashing through the front door at 2am, and clattered about in the kitchen for ages making toast. Acted all wounded when I pointed out it was irritating and immature to get so drunk you are incapable of stealth. Then covered himself in glory by waking both children by shouting something very rude at me. Needless to say he is in the doghouse and very contrite this morning. He is coming home early from work to atone for his sins. To be honest of drinking turned me into a complete halfwit, I'd probably just stop, because we have a similar argument every time he goes out drinking...

NSG, really sorry about your friend's baby. You sound very thoughtful. Several people avoided me after my mum died and I have never felt the same about them since.

Mim, sorry too that you are also feeling down.

Ollie, a woman sitting beside us yesterday asked if the children were all mine and then said, at least you are still smiling. It was funny. Looking back!

Rufus, your childminder sounds clumsy in the extreme! Hope you had a good night. Where did you go?

I love red hair, DD2 was strawberry blonde but has gone darker now. I was hoping she'd stay red.

Apuski, hope your interview goes well. Davina dress and jacket?

Amber, I would be furious! Hope he has a raging hangover. :o

the new Agnes?

Apuski, I have attempted to dress you for your third interview by paying due diligence to your 'colours' ('amateur' alert!), so here goes... grey LKB, lovely green Max Mara if you're feeling adventurous, don't like this next one on the model (looks too big) but could look good on you Ralph Lauren, dark DVF, navy DVF (not sure if you can wear that navy and finally, another navy one LKB.

And on top...

Navy blazer or grey blazer.

Wow pickled you are on fire!! Apuski I think the green max mara would look lovely on you!

MiM - agree with the others. If you can't share how you feel with someone in real life, then just post away on here. Its far better than bottling up how you feel - and we've all probably experienced some of the feelings you mentioned whether it be financial worries or feeling down about something like bf. Be kind to yourself x

notyummy I am blonde and DH has dark brown/grey hair. His Dad had red hair as my sister had reddish blonde hair when younger. We joked throughout the pregnancy about having a red head and when the midwife said 'I can see the babys head' I actually replied with "does he have red hair?" I thought DH was going to leave me there and then - he couldn't believe Id asked that at such a critical time in labour!!!

Half term started today. Had a lovely morning out with DS1 running errands as DS2 had a party to go too. Its Queens Day here on Monday so went and stocked up on orange flags, buntings, badges, tattos (DS1s choice). I will be debuting my Gap orange jumper - but wearing with grey linen scarf to avoid it clashing with my skin! Still doubt the will be any pics of me on fb tho. DH is thrilled that after 6 years of living here, I will finally be wearing orange.

Phew photographer has now been and gone. Was really nice and if nothing else took some really nice pictures of me and DD.
Red you look incredible, great hair and you wouldn't know you were pregnant.

Glad you bought the jumper bloss I love the dress too.. lives vicariously through your luxurious wardrobe...

I am so sorry to hear about your friend NSG it is just awful. I am fortunate not to have any experience of this but I don't think you can do much more than just be there and provide food, company, child care, acknowledgement etc.

Sorry to hear about your woes too MiM. Everything feels magnified when you have a new born. But things can turn around quickly, we had a blip last year and were able to recover quickly and buy a house so you might be surprised. Do stick around for emotional support.

Amber my DP was out last night as well and was very worse for wear on the phone this morning. It is times like these I am quite glad he works away and I won't have to see him til this evening when he has hopefully recovered. Am watching the show about the Steps tour at the moment

Hope Blue is having a nice time at Bicester. I really like 40Bum's floral jeans and white shirt look.

Oh colour experts (and I'm counting you in on that now Ants), I can't wear this fab green t, can I?

Completely agree with decam nsg. About 6 months after my bereavement I saw an old friend who I hadn't seen for a long time. She completely ignored me, in fact I was rushing to catch up with her before it dawned on me that she was ignoring me on purpose. Still smarting about it. Come to think of it, I've edited a lot of my address book since then.
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mim big hugs, please stick around.

Both of your purchases are so you Bloss, hope they live up to expectations . I would love to see you in a bright shortish skirt btw, am sure you would look fab.

Thanks pickled, but not sure it would go with this 40+ face