AIBU to charge £50?

[veryfluffyfluff]

My DH and his ex have screwed up their plans and managed to have made commitments the same weekend. This weekend was DH's to have their kids and then switched to being ex's. I've been asked if I wouldn't mind being in and getting them dinner and they can come here for one night. I said I'd check my diary. AIBU to say sure that will be £50 please?

I mean their own parents are fighting over who doesn't have to look after them...

I'm doing the ex a favour though technically and she's not exactly been interested in being nice until now

Lucky children to have you in their lives then ❤❤❤

It sounds like there's just bitterness here between you and the ex.

Look after the kids, let them have an enjoyable evening.

That will be odd as I'll be in the house

Actually I change my mind.

If it was her weekend and she’s not been very nice to this point and just wants to use you then I’d just say no.

If she has been reluctant for you to have them alone before then my answer would just be no, I'd go out of my way to not be contactable for the day before as well.

They are her children, should have checked her schedule before agreeing to swap weekends, tough luck.

No there is no bitterness on my part. She is no-one to me. She is the one who resents my presence in her children's life unless it suits her..

No you’re not doing her a favour….

Your doing your OH a favour!

Why can't you tell your DH and his ex to simply "un-screw-up" their other commitments and sort it out between the 2 of them?

I do understand where you're coming from but feel sad for the kids tbh.

No I'm not

You just said they couldn’t decide whose weekend it was. The favour is to your DH just as much, and you are married to him not her. Again, tell him to get a babysitter if you don’t want to do it.

Well yeah exactly. They unscrew up or give me £50 and I'll rescue them.

Thought this was just her who needed the favour? Or is it both again now?

It is hers. She wanted it and "took it off" DH. Now she's trying to "give it back". It's all very silly.

But anyway thank you everyone. I hadn't thought of the "sure - but you pay for takeaway" approach. Much better.

she's just said oh well can't veryfluffyfluff look after them?

Actually, that would piss me off! If she can’t be bothered to be nice to you unless you’re providing childcare for her, I think I’d say I don’t want to. She’s not even being nice to you now, tbh.

It’s her weekend, she can pay a babysitter at her house, can’t she?

Takeaway, sweets, couple of drinks… have a feast with a movie night.

Poor kids.

I agree. Neither mum or dad want them.

At least another person is willing to have them (provided dinner is bought).

People on here are so keen to spend others money and guilt trip when others don't want to, a favour can be done without leaving you out of pocket, if your dh had any nouse about him he'd bung you a few quid towards giving them a good night without the need to be asked. I would if someone other than myself or their dad was caring for mine.

Then tell him that!
Make it clear it’s a one off and to not take that help for granted.

fwiw the fact you are worried about it tells me his behaviour isn’t squeaky clean in that front in the first place….. so what else is he taking for granted on??

Sorry… send too soon.

Also make sure that the same message goes back to the ex too!!

As you said, a bit rich to be difficult about you being around just to just st the opportunity to ask a favour when it suits her….

No wonder step mums get a bad name on here.

Why is that?

Wow. OP YABU.