My son is almost two years old and is very loved. He has my husbands mum and dad in his life. He also has my parents, both of which remarried when I was 22. So I’m not that close to my step dad or step mum. When I refer to them to my son I just use their names because that’s what feels comfortable but I’m getting the sense my step mum wishes to be more but thinks I’m not up for that. I know if my son called my step mum “grandma” or whatever my mum would be put out. I hate all the politics and wish I didn’t have to deal with it. Is that selfish? I just wondered what other people do.