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My hair looks like shit. What the hell am I going to do?

111 replies

DiddyKnockers · 02/04/2012 20:55

I had my hair cut short 2 weeks ago. I'd been feeling mumsy and frumpy and thought I'd be brave and have my long hair drastically restyled. It just looks so ugly though and I know I won't get used to it. I've taken to wearing baseball caps and bandanas Blush to hide all the clumpy layers at the top and I look foolish.

Hairdresser mentioned extensions but couldn't give me a price - she said somewhere between £400 and £700 Shock. She also said it wouldn't look good because the bonds would be visible.

I look mannish and ugly. I've been thinking of attaching strands of beads to my hair line just so I can scoop the lot back in a ponytail and hide the disaster underneath. I don't care if I look weird or quirky. I need outside the box suggestions here.

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QueenCadbury · 02/04/2012 21:00

No specific advicei'm afraid but are you surfeit looks so bad? Have you had any positive comments from people. Can you go back to the hairdresser and get them to show you exactly how to style it? If you feel mannish can you wear make up or earrings to feel more feminine.
Chin up x

JoyceDivision · 02/04/2012 21:01

ok, if there are clumpy layers all over the top, maybe the cut is a bit 'on trend' that demands daft styling every day rather than a nice pixie cut?

Rather than extensions that a hairdresser has said won't really work, what about getting your hair restyled? Honestly, I have v short hair,I'm no looker and I never wear makeup but I like itand it does look good!

Where abouts are you? I can recommend the salon I use but obv that's no use if you're no where near...

toddlerama · 02/04/2012 21:08

If you have short bits at the top you're trying to hide, maybe cutting more off the length will make it look better?

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DiddyKnockers · 02/04/2012 21:23

[sob]

I'm in Surrey Joyce but can travel to London.

Nobody has said it looks nice. I've had comments like "oooh, aren't you brave" and I've been asked if I regret it Hmm

[gutted]

It really doesn't look nice. My hair is really thick and wiry and I can do nothing with it. It looked shit even when the hairdresser styled it and she just kept saying I would get used to it. I won't!

I've just ordered myself a Ken Paves wig from QVC and it should be here on Wednesday. I am really hopeful about this.

The only good thing to come of this haircut is now everyone can see my neck I've had several people point out a big lump on the left hand side. I've seen the doctor and she's sending me for an ultrasound to see if it's my thyroid gland. The downside of this is that the lump is fucking ugly and I have no reasonable way of hiding it. For this reason I am loathe to go even shorter and then have longer to wait until I can disguise my neck again.

My fingers are crossed that this wig looks the business.

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LineRunner · 02/04/2012 21:26

Jesus, Diddy, a great big Wine from me to you.

Get thee to a decent hairdresser/stylist and ask for help.

I really hope the medical issue gets sorted and you see this a blessing in disguise one day. Smile

Pinkflipflop · 02/04/2012 21:28

It's awful when you hate your hair but look, it's going to grow! In a few weeks it will be longer and perhaps you will be able to tie it back? It's really not the end of the world and if you hadn't got it cut you wouldn't be seeing about the lump.

Can't you put a hairband on it, something nice and sparkly?

JoyceDivision · 02/04/2012 21:31

Ah, Im up in Leedsm, so that's no use! I would maybe start a new thread asking specifically for hairdesser recommendations near o you, so you can find some oe who's good with short hair to help you out...

Are the trendyy little scarves any use for the neck issue at the moment?

Bohica · 02/04/2012 21:31

I bet it doesn't look as bad as you think! Are you brave enough to post a profile pic for 10 minutes?

MummyPocPoc · 02/04/2012 21:33

If you use straighteners on it will that calm it down? Just a thought, I have wavy hair, which has a lot of root lift on top, and the more layers there are the curlier it gets, so I just get short and curly which is not a good look, even if it did suit me.

If u straighten, perhaps that will calm it down a bit?

Short hair does show growth very quickly if that's a help.

FashionEaster · 02/04/2012 21:33

You're head will feely really warm under the wig when it snows on Wednesday[optimistic]

Gapants · 02/04/2012 21:36

OH no poor you! I have hair ishoos and dread going to the hair dressers!

You can loop a long skinny style scarf around your neck to hide the lump for now. Good luck with that, and on the up side, at least you are getting that checked out.

Have you tired straightening your hair to make it look longer?

Can you-
wear a large piar of oversized sunnies to distract from the hair?
wear an alice band/clip/some sort of accessory in yoru hair?
change the parting

piratecat · 02/04/2012 21:37

i am thinking straighteners too, they can be a godsend.

JoyceDivision · 02/04/2012 21:40

Can you carry of retro 50's headscarf, a la amy winehouse? She did look tres cool... Just depends if you're confident enough and have the wardrobe to carry it off...

FashionEaster · 02/04/2012 21:40

Whatabout products like Frizzease and heat protector through the hair, straighten, and clip the fringe to the side?

What about a consult with another hairdresser - just a consult and see if they think something can be done?

