Break down

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This weekend I hit my lowest in many many years and I broke down. I couldn't talk or think or do anything.
After initially blending really well the last 6-12 months have drained the life out of me. Sc has been consistently ignoring me and it came to a head this weekend. I felt my weekends with my own Children were being ruined and I had enough.
I suffer from long term mental health issues, ptsd, anxiety and lots more. In my head now sc has built up to being a huge trigger for my mental health. It's so hard as people are so quick to judge and I can't openly talk about my struggles.
The answer is not to leave my dh before anyone suggests it. We are very much in love and we are working hard to navigate all this and to keep everyone as happy as can be.
I just needed to get this off my chest.
The doctor is increasing my medications and I'm trying to put my mental health first.

How are you doing Op? Is your health any better?

I know you didn’t want this old post dug up again but old posts can be really useful. You can either see how far you have come (which is great when improvements are slow and so you don’t notice day by day) or you can see how far you haven’t come and so gain impetus to change things.

Thank you for taking the time to ask how I am.
In many ways I’m doing better. I’ve prioritised mine and the kids happiness more so most Saturdays when sc is here I take mine out for a few hours maybe to the cinema or a park, so we get quality time just us.
In other ways though I’m massively struggling. 4 weeks ago my eldest was diagnosed with heart disease and then 2 days ago my son was diagnosed with a benign brain tumour which may be causing seizures. My youngest already has brain damage and epilepsy which I’ve come to terms with but now these health issues with the older two have really thrown me off

That sounds incredibly tough although I’m glad that things are easier with your stepchild. Will you still be able to take your kids out with everyone being so poorly? Is your husband being supportive and making things easier for you?

My dh is amazing. He does loads around the house without being asked, he helps with appointments and school pick ups etc.
We will still be able to get out and enjoy I just need to keep a closer eye on them.

Has he also stepped up with his own child?

Yes he has. He takes him out on his own more and reminds him to be polite etc.

How does your dh collect his son from school 30 mins away if he doesn’t drive and it’s a 2 hour bus journey?

He catches the bus over there, spends some time with him, drops him home and catches the bus back.
If it’s his night staying here then dh brings him back on the bus too.

Reminds him to be polite? I wasn’t talking about whether he was polite! What he has he done to repair the damage he did to his son?

so The child does a 2 hour bus ride after school

and then a 2 hour bus journey in the morning to get to school

seriously?

No that’s not what I’ve said. He stays here every other weekend. On those weekends he catches the bus back with his dad on a Friday and I drive him home on Sunday.
During term time my husband travels to spend a few hours with him and comes home on the bus on his own. School holidays then he’s here extra. So the times he’s with us my husband collects him and I drive him home (with my dh).

Sorry what damage 🤷‍♀️

We were doing it but exw wasn't happy that sc ended up 10 mins late to school on the days with us. So dh had to compromise to collecting sc from school that day and dropping them home in time for bed.

too right. No child should have to do a 2 hour bus ride home and then 2 hour bus ride in the morning to school, let alone a little one aged 7

Says it all

I was driving him both ways at the time which is half an hour. I wouldn’t expect any child to do 2 hour journey before school. I’m not a witch

This isn't related to the blended aspect family but I see that you mention ptsd. Have you tried EMDR? It doesn't always work but when it does it is life changing. It cured my cptsd and has transformed my life. Please do talk to your GP about it if you havent already tried it.

Why on earth did you husband, unemployed due to ill health and doesn’t drive… move a 2 hour bus ride from his only son.

i mean, just unfathomable what people do for new partners

I heard about it a long time ago but I’ve not looked into it. I’ll speak to my GP and see why they say. Thanks me for this.