Brazilian waxing - first time - nervous!

[dasheranddancer]

Have namechanged for this, sorry
I've met a new man and though he's put no pressure on at all (as would run a mile) and despite usually having somewhat feminist views of unwanted hair - I've decided that just once I'm going to have it all off and see how I like it.
I'm nervous though! Where do I go? Does it matter - lots of places seem to do it. Do I tell them I'm nervous? Do they remove it all right back to the anal region? Will it be someone female? Can I just turn up? Does it matter that I had sex yesterday?
Sorry for all the questions and not even a Friday - any answers gratefully received :)

Milly, and what are those facts? Do you have statistical evidence to hand? Have you ever had a brazillian? I didn't read all the pages on this thread. I can speak from my 10+ years of experience having them without any issue at all. I did, however, get an infection as a result of a dentist's visit.

Basil, I did clearly correct myself when I said that I feel cleaner and that hygiene might have not been the best word. If you read the first couple of pages of this thread, some OP have suggested that women would want to have a brazillian as a result of objectification or desire to please men. Lastly, there is no 'IF' - I did work for a feminist organisation, and a very reputable at that. I don't need lecturing on sociology. Yes, I will agree that I probably wouldn't have had the imagination to invent the brazillian myself, but since its availability, I decided to try it and I like it. What is wrong with making free choices within a cultural context?

Btw, does anyone know if Dasher did go ahead to have her brazillian? I bet she didn't think she was starting such a hot topic.

It's been interesting - on that note I bid you ladies goodnight.

There's nothing wrong with making choices in a cultural context.

There is however, something very wrong with denying that that cultural context exists and getting annoyed when people try and analyse and discuss that cultural context and assuming that any discussion or analysis, implies a contemptuous dismissal of the people making the choices in that cultural context. (Which I'm not accusing you of doing btw, but your first post asserted that having brazilians was nothing to do with society. That appears to me, to be a denial of the existence of cultural contexts. Since then, you have acknowledged cultural contexts etc.)

Good night.

Dinamit, I never mentioned sociology, nor have I read any statistics on the subject.

I am taking the advice of doctors as an authority on this. Sometimes the medical profession is wrong, and that is rightly pointed out, but I don't think the 10 years of waxing is pointing that out. It is along the same lines of my grandmother smoked for 50 years and she never had any health problems. I think if you want to dismiss medical advice, it is up to you to provide the evidence that doctors are wrong.

Again with hair dyes, it is about a minority of people having an extreme reaction to the dye, which is why patch tests are carried out before you get them applied at a hairdressers. It is nothing to do with how long they are on the head for. I haven't got stats for that either; I am going to go with the safety advice on it unless somebody actually provides evidence that the safety advice is a load of nonsense. And somebody saying that they had 10 years of hair dyeing with no adverse reaction wouldn't give me a reason to ignore the safety advice or tell random strangers on the internet to disregard it.

All this stuff about hygeine is a complete red herring.

The issue is that women are, to look sexier, removing a significant indicator of adult female sexuality. The unspoken subtext is that men prefer their women to look pre-pubescent. Or like dolls. Which is as insulting to men as it is to women.

Wow- that was a thread killer!

Hi, I've been providing waxing services to women for the past 20 years. I would advise you to research a therapist in your area who uses hot wax (not strip) preferably Lycon. Much more comfortable and no redness or sensitivity afterwards. A Brazilian is everything off apart from a patch at the front. Hollywood is total. An experienced therapist will make you feel totally relaxed and you'll be surprised how quickly you're chatting and not feeling at all self conscious. In my experience women choose a look that they like. Its very patronising to women to suggest this choice is in some way anti feminist. Surely we're past telling each other what is correct behaviour. We are free to do what ever we like. Choose a look you like do your research and hair grows back in 4 to 6 weeks so don't worry.

I am so shocked at the comments on this thread and hope now we are 6 years down the line that there are more modern views and less judgemental people!.

Im I'm a relationship and before I fell pregnant (and could still see and reach my bits) I would pluck entire bikini line and most of "on top" and just shave the underneath of I wasn't waxing- I'd happily re-grow and partner doesn't care.... since I now have a bloody great bump in the way and can't see my bits at all looking down, I had a Brazilian done at 28 weeks so I felt comfortable going to aqua natal in a swim suit for a start.. I prefer a hairless look always for sex/oral etc as it is how I feel more confident and clean- also feel when you have lots of pubes you get a certain smell when your pregnant in spring/summer and are hot - I imagine maybe even when not pregnant as that is one of the pubic hairs jobs- to hold our scent (apparently)
I will be returning for a Hollywood (ALL) off for the birth so 1. I feel clean 2. I don't feel uncomfortable 3. So they can see everything with ease!!!! 4. So I don't have to be trimmed with scissors by a poor obstetrician to check things for me and most importantly for them and me 5. If I need stitches down there I want them to be able to see lovely and clearly where's needing them, to put them in and I do NOT want any pubic hair stuck in my stitches from blood or whatever else may occur. I also want to be able to keep areas like that clean.

Where is people's common sense? I know plenty friends who just trim and don't wax/shave but still had waxing done for their birth for most of the above reasons (stitches mainly)

It is Bugger all to do with feminist - if you like a bald fanny you like a bald Fanny and if your happy with a hairy one and feel good that way then hip hooray. If your waxing for medical leave of mind then fab. Stop being so judgemental we all feel different I'm different clothes haircuts and pubic hair 🙈🙈🙈