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I have a dilemma but am very prepared to be told I am being unreasonable.
Me and DH have a 4 year old DD together and DH has a 13 year old DS from previous marriage. DSS has autism not wholly relevant but for context.
We co parent really well with DH EX ( we are all very amicable ) and DSS lives with us 50% of the time. I adore DSS and when he's here I parent him like my own.
So my dilemma. We live in a very standard 3 bed mid terrace. We can't extend so this is our house for the foreseeable as we can't move either .
We have 2 double rooms and 1 box room. DSS has the largest of the rooms and DD has the box room which was fine if she was still a baby but is now starting to cause us some issues.
DD has large toys like dolls houses and sets she can't fit in due to her room ( and no where else for them to go) and also would like her friends to come over to play in her room and In contrast DSS here half time only wants to play his tv / console or tablet and use his bed or desk area .
Now IF ( and appreciate this is a huge if) they were both my biological children I would ask DSS if he would consider changing rooms so Dd could play with toys as she would get more out of the space and could have friends to play in her room BUT DH won't consider this idea at all.
I can't work out if I'm being massively unreasonable in considering a room switch so child who is always here can have bigger room to play with toys.
DSS has a lovely large bedroom at his mums house to.
Every time I try to mention with DH he shuts the conversation down.
Thoughts fellow step parents ? Am I being mean even thinking about this .
For further context house is jointly mine and DH we brought it a year before DD arrived .