The most ridiculous/hilarious/ludicrous thing you've read here?

[AbigTurtlesTail]

I'll go first...

An OP being told she shouldn't have a phone background picture of only her children because it may make her stepchildren feel excluded

Yes. But you’d be drowned by a whole bunch of people insisting that had, in fact, signed up to a lifetime of indentured labour. And that I should be grateful that I was allowed to pay him (via contributing a disproportionate share of my income relative to his and having provided the entire deposit for the house) for the privilege of being treated as his and his ex’s skivvy.

This is very true.

Posters also ignored the fact that not changing over houses when anyone was positive also protected their mum and step dad. It wouldn't have been in anyone's interests for us to have DSDs when we had covid.

I was a step child too and I would never have been allowed to behave in the ways that some posters have described here. I wouldn't have wanted to either as I was bought up not to lash out at people when I was unhappy.

I certainly wasn’t allowed to behave like we see described in here (or I had to put up with in my own house).

Even so, I know that my dad benefitted from me being annoyed at his wife because I had nowhere to stay at her flat and such like. But the fact was, he wasn’t paying for it and he never (even before he was in a relationship with her) ensured I had a bedroom in his house. At the time though it was easier for me to be annoyed at my SM rather than really face up to the truth that my dad simply didn’t care enough about me.

And he didn’t. He’s too selfish and a useless alcoholic who blames everyone else for things that are his own fault. I actually pity my SM for staying with him. She should have walked away years ago.

Most recent thread "do men only want 50/50 so they don't pay maintenance"

Might start one that says do women only want their children more so they get maintenance and see how well that goes down.

I've just posted that DSD's mother never paid us a penny in maintenance when DSD was with us 90% of the time. I await the backlash.

There is a thread at the moment where the OP's child has been excluded from a wedding but the shared child is a flower girl. So many comments about the step father taking going to the wedding with the shared child and the OP doing something else with her daughter. Can you imagine the comments if it was the other way around? But oh no SF's are allowed to exclude their SC from family events because it's good to have 1-1 with their own child without the SC being present.

Got to love the logic of the suggestions that the OP should take the eldest child to Disney or a week's holiday somewhere to avoid the build up to the wedding.
If it's a problem for the DHs family to treat the kids differently then surely it's a problem for their own mother to go and do it on an even bigger scale in retaliation?
Not according to some posters 🤦🏻‍♀️

The problem would then be that the SC would be missing out on a holiday so the OP would be guilty of treating her own child more favourably.
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It's worse than that.
The children are both the OPs by different fathers.
As the youngest has been asked to be flower girl for her aunt and uncle, OP has been advised to even things out by taking her eldest to Disney.
Unbelievable.

The golden rule that the children are always the victims and have no responsibility for anything including their own behaviour.

That wedding thread is batshit, the OP demanding the in-laws tell her how much money they have saved for their grandchild, and her fury that BIL and SIL don’t think of her eldest child as their niece.

Yes, that’s because she’s not.

Also, a quick review of the messages on this board shows that often it makes no difference whether someone has waited 6 months or 6 years to start a new relationship

I remember that! Telling her what a generous thing it would be to do and that her child was DSCs sibling etc. I bet her DH was all over it too.

The bedroom threads remind me of when me and DP bought a house and his ex got annoyed we hadn’t bought one that had enough rooms for all of their children to have their own room. We would have basically needed a 7 bedroom house to fulfil this. She called him selfish.

There have been many bizarre things over the years, most recently a bunfight where many posters insist that EOW (or any sort of fixed pattern) is quite normal for ‘children’ in their 20s …

For years I blamed my sm for being awful to me. But my df stood by and allowed it. For example we reconnected when I was a teen. He bought me a pasty to take back to his. Sm refused me a plate or a drink. Df allowed that. Irony was my dm had lived there and her dps bought the entire contents for them as wedding gifts... Why do the exes described up thread not go ape shit at the men?

As others have said the general gist is :
-You knew he had kids
-You can’t change the contact time if you are desperately Ill / in hospital / giving birth etc as will affect dsc , but if their mother wants to change the contact that is fine
-Ex wife allowed to do what she wants , ask for whatever time / money she wants. She can bust any boundary, no probs
-DSC awful behaviour is always okay , as they are the victims. Don’t worried about shared children
-Step mum has to spend time on her own on special days as her partner needs to pander to ex wife and dsc
-Shared children don’t matter as much . Babies in particular . You must always prioritise the step children over your baby
-Shared children don’t need their own room , but DSC who has a room at mums, hardly ever stays as they don’t want to , needs a room

Constantly reminding step mothers they aren't their step kids mother as if they might not know that

But at the same time asking "well if they were your OWN child would you treat them that way?".

It's already been mentioned but the one where the SM was lambasted for ruining the co-parenting relationship because she didn't like the ex letting herself in, with a key, in the morning and making herself comfy in the living room when she'd just got out of bed 😂

I hate this. So much whataboutery.

They aren't my child though so what's the relevance of that question?!

Not a specific thread but one thing I've noticed quite a lot on here in the past is that if for example, dad is unwell and can't look after the children then he should pay a random stranger off the street before daring to ask the child's other parent to have them during "his time".

But heaven forbid if a dad refused to have his children back if mum were unwell.

I find the rigid allotted his and her time a bit extreme on here. If I'm too unwell to take care of my child then yeah, I'd expect their father / other parent to pick up the slack. Not a new partner or a nanny I've had to pay to come to my house just so their other parent doesn't have to parent outside of their given time.

It's so extreme and just not a way I could personally parent myself!