The most ridiculous/hilarious/ludicrous thing you've read here?

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I'll go first...

An OP being told she shouldn't have a phone background picture of only her children because it may make her stepchildren feel excluded

Found it!

@Prydddan

DH embarrassed by my sensitivity | Mumsnet

Enjoy 😁

Sorry, missed your last post - good excuse for a re-read, though.

Oh no it wasn't me haha. I was just saying I have also been to Disney with my mum and DC and no DSC and don't feel bad about it in the slightest!

Oh yes I remember her!!! The one who would post hugeeeeee posts on every step parenting thread going on and on and on with utter tosh that often didn't even make sense? But the general gist of the posts was always that it was your choice to be there therefore your fault.

That's the one. I won't name her in case it's like saying Voldemort out loud. Not seen her around in quite a while, thankfully. 😁

There's a few who stalk this board just to tell step mums what utter shits they are. Could you be arsed!

The "you should treat them as your own" brigade really grind my gears. When I asked one of them does that mean they would have no problem with the SM disciplining the SC, going to parent's evening (after all the SM would go to her own DC's parent's evening), and everything else involving bringing up the SM's own child, it went down like a lead balloon. What that poster meant, which is what they all mean, "treat them as your own" only applies when it comes to our time and money.

Definitely.

You also can't whinge about them like they're your own.

For instance you can say "ds is being lazy, his room is like a pig sty I'm going to stop his pocket money until he tidied it" - absolutely fine.

Change that to dss and you're being that you're depriving the "poor" child and it's so obvious that you hate him and kids know and his parents have split up how dare you take away his pocket money the poor boy is TRAUMATISED and that's why he can't possibly tidy his room..

😂

By coincidence I was thinking about that very poster the other day and was getting annoyed because I couldn’t for the life of me remember her name. It finally came to me about 3 days later!

I’m not a step mum but I read the boards in active and am usually sat with mouth open at the vitrol for step parents.

The recent one where her newborn was seriously ill, not guaranteed to live, but mum insisted dad had ds his child for the weekend. so not to be at hospital with his seriously ill baby and traumatised wife. The mil was supporting the ex. Her dh wasn’t supporting her really.

I get that Her anger was totally misplaced to dss, but in all honesty it sounded like she had pstd and needed help. Some posters were awful, no sympathy for her at all or thinking how they would feel in her place… thankfully some posters (probably step mums) were kind

I had a corker. Nearly adult SD spent years milking the two homes scenario and learned early on to be a master manipulator because her Grannie dropped poison in her ear all the time about her dad (DH)

Christmas days were always split between houses (morning at one, afternoon at the other) demanded by her mum. On this particular year I was cooking Xmas lunch, SD insisted that we wait for her to grace us with her presence after working a pub shift, going home, eating one lunch at her mums, snap chatting all her mates for a few hours then coming to our house.

I was torn a new one on here for saying I'd serve lunch when I wanted to and not on demand which a week before Xmas wasn't entirely a well scoped out commitment of arrival time. I offered to save her a plate, Grannie was insisting I wait for her arrival and everyone on here agreed with Grannie.

Because all step mums should wait on the whim of one teenager when trying to cook Xmas day lunch for 7 hungry family members

And what is always missing in these utopian unicorn-trest-them-as-your-own-world posts is the fact that the step-children themselves know the score.

They know if the SM calls the shots or gets relegated to maid/housekeeper when they're around. They know exactly how much power they have. And they use it if they have it, and resent it if they don't. Like all kids, bio or step.

But they know SM isn't their mum, and mostly wouldn't want her to treat them " as if they were your own" and would think it weird if we did.

The ‘treat them as your own’ brigade always claim to be child-centred but, ironically, don’t seem to be able to in any way consider the actual feelings of a SC.

few SC want their dad’s partner to act like she’s their mum. They often don’t want to be looked after by SM because mum and dad are off doing other things. And so on.

I mean, I wouldn't take my kids to the park and leave DSD sitting like a plum on the sofa. Once we got there, I wouldn't buy my kids an ice cream and not her. I wouldn't cover the living room with photos of my kids and leave her out.
But I also wouldn't pay into her savings account, discipline her (will chin her for swinging on my dining chairs but the state of her room is not my problem), nor would I pick her up and cover her in kisses because that would be fucking weird.
Nobody but nobody would tell DSD that I'm her mum now and she needs to treat me the same so why in the world is it considered to be healthy or desirable for me to enter into this one woman delusion that she's my child?
Baffling.

Adding in the ridiculous comment I’ve just read where a step daughter shouts abuse in the face of the SM and is really rude but the suggestions are the OP should move out ‘to give her space because she is clearly needing extra support and empathy and she didn’t choose to have a step mum’ 🙄

it’s the SM’s house.

I've just read that one too and I think my bingo card is nearly full.

The one where the response to SD screaming 'F off' into the OP's face is to calmly say something like 'I don't appreciate that language, can we talk about it when you have calmed down' is a classic.

Also seen ‘just try to be friends with the poor kid’🙄🙄🙄

The one that always grinds my gears is "you knew what you were getting into."
It is never rolled out on ANY other type of thread and if it was, you'd rightly be shot down in flames.

Had a new baby and struggling with post-natal depression? You knew what you were getting into.
Struggling with age gap with partner? You knew what you were getting into.
Upset about an ill pet? You knew what you were getting into.
Having problems with the mother-in-law/boss/friend/husband? You knew what you were getting into.
Struggling with juggling work/kids/relationships? You knew what you were getting into.

I could go on but it's horrible. It's just used as a way to silence stepmums. Bringing empathy to the situation (from all sides) would be so much more productive.

This thread is hilarious and so sad in equal measure.... this happens to so so many women :(

"you're not a step mother you're her dad's lover" and the word "traumatised" all in one post.

Honestly!

You also can't whinge about them like they're your own.

Exactly @Chocolatebuttonns If I have to "love them like they're my own" then I can complain about them and call them "lazy brats" like I would my own, surely?

The misogyny on SM threads is vile. On lone parent threads too. I know I'm digressing a bit but I see a lot of posts along the lines of 'put your children/step children above your sex life' or like the thread where the SM was referred to as the dads lover.
Relationships in the true sense of the word are far far more than sex. These types of comments are never aimed at men. It's ok when the step child's mum has a new partner too.
If there is a problem with the step child's behaviour its always dad or SMs fault but never mum's for having a new 'lover'.

You must put up with any manner of abuse from DSc in your own home.

For posters to come on the post say well you can't discipline teenage DSc because it's their father's house.

Even when it's stated in the op that it indeed is the sm house.

That you have to always do what the biological rp wants you to do, even though it's to the detriment to your family. Florida thread