I feel awful even writing this but i need to get as much advice as i can on this. Ive been with my partner two years, he has a 6 year old daughter and i am massively struggling with her. Her mother from the get go has been difficult and cannot stand me which i think has caused part of my issue. When it comes to his daughter i find her to be extremely spoiled, although she is a well behaved child she has the expectation that everything must be done for her. She gets everything and more from my partner and his family but this is never enough, i have a child and if my child gets anything that she doesnt there is a massive fuss made. She is constantly sick, or there is something wrong with her and him and the entire family constantly fuss over her. So our plans are constantly called off but when we do what she wants shes always fine. She has came into my home and called it disgusting, told me the only reason she comes here is to see her dad and when she is here im not allowed to be anywhere near her dad. She has now said the only way she will see her dad is if its not here, so on the days he has her he stays elsewhere. When he has tried to bring her up she is miserable, she wont eat, wont sleep, wont interact, wont speak.
ive done everything, i got her her own bed, clothes, toys, toiletries, i take her out, i do activities i know she likes, try to engage her in conversation. I do her nails, dress up, buy her treats. I buy her food i know she loves for when she is coming, when she gets here she apparently no longer likes it
i feel awful but i cannot stand her, he never confronts her about any of her behaviour even the strange lies she tells, accused her mum of hitting her and this never happened?
am i a bad person? I feel like im going to lose my partner over this, he is getting more distant as the weeks go on. I need some advice, what can i do? I have tried absolutely everything