Wills and step kids

[Padgie]

Hi everyone. 22 weeks pregnant with first child. Engaged to partner with 7 year old son from ex wife. Drawing up a will for the first time. Not intending to leave anything for step son. Step son's mother earns quater of a million per year and has no other kids. Partner is upset by my intentions to only write my biological children into my will. Anyone in a similar scenario? Keen to hear how you set your arrangements and how those arrangements were received by your partner.

You can put a statement in both wills that says if/when married the wills will not be revoked. This also counts say one dies and the other remarries - the wills will not be revoked.

I split my estate 50/50 between our 2 children and partner splits his 3 ways between our 2 and his firstborn (SD)

I won’t be putting my step children in my will. I don’t expect my child to be put in my partners will either.

Is it possible he's worried that he dies first & you get everything & effectively his child is disinherited? If so yabu and please talk this through & get appropriate legal advice

If not & he just wants you to include his child at the detriment of your own then yanbu

It depends as my DS is my DH step son, His biological father is not involved (court ordered) and my DH took over role as father when he was 4 and did alot for him including funding private school. He got ill recently and sorted out his will and for the DC including my DS he is giving them equal shares.

If however my DS had an engaged father and external family and other inheritance coming his way I wouldnt expect my DH to split his equally. I however will as they are all my children

We have decided split everything equally between dss DD and new baby dss won't have anything to leave him and I felt this was the fairest

He’s being grabby. You’re not even married yet! If you marry him and die before he does, his child will benefit anyway. For him to expect anything else is not a good sign.

You're not being unfair at all, I don't think.
My Mum isn't leaving anything to her step children, we are all adults and they're considerably older. They