The most ridiculous/hilarious/ludicrous thing you've read here?

[AbigTurtlesTail]

I'll go first...

An OP being told she shouldn't have a phone background picture of only her children because it may make her stepchildren feel excluded

Another one that always gets me is when the Dad is slated if he dares moves more than a 5 minute drive away from his DC's house.

If only life were that simple hey? DP & I moved a 30 minute drive away and I remember people around me judging us for it. It didn't affect his contact time with his DSD, but what were we supposed to do? His ex lives in a super expensive area as they bought young at the time (15+ years ago) and we would have had to have saved at least £50k in a deposit to barely afford a 2 bed flat if we stayed within 5 minutes. We moved 30 mins away to a 3 bed terraced but it's like we were moving to Scotland some of the comments we received!

Oh and another! Husband wanted to take his and step mum's young child to his exes house to spend the day there on Boxing day leaving OP alone (who wasn't invited) and people actually thought she was unreasonable for not wanting her child to go... there were even comments of "why would the ex invite you?"

Erm because she's the child's mother? and its Christmas?! Surely a decent person doesnt invite one parent and their child knowing the other parent is left at home alone over christmas? Weird fucking behaviour.

That ANY type of bad behaviour from the SC is caused by their broken home and the trauma of having to be part of a blended family.

They are all victims ( usually of the non resident parent and step-parent’s choices) therefore even if they are in their twenties and act like toddlers with a tantrum you should not criticise.

Can you just IMAGINE if a step mum invited the DSC, their mothers partner and their new child over for Christmas but not the mum. She'd be told to grow up.

As is standard on here though, a step mum is absolutely the lowest of the low in terms of the pecking order even when it comes to situations involving their own children who are First and Foremost the DSCs siblings.

I’ve always said that if, Heaven forbid, I found myself single again there’s no fucking chance I’d ever go near a man with kids. Stepmums always get a rough deal, every single time

Sorry OP I know that’s not what you asked

I am a step mum and I agree with you. I would NEVER do it again.

Nor would I.

Ah the thread where op was going to take her kids to Disney with her mum but was being told it should all be replanned so her DSC could go too, iirc DSC dad wasn't even going on the trip or paying for it in any way but OP would be wicked stepmother as the DSC would be disappointed to miss out and it wasn't fair

Utterly batshit

It's always bloody Disney isn't it.

Even if the steps were 35 and 40 and hated Disney with a passion, you'd still get slaughtered for not taking them and fully funding it yourself.

Oh yes I remember seeing that one, people were saying he should give several years notice and it turned out the ex had a partner that also went! I never saw the conclusion to that thread

This thread is a breath of fresh air, thank you 🙏

I went to Disney with our DC and my mum. Will never feel bad about it we had a fab time 😊

True though.

It is true. And I'm the same, would never ever ever do this again if something happened to me and DH.

Another fave is how having any boundaries whatsoever is seen as taking it out on the child.

If your husband takes advantage of you and uses you as childcare without even asking constantly and has no regard for your own plans etc etc that's a shame but you can't say no to him because that would be taking it out on the child.

In fact you can't call it childcare AT ALL because they are just as much your child to look after as your own despite having two parents already who apparently get a free pass from looking after their children because you're at home. You're not doing a favour looking after DSC apparently.

And yet if their own mother has them on what would typically be dad's day then of course she is doing you both a favour by looking after her own children.

It just goes back to the classic

They're your child.... When you're paying for something, doing something fun, allocating bedrooms, going on holidays, when they need childcare.

They're not your child if it involves discipline, boring stuff, anything you as an individual might want to do.

Ive seen someone called "a random woman" on here before because they weren't married to the step kids dads. But in the same breath the "random woman" was expected to pay for these kids and look after them when their mum or dad wanted her to.

It's mind blowing.

The thing I find bizarre is also the idea that if you are a step mum, that is all you are. Surprise! Your role in life has changed!

As if you don't have a completely separate life around being a step parent and your only job is to keep the SC happy without disciplining them 😂

Yes, I had forgotten the "I feel.sorry for the poor children - not welcome in their own home" guilt trip aimed at SM OPs when they baulk at being expected to give up free time so that the SC's actual mum and dad can enjoy free time. As if it is solely on the SM for not picking up the slack that the SCs will feel unwanted.

@Chocolatebuttonns

And the even more classic - new bedroom, nice Christmas present, super holiday, film nite and pizza ? Thanks dad.

Can't afford the school trip, grounded for bad behaviour, not buying expensive trainers? That b1tch pulling the strings.

I think a lot of the stepchildren posting on MN still blame their SMs forvtheirvparents' failings.

Definitely. Thankfully my step child is aware I work for a living and pay for things. Not so great is that his mother expects me to pay for things for that reason. Looking back I really wish I'd told her to fuck off years ago but I always always took the moral high ground and to be honest it got me absolutely nowhere.

Yes and you're not also a mum yourself in most cases 🤣

You'd have to go some way to beat the utter batshitness of the Sistine Chapel lady. I have to re-read that thread a couple of times a year just to check it was real. Never disappoints.

Generally, the lengths people will go to to defend the 'their wedding - their choice' argument, even when there is clear and unnecessary cruelty involved.

@AbigTurtlesTail I didn't realise that was you just one story that stuck with me🤦‍♀️

I'm glad you went, some of those responses were absolutely mind boggling

@StaunchMomma

The Sistine Chapel lady. What forum is that on, please? I must go and look it up.

There was a well known poster who used to like to haunt these halls to tell everyone that they should just leave/divorce rather than expect their DP/DH to make any sort of adjustments for the fact that he was no longer with his childrens mum.

Upset that your husbands ex has a key to your home?
"This is your elective choice to be with him, if you don't like their co-parenting arrangement, leave."

Feel disrespected because whenever you have child free plans, ex snaps her fingers and your landed with the kids again, plans scuppered?
"This is your elective choice to be with him, if you don't like their co-parenting arrangement, leave."

He agreed years ago to pay for XYZ for the kids, but now your Household can no longer sustain it so he wants you to use your personal savings?
"This is your elective choice to be with him, if you don't like their co-parenting arrangement, leave."

At no point should the man behave with any kind of loyalty towards his actual wife or even his younger children.