My 16 year soon to be 17 year old step daughter is just making our home so miserable.
she has lived with my husband and I since she was 10 and previous to that my husbands mum
She’s had no contact with her biological mother since 8 years….
we have always over compensated and she’s always had everything she wants.
I struggled with infertility for years and was blessed with my baby boy late May after a few rounds of IVF. When we told her she was hysterical crying awful.
Ive always treated her as daughter everyone knows me as her mum. My family have all welcomed her.
NYE just gone at a family party when people was asking her if she was excited she was rude and said no she don’t want me to have the baby etc.
We have included her as much as we can gender scan, she was the first person to meet him when he was born.
i thought we had turned a corner but she ignores the baby when it’s just me and her at home. She’s off for the summer….
She has always been rude and abrupt but this is another level. We have stopped her disposal money as she was very spoilt.
She can’t keep friends this has always been the way since young. She talks over people and belittles them and then wonders why she is on her own it’s sad and I’ve always explained why this maybe however she can’t see any error in her ways.
Aged 11 when she started secondary school, within the space of 6 months she went to school covered in fake blood, faked and overdose to her friends, faked and eating disorder not normal child behaviour at all.
Then she made a friend group which was fabulous however they all self harmed, she was then stealing money and other stuff out the house.
I had been in the school several times at this point and got her cancelling to which after the 3rd session she wanted to quit because she actually said in front of me and her teachers she does it with friends for attention…
back to the baby - when people are in the house visiting etc she will be all over the baby take him off other people etc
when it’s me and her she does not give him the time of day at all. I have tried a number of things like can you watch him quick whilst I hoover etc. she calls me after a minute.
she also says when her dad comes home from work the baby has been crying all day - he hasn’t ?
she had a set of drawers in her room that have been empty for months so I said when she’s away on holiday (this week ) I will put mine in as my husband and I the baby are fighting for space in our bedroom. I’ve gone to do it and she’s filled them up…
I was gifted a food blender thing for Christmas which was being saved for when the baby was eating food. This has been discussed on several occasions literally 4 weeks prior. I went to visit family on the day I left she’s using it.
My friend bumped in to her and asked how the baby was she rolled her eyes said friend - embarrassing 😢
I know the above sounds like minor things but she’s due back tomorrow and I’m dreading it I feel so anxious.
I have tried to discuss with my husband and said about the drawers and the smoothie maker etc and he thinks I’m just being silly. When we are all here she’s in her bedroom comes down the stairs gets food / drink goes back up does not say hello etc. when we say why don’t you speak to us she says we should speak to her first!!!
I don’t know if my baby is safe around her. She keeps carrying him in to the garden on the patio and holding him with 1 hand I explain his more mobile now and keeps moving you need to hold him with 2 hands she does not listen