MummyPocPoc · 02/04/2012 21:40

Or perhaps a clip on hair piece thing? A "fall" - which is an alice band with hair at the back, but with your own hair at the front may work? Large department stores often have a lot of these things.

pictish · 02/04/2012 21:45

I'm sorry you are so distressed about your hair. I remember crying for two and a half hours once over a bad cut.
Please don't be tempted by a wig. You have already worn hats and bandanas to cover it, and now a wig. People will know it's a wig after the hats and so on. If you don't mind then fine, but I think you'll get more stick for the wig than a bad haircut.

There is nothing else but to get a restyle, or come to terms with it and let it grow.

polyhymnia · 02/04/2012 22:16

If you're near London really suggest you try for a restyle. Can recommend my hairdressers, Charles Worthington in Covent Garden. Jess there is very nice. You can always go for a free consultation before deciding - just phone and book one. I believe Tallulah at Daniel Galvin is also very good. Other people will also have London recommendations.Even if a bit pricier would be worth it as hair is so important to how you feel.

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DiddyKnockers · 02/04/2012 22:55

Oh, you're all so lovely. I feel soothed and calmer after getting some sympathy from you lot.

I don't really care about getting stick over wearing a wig. I can laugh at myself and I don't mind admitting to anyone that, yes it's a wig but it looks better than the calamity it's hiding.

This is the wig I've ordered. Is that the 'fall' thing you mentioned MummyPocPoc or can you link me to something else?

My mum is buying me the wig instead of an Easter Egg Smile. She isn't normally so generous so it's added proof that it really does look shit and I'm not just being paranoid.

I have GHD's, but they are the fat ones for long hair [reminisces] and my hair is too short for them to grab hold of. Anything I try to do styling wise just seems to add root lift and that's the opposite of what I want. I have always had long hair and am clueless as to how to deal with this.

I'll look into salons in London. Covent Garden sounds like it would be out of my price range but I'll give them a call anyway. Thanks polyhymnia.

I've been thinking about 'alternative' solutions but don't really know what's available. I don't care about my hair looking natural, I just desperately need some length as I feel so exposed. I'm considering going to a salon for Afro hair and asking them but I don't know if that's a stupid idea.

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LineRunner · 02/04/2012 23:14

Diddy, show any salon this thread and they should be up for the challenge - for free.

Good luck. You're very witty in the midst of adversity. Smile

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DiddyKnockers · 03/04/2012 00:27

Oh LineRunner, what a great idea. It could be the next MN campaign Grin

I have a confession to make and I'm very worried that you'll all back away from me slowly as I am about to show myself up as a total nutcase twat.

I cut my hair myself.

The hairdresser tried to rescue it the next day but I had really hacked it and she basically gave me the option of a mullet or short back and sides [cries]

This is what happened:

I got very, very drunk on my night out to celebrate my birthday. DS was at his dad's and I came home to an empty flat and felt lonely and bored. There was nothing in the fridge to nibble on so I thought I'd dye my hair to entertain myself. I don't have a shower attachment and couldn't be bothered to run a bath - it was at this point it occurred to me how unhealthy it is for me to be bathing in all these chemical laden hair products.

I decided to attempt to wash my hair over the side of the bath with a jug of water. As I said, I was very, very drunk but I thought I was thinking clearly. I had a brainwave - short hair would be the solution to my hair hassles. I cannot believe I did this, but I remember it so I know I did ... I got the kitchen scissors and with my head upside down I snipped it all off. I then calmly went to bed.

I woke up and when I discovered what I did I found it extremely hard to breathe. My hairdresser was lovely and she did her very best to rescue my hair but it had to go. I am gutted that I did this to myself and I feel so bloody idiotic. I have not touched a drop of booze since and I don't think I ever will again.

I have hidden around the flat for 2 weeks apart from a few mad dashes outside hoping that nobody is looking. I cannot go on like this.

Eventually I will have to confess to everybody what a bloody stupid thing I did. So I don't care about my hair looking natural - I just want it to look better so I can laugh at myself along with everyone else. I can't laugh at myself when I feel so ugly though.

Off to bed now. Please someone reply. I need people to tell me I'm a dickhead and laugh at my stupidity at the moment.

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TheFarSide · 03/04/2012 00:47

Diddy - that is hilarious Grin

QueenCadbury · 03/04/2012 06:58

Oh goodness you poor thing! We've all done stupid things when drunk but not quite such lasting damage Grin

Did you dye it too? What colour is it??

In years to come when you've got long hair again, you'll laugh about it x

Honky · 03/04/2012 07:22

I like your story, it shows you have flair.

Short hair is all about nuance - the cut makes all the difference. How short is it now? If it's thick and wavy, google Audrey Tautou short hair. If straight, Michelle Williams (there are some lovely pictures of her with short but longer than pixie cut hair).

I've had very short hair many times in my life (growing it out now) - sometimes disastrously, sometimes so fantastic that friends and women I worked with went out and had theirs cut shirt too.

It's all about the cut! Go somewhere good and take pics with you.

Gapants · 03/04/2012 08:35

we need a picture

I love that you cut off all your hair, your cutting style could be the NEW MN haircut Grin

Go for gamine, lots of skinny trousers, ballet flats and breton stripe tops. This could be a new you!

porcamiseria · 03/04/2012 09:29

It will grow!!!! in the meantime

nice make up, to make you feel more feminine
ditto earrings
a black hairband? can be your friend
ditto mousse/hair gel to slick bag