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Brazilian waxing - first time - nervous!

158 replies

dasheranddancer · 03/01/2012 11:52

Have namechanged for this, sorry Blush
I've met a new man and though he's put no pressure on at all (as would run a mile) and despite usually having somewhat feminist views of unwanted hair - I've decided that just once I'm going to have it all off and see how I like it.
I'm nervous though! Where do I go? Does it matter - lots of places seem to do it. Do I tell them I'm nervous? Do they remove it all right back to the anal region? Will it be someone female? Can I just turn up? Does it matter that I had sex yesterday?
Sorry for all the questions and not even a Friday - any answers gratefully received :)

OP posts:
Fregley · 03/01/2012 20:22

i had it done.
sex - meh, no diff
but i quite like it for aesthetic reasons - think of a sideways hitlers tache - if you have to

didnt have arsehole done though fgs - thats freaky unless you are taking it up the shitter

LRDtheFeministDragon · 03/01/2012 20:25

The OP mentioned her feminist views, though. I assume she did that for a reason.

If you don't usually do anything, you could always trim it and see if you like it like that? I cut mine short once and it was very odd - I realized that the way I'm shaped down there (TMI, but I cannot imagine it's a shock on this thread) I need a nice soft cushion to stop my bits getting chafed on my knickers. It was most uncomfortable, and I can't imagine it'd be nicer without any hair there.

(How's that for purely practical advice - pass muster?)

kingbeat23 · 03/01/2012 20:25

I have had a shaved head, I had it for 3 years, I was 19 and loved it. I didn't do it for sexiness reasons, I did it coz I'm sort sighted nd would rather pay for someone to take it off for me rather than shred my labia to bits. Now I'm skint, I have started using a trimmer instead.

I was telling her not to have sex before or after as vefore is a bit much for the therapist (see above quote) and after for her as she has no idea of what type of reaction she might have to the procedure, not being waxed before.

So, to recap, personal choice and freedom of choice is a wonderful thing on mn, is it not?

BasilRathbone · 03/01/2012 20:35

Ah the Elizabethans didn't shave their whole head - just the top of it, to give themselves an exaggerated high forehead (tefal ad springs to mind)

Nobody is saying the OP doesn't have freedom of choice. I don't see a picket line outside any wax salons...

LRDtheFeministDragon · 03/01/2012 20:38

Well, if we're being pedantic, they plucked it.

At least with your forehead the only thing you're likely to slip and cut by accident is your eyebrow.

Spuddybean · 03/01/2012 20:49

i have it done and they do around the anal area too. If i keep the front hairy and still want the back done i ask for and 'extended bikini'

Also when i studied it at uni there was an argument that porn reflects what is fashionable - not dictates it. ie when you look at 80's porn there are big perms and hairy fanjos (they had waxing and razors then too). Porn is a mirror of tastes as it were.

Apparently the actresses just kept turning up like it so they went with it - and their reasons, yes, were hygiene (apparently).

seeker · 03/01/2012 20:49

"Seeker - I do various things to make myself look more 'attractive' including threading, waxing, painting nails, dyeing my hair, putting on make up etc - do you not do any of these or is it just brazilians that you draw the line at?"

Well, which of these makes you look like a child or a porn star? A clue- it's not painted fingernails............

kingbeat23 · 03/01/2012 20:50

Oh in that case basil I'm glad I didn't live in Liz's time as I am of the naturally afflicted high forehead brigade, however, I did have other fantastically crap hair styles including mohican, an exclamation mark, a convoy cut and a little bit left at the front and all the rest off.....maybe I just have a thing for cutting my hair into random shapes? :)

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/01/2012 21:00

Well I don't look like a child as I have still have hair - its a brazilian not a hollywood and anyway - my body has changed and most certainly does not resemble that of a little girl in that area.

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/01/2012 21:02

Now am I making this up or have some cultures routinely removed pretty much all their body hair through sugaring for centuries?

Fregley · 03/01/2012 21:02

its yer saggy pouch of douglas isnt it mrs cb ;)

LeBOF · 03/01/2012 21:02

I don't think that's true about fashion, pubes and porn. It was the competition and proliferation of porn as we moved towards a digital age which drove the industry to greater explicitness: hairlessness has become the norm in porn to provide more visual clarity of women's genitals as close-up shots have become the convention.

Do you think genital trimming (labiaplasty) predates porn too- that the actresses just happened to show up with a few bits lopped off? Because that's not true either.

BasilRathbone · 03/01/2012 21:03

OMG they plucked it?

How much agony was that?

And how effing long must it have taken?

I bet they got servants to do it.

MillyR · 03/01/2012 21:04

If the OP is from another culture where they have been removing body hair for centuries, I don't think she would be on here asking for advice about what to do.

Incidentally, I do know someobody who plucks their forehead in the Elizabethan style. She is a bit of an eccentric though.

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/01/2012 21:06

Well know I realise that Milly - but was just ruminating on why it was done really, ie, not being for porn purposes. But remembered reading it in some crappy novel as a teenager so wasn't sure if it was true really.

I presume the OP is doing it because it feels a bit naughty and compared to some of the stuff that people do - well its pretty tame isn't it.

kingbeat23 · 03/01/2012 21:08

Apparently, ash was used in place of hot wax, made into a paste and hardened. I asked some of the girls at work after a discussion here got me thinking about the relevance of porn and hair removal.

I had wondered about other cultures where the removal of all body hair for religious purposes on men and women and how it was done.

LeBOF · 03/01/2012 21:10

I was watching Gilda yesterday, and apparently Rita Hayworth was ordered by the studio to have painful electrolysis to her hairline to widen it, as she looked 'too ethnic'. A dye-job and a namechange from Margarita Cansino later, and hey presto, a screen goddess is born.

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/01/2012 21:13

That is interesting BOF.

When I was at university back in early 90's there was definitely a fad for shaving off pubic hair then and that was before the onset of digital porn really and that great icon of literature Jilly Cooper always had her heroines shaving and trimming back in the 70's.

BasilRathbone · 03/01/2012 21:13

OMG

She looks totally different doesn't she?

What hard work

MrsCampbellBlack · 03/01/2012 21:14

They worked hard on their appearance didn't they - Joan Crawford had a terrifying regime to maintain her look.

Victorialucas · 03/01/2012 21:16

Midnight- actually small cuts caused by waxing do increase the risk of contracting an STI.

LeBOF · 03/01/2012 21:29

I might have to look up some old Joan Crawford movies- I haven't seen many. I do know though that the studio ran a competition for the public to rename her; the runner-up suggestion was Joan Arden . Her original name was Lucille LeSeur though, which sounds much more movie starrish to my ears. Weird, huh?

Haziedoll · 03/01/2012 22:58

My friend is the same age as me (39) and is an ex beautician, she said that quite a lot of the therapists around our age are changing career because of all the fanjo waxing. She said when she started in the early 90s it was all manicures and facial but these days most of the work is intimate waxing.

BasilRathbone · 03/01/2012 22:59

It can't be a pleasant way of earning your living.

Marginally worse than dentistry

WhatstheScenario · 03/01/2012 23:05

Grim, sorry. I know you didnt ask, OP,but I fele compelled to say.

I once got chatting to a sexual health nurse while having a check-up and she said the rise in women whipping off their puci hair is directly related to the rise in bacterial vaginosis. No pubes = no protection from bacteria.

Ick.