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blossoming · 02/02/2011 20:50

New thread..

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blossoming · 10/02/2011 14:51

Oh sorry, x posted there roary. Tricky indeed. Is it a much better job for your dh?

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roary · 10/02/2011 14:56

Bloss - yes. it's all top-secret just now but it would be a totally amazing opportunity for him. Real once-in-a-lifetime and for most people probably never stuff.

TheAllNewOoooh · 10/02/2011 15:00

Bloss I've been thinking about you all morning and all the others (just too many) who have suffered losses on this thread. I can't get my head around what you have all been through and I think that you are amazing - the way you still have room in your heart and mind to think of others at this time. Kind, and generous and strong. Very lovely W&A ladies.

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 15:05

Roary, it's an awfully big move for just two years. So, it's kind of your dream job vs his dream job . Did you move to were you are now for your job? Do you feel that you have put down roots here? Is there any chance of a similar position coming up for your DH closer to where you are now? I totally understand your reservations re: ILs btw. Tough decision but I wouldn't let the fact that you have a job offer there influence your opinion IYKWIM. Feel free to ignore my questions, it just I am interested as we have just gone through a big job-changing scenario here.

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 15:06

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roary · 10/02/2011 15:12

Pickled am happy to answer questions - the joys of a 2-career family. The job would permanent but with possibility of transfer to elsewhere in Australia after 2 years. We would not return to the UK, probably not ever and certainly not till our kids were grown up. We had always planned to go back to Australia, and we did come here for my job (although it turned out pretty darn well for dh!!)

It is indeed Dream Job vs Dream Job. We have kind of gotten past all that. Kind of as it still irks me a bit (he is very risk averse and there is a chance this opportunity would come up again, but only a chance. This is a bird int he hand).

We do have roots here, but tbh, not a lot of close friends our own age. We are both young to have our jobs and colleagues are much older. We have other young parent friends but would presumably meet similar if we moved, and that's a case for moving now rather than when DCs are schoolaged. I have a girlfriend visiting for 3 months,staying nearby, and it's bliss because it's the first time I've had a close friend nearby since she left. (That sounds really pathetic, but you all know the difference b/w your mummy friends who are friends by circumstance and your soul mate friends). So we would not be leaving a tightknit friendship group.

How did you sort your job dilemma?

No word from Notyummy today? Hope the little yummy is ok!

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 15:43

It's so tough roary, having babies can be compromising enough on a woman's career.

Could you perhaps 'keep your hand in' with the work you do here whilst looking for something more inspirational in Oz.

I think you are in Academia although I don't know what field but surely most research is fairly portable - non?

My DH, also risk averse, has decided to move from a very comfortable job with a well respected company to a more exciting prospect Shock.

My lovely clog boots have arrived - they're perfect Grin.

roary · 10/02/2011 15:45

I am in academia - will PM you so as not to exhaust the others!

Bonsoir · 10/02/2011 15:53

roary - by coincidence, I was talking to my friend from Perth this morning about her family's next move! My friend and her DH came to Paris two and a half years ago on a sort of whim, with her DH's portable-and-lucrative Envy Envy job, and they put their two daughters in the same school as my DD and thought they'd stay two years before returning to Perth. Only now another job option has come up for my friend's DH, in another continental European location, and they are definitely going for it. My friend and her DH both have their families in Perth and feel full of remorse? guilt? to be so far away from them, but my friend is quite clear that Perth is a difficult place to be, so far from the ROW.

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 16:24

About my clog boots, DS1 said they made me look like a mum and that they were like wellies Grin. I still love them.

I'm off to click on all the bag links now. OWW you could do what I did and buy a 'vintage' Laura Ashley 50's inspired one for pennies on Ebay.

OK, so who got the Whistles dress then??

blossoming · 10/02/2011 16:31

Thanks ooh. I'm feeling a bit drained. Will be better post Jillian later.

ollie, I quite liked the second apple link you sent. So not me and my safe classic style! I use my chanel as a clutch. Not helpful sorry!

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MarshaBrady · 10/02/2011 16:37

Roary that is very difficult. If it wasn't such a once in a lifetime thing for your dh I'd say current dream job top trumps one on the other side of the world. But as you say it is.... So very, very hard decision.

Pickled was that the travelling one? (hope I have remembered that correctly...)

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 16:42

Yes Marsha, travelling combined with working from home, so it should all even out, I hope. He's got to work out his 3 months notice so no changes for a while.

OllieWollieWoo · 10/02/2011 16:47

Bloss - same here - I'm not quirky in the slightest but like the bag! Roary - cute bags on that link! At the risk of sounding like my Mum, it may help "jazz up" my dress which is v plain (apart from the cuffs!).

Re your potential move Roray - its a tough decision - not that you need me to tell you that! Have you done a pros and cons list yet - helps me with big decisions.

Viewing house tommorrow - DH thinks its just too expensive but I know I will fall in love as soon as I set foot inside the front door. Will take sneaky pics and use house as a standard by which to assess others in the future!

OllieWollieWoo · 10/02/2011 16:50

Oh, meant to ask yesterday. Which of you are sending your wedding pics to WIT - fess up?
(Much as I love mine - sigh - I won't!)

MarshaBrady · 10/02/2011 16:51

That sounds nice pickled... Have him around more, then some travel. Think presents, meet him somewhere for the weekend Smile.

redllamayellowllama · 10/02/2011 17:11

Wow Roary. exciting times. I think DCs still being young is such a good time to grab opportunities such as this one. We want to go abroad for a few years before DS is 6, I feel like it is at that point that children need a sense of 'rootedness' (only speaking from my experience of having been moved around). Lots for you to weight up - these things are so rarely cut and dry, hey?

Pickled, there is still a day left! My checking is really bordering on the obsessive now.

Am toying with getting these trousers. Would be good with Lottas I think.

Plum, love the story of George!

blossoming · 10/02/2011 18:19

I know I'm behind but I'm going to need some skinny combats too.

Have just baked a cake anyway.

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blossoming · 10/02/2011 19:10

Anyone tried the Gap skinny cargo? to wear with these in the grey.

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petitdonkey · 10/02/2011 19:24

I bought the NW3 Camouflage Blouse today using my £25 Hobbs card. Had gone in to pick up a scarf or something but you can't use it on accessories. Was a bit of a mad purchase for me but I thought that unbuttoned with a cami and tucked into jeans or chinos it might be nice.

I also picked up this in lime after watching Mary Portas last night and feeling very Envy that she had three different Louis Vuitton scarves!!! IT's really very nice in the flesh!

pickledsiblings · 10/02/2011 19:29

Roary, Mrs J, gap blazer.

Bloss, they look nice, as did the Uniqlo ones petite linked to.

notyummy · 10/02/2011 20:21

Sad Back in hospital with DD. Temp went back up and she was in a lot of pain. Pain now controlled with meds but docs are aware that isn't treating underlining issues. Just had another x ray and now staff taking about a 5 day course of intravenous meds and a chest drain. Poor dd.

hf128219 · 10/02/2011 20:22

Bloss Just to say I was thinking of you and your daughter today.

hf128219 · 10/02/2011 20:28

NY Oh no, thinking of you.

traceybath · 10/02/2011 20:33

Oh no NY! Are your parents still around?

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