I have been with my girlfriend for 3.5 years. We both have kids from our prior marriages. Mine are 6m, 8m and hers are 8f, 10m. We lived together as a family for 7 months until I had to remove myself and my boys from the toxic environment.
Now all kids can be a pain in the butt, right? Although there is a difference between kids being kids and the behaviors her kids display.
The daughter is vindictive and spiteful, with a very strong temper. Often tells her mother to shut up.
She does not take no for an answer, especially when being punished (time out.) she was sent to time out which then lead to her messing up her room, our room, my boys room and her brothers room.
To top it off, she took a sharpie and wrote I HATE MAMA on the kitchen counters.
I’ve had to hold her seatbelt in the back seat and pin her down, to allow her mother to safely take her to school. She has cracked her moms window trying to kick it out. It’s insane.
Her son has been physically and verbally abusive towards his mother, causing chaos.
Slamming doors, breaking things, throwing drinks in his moms face, broke his moms toe, foul language, kicking car seats while she tries to drive, hit his mom with a vacuum, Running away from home and school.
Police have been involved, and CPS was involved, unfounded BS.
He exhibits symptoms of ODD and bipolar disorder, with rapid changes in behavior. Something as simple as asking him to get his shoes on starts a screaming match.
The father has shut down therapy. This all had a bad impact on our relationship.
I had to remove my boys and myself from the home.
THE PREDICAMENT
We have been seeing each other again. I told her I cannot be around her kids right now.
It’s so bad that even a picture of her son turns me off. She promises me that he has been better lately but I don’t have faith in that.
It sucks to have to throw away the love of my life over her kids behaviors. Her kids aren’t going anywhere, I know that.
She feels like I am abandoning her while she is faced with these hard kids.
Just having trouble deciding what to do.
Do I tread carefully and see what happens or cut ties and wish them the best?
Any feedback from anyone been in a similar situation would be amazing.