I have made a previous post about my partner favouring his child from his previous marriage which some of you may have seen.
Our 6 month old is going in for his third surgery in just over a weeks time, and it happens to fall on the day my partner is meant to have his other son. For the last 2 surgeries, this also happened and he chose to stay at home with his eldest while I took baby to recover at my mums to lower the risk of infection from his older brother coming from another household and nursery. He also didn’t attend the first (and longest) surgery.
For this surgery, I’ve asked if for the 2 days he’s meant to have his other son, he could ask the child’s mother to have him so he can support me and our baby through his recovery and he has refused. He says he won’t give up his time with his older son just because of our son’s surgery. He’s also once again not attending this operation. He has then also asked to have my car for those days!!
Am I being unreasonable in asking for this support for not only my son who will be in pain and confused from yet another general anaesthetic, but also for me who will be alone trying to console a very upset baby?
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Partner unsupportive and not around for surgery
Firsttimemum0558 · 01/03/2024 21:33
NewNameNigel · 01/03/2024 22:11
Gently, you knew he had an older son
Adding the word gently in front of this doesn't you any less of an arsehole for pulling it out the old chestnut "you knew what you were getting into".
Presumably the op didn't know that her tiny 6 month old baby would require multiple surgeries... Can you not even imagine how terrifying that would be for her?
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