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Brazilian waxing - first time - nervous!

158 replies

dasheranddancer · 03/01/2012 11:52

Have namechanged for this, sorry Blush
I've met a new man and though he's put no pressure on at all (as would run a mile) and despite usually having somewhat feminist views of unwanted hair - I've decided that just once I'm going to have it all off and see how I like it.
I'm nervous though! Where do I go? Does it matter - lots of places seem to do it. Do I tell them I'm nervous? Do they remove it all right back to the anal region? Will it be someone female? Can I just turn up? Does it matter that I had sex yesterday?
Sorry for all the questions and not even a Friday - any answers gratefully received :)

OP posts:
two4one · 04/01/2012 00:01

Never had this done but... why can't you have sex before? And the thing about the tampon with the string cut off? What's that all about???

forkful · 04/01/2012 00:10

And the thing about the tampon with the string cut off? What's that all about??? Confused surely a job for a mooncup if ever I heard one

forkful · 04/01/2012 00:17

my 2p worth -

Missingfriendsandsad · 04/01/2012 00:20

Oh bollocks - how big do you think bacteria are to be filtered out by loose hair? How do you explain that bacteria causes underarm odour which reduces when you have underarm hair removed? jeez. I like removing hair because it makes everything more sensitive and more slippy so sue me.. ITS MY BLOODY HAIR!!!

MillyR · 04/01/2012 01:49

There's a short explanation of the bacterial bit here. The issue seems to be more about the damage done to the skin than the lack of hair:

www.womenshealthmag.com/health/bikini-waxing-dangers

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dasheranddancer · 04/01/2012 14:34

Thanks for all the interesting feedback.
Went this morning - was a bit ouch. Did use mooncup, thanks whoever suggested it. Can't say I find it attractive at the moment, am philosophical about it all. It does feel more sensitive though, so will have to see if that continues later.

I think what I meant about lust was I am chucking all my logical thought out of the window with the addition of thoughts about exciting sex. But, am sure one can have both. I seem to be failing currently!

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swanfall · 04/01/2012 15:34

"Make sure you find a good therapist or there's a risk that they will rip too many layers of skin off"

WHY would you want to do a 'beauty' treatment that involves ripping off skin and ripping out thick hairs from a most sensitive area?

BrissleBabe · 05/01/2012 09:30

DasherandDancer, hope you enjoy it.

I've shaved mine a couple of times upon request but the rewards have been good...men love it...no more pubes stuck between the teeth Grin Grin

HedgeHop · 05/01/2012 15:52

Someone said "this is style and beauty, not feminism". Surely stylish and beautiful people think about things and go their own way which is what I'd think/hope feminism is.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/01/2012 15:56

I think feminism is about countering misogyny and getting women the right to be treated fairly, myself.

Plenty of people post in both sections, though.

seeker · 05/01/2012 15:57

"men love it"

Ick.

AlwaysWild · 05/01/2012 16:05

You know, I've pondered this for a while, but I don't know what the heck people giving oral sex to a woman (or man for that matter) do to get pubic hair in their teeth Confused. I am wise in the ways of oral sex, but surely you're doing something wrong if pubes and gaps in teeth are coming into contact

HedgeHop · 05/01/2012 16:10

LRD - which are surely stylish and beautiful things to do. My granny was a suffragette and what she did and talked about made a big impression on me.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/01/2012 16:16

Erm, yes, it is both stylish and beautiful to be a feminist. But this does not mean that is what feminism is!

I'm not disputing that you're a feminist, just getting fed up of seeing the word made meaningless.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/01/2012 16:19

always - yep, it does rather suggest a bloke who has no clue where he's meant to be, doesn't it!

As well as that, maybe TMI, but I never got why you would want the hairy bit to be more sensitive? I don't have hair growing on my clitoris, and I didn't know anyone did. And it would surely hurt like hell to get it pulled out if you did. Genuinely curious now, though.

HedgeHop · 05/01/2012 16:21

I thought I'd said it was about: 'thinking about things and going their own way', which seems uncontroversial and wasn't intended to negate everything else.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/01/2012 16:25

Ah, I see. As far as I know, that is actually a very big controversy! That was why I responded with so much surprise.

The controversy is that there is what people call 'choice feminism', and my rather uncharitable perspective on it would be that some people think feminism is essentially not about women's liberation of women's rights, but about everyone having the right and the capacity in our society to make perfectly free choices. It's problematic on two counts, firstly because feminism has a definition not to do with choice, which shouldn't IMO be forgotten, and secondly because, sadly, women don't always have free choices and not all free choices are a good thing (eg. murder, rape, etc.).

Sorry, I didn't mean to get into a huge thing on this thread, but hope that explains my comment.

HedgeHop · 05/01/2012 16:33

I agree with you :)

seeker · 05/01/2012 16:34

There's no dispute is there? Removing your pubic hair means that you are buying into a pornographic sensibility. Which is a profoundly anti- feminist thing to do.

Sorry, op, i think your thread has been irrevocably hijacked. And I think I started it. I'm sorry.

AlwaysWild · 05/01/2012 16:38

I wouldn't say it's anti-feminist. Women do what they do in a system that's not of their choosing, and you can't blame individuals for that. Individuals having their pubes taken off because it makes sense with all society's messages might, for them, be an entirely rational thing to do, and isn't the problem itself. The problem lies more widely with structures/society. We all compromise all the time, we live in patriarchy. We'd go mad if we didn't.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 05/01/2012 16:50

I agree with AW here.

seeker · 05/01/2012 17:29

I'm stickipng to anti feminist. It's not as if this is something women are forced into doing. And it's not like it's a long standing cultural tradition in this country.

seeker · 05/01/2012 17:31

The personal is political. [aged crone emoticon]

Victorialucas · 05/01/2012 17:38

Ffs! Next someone will come on saying that waxing etc is pro-feminist because it is giving therapists work- same argument as for strippers/prostitutes. Yeah! The 'freedom' to be in crap underpaid shit (literally) jobs!

AlwaysWild · 05/01/2012 17:53

Oh for sure the personal is political. And for sure removing pubes is not a feminist statement. And for sure I'd say it's not congruent with feminist politics. But individual instances of doing it I wouldn't say are anti feminist themselves. I blame systems not individuals, which comes from the same stable as personal is political feminism.