The great washing debate - should I have reminded him?

[thegrain]

DSC have their own separate washing basket. Reason for this being it is easier to make sure it's all done before they are back again (here every other weekend and half holidays). Also DH is responsible for their washing. I for some reason am responsible for our shared DC's washing but that's probably a subject for another day!

Anyway. They are due here tonight. The washing has not been done. I noticed it was full last weekend but frankly am fed up of telling DH what basic parenting tasks need doing so I just left it and assumed he would notice. He's now all a flustered and asking why I didn't remind him! My response was why should I.

Anyone else got a lazy arse husband?

If you noticed it hadn't been done then I think you could have reminded him...once. But not check it had been done, or continually remind him. It's not about who does what, it's about the fact that you are a team and just a quick - don't forget the kids laundry, really wouldn't have taken much from you. But he is being unreasonable to expect it or to be annoyed you didn't remind him.

Imagine having to remind a grown ass man to do something, like his mum 😂

People are literally breaking their necks to make you the unreasonable one for not reminding him but also not doing his washing. Misogyny through and through. Question is though who’s going to remind OP…

I have a suspicion that when the kids are older and see their washing separate to the rest of the family’s, they might not see it that way

But we all have seperate baskets....

He's clearly in the habit of you reminding him. You need to stop this unless willing to take on the whole job of washing with the agreement that he completely takes over a job you do. I would rather do my SC washing and ensure they have everything they need to feel as welcome as shared children but I would insist he take on a job I hated.

Bullshit.

I make my 13 year old do his own laundry. Because, as this thread shows, boys need to grow up knowing how to ensure they have clean clothes.

I do mine and the toddlers. I even expect DS to ask if anything else needs to go on when he’s doing his and doesn’t have a full load.

He’s fully aware he’s part of the family. He’s just not growing up thinking it’s a woman’s job to wash his pants for him.

bitch is a very sexist and loaded term

@florenceandthemac you aren't really covering yourself in gory with this comment.

And also if it's only the females who participate in this activity regularly , then honestly I think your a bit of a fool. But you do you, just don't call people bitches but then act like one yourself ?