Are we being unreasonable?

[GreerGarrisonWinbury]

DP has DC EOW and half the school holidays.
4 years ago DP’s ex moved 40 miles away to be near her family and the DC go to school there.
DP’s ex has just given birth and she wants us to take the DC so she can recover.
It isn’t our fault she decided to have another baby.
Earliest drop off at school is 8am and latest pick up is 5pm.
If I do the drop off it is 120 mile round trip for me from home to school and then to work.
Is it unreasonable for us to say no, this does not work for us during term time, with our working hours and leave has already been booked for half the school holidays.
We have said are happy to collect the DCs every Friday for the weekend and return them to school on the Monday morning but during the week just doesn’t work.
DP is stressed because he wants to see DC as much as he can but logistically it doesn’t work and ex keeps calling.

They aren’t close at all. He told her not to talk to me in that way. I wrote previously that they are 7 and 9.

Do you mean OP and her DH as a couple should offer her money, or OP personally?

We have the latest photos. The baby no longer has tubes etc. it’s been a week and a half.

She was talking to the children. Not DP.

OP ignore @MyQuirkyDreamer who is clearly just trying to get a rise out of you. You aren't being unreasonable in this situation, or any of the other negative things a PP stated about you.

You're quite literally making shit up here... How about you actually read the thread properly?

Yes she called clearly to talk to her children not her ex. Ergo you've literally made up a situation that fits your narrative....

'Mean, pinched and bitter'? Try justifiably irritated with a woman who wants things all her own way, including moving her kids away from their father then deciding she can't be arsed with them for a while just because she's had another one. (Imagine how this could make the poor kids feel.) And this is someone who has told OP to fuck off, let's not forget, and has now changed her tune and wants favours from her. Does she really sound like a pleasant person to you, because she certainly doesn't to me.

What does EOW mean.

So she is asking you and the DC's father to step up for just one week? Just suck it up and do it!!

Calling her kids isn’t a problem. Disrespecting the OP is the problem.

they have offered to do what they can, every weekend for a month, that’s what they can do around work commitments. It’s been refused.

seriously poorly baby if been in NCU for 10 days and still there

It does sound like more than being a bit prem doesn't it?

One of mine was born at 36 weeks but never referred to as prem or had adjustments made.

YANBU

Every Other Weekend

it is one week, 5 days. Surely to god dh can reduce his working hours as self employed. What would have happened if the birth meant mum had to stay in hospital for a week? Or any number of other times mum may not be able to be mum? Yep, spouse should pick up slack, but spouse in this case isn’t their parent , so it falls on your dh .

There’s a popular misconception that self employed people can reduce their working hours at the drop of a hat with
no consequences. Self employed people have clients, customers, deadlines etc just like anyone else. And if you’re not working, you’re not earning. I suspect the ex wouldn’t want her maintenance payments to take a hit, would she … ??

It's just impossible to drive kids 40 miles to school and back again. They'll have to just cope.
It would be like any family who have kids and then a baby in NICU. Hard and challenging but they'd find a way

It’s not possible due to the distances involved

Seriously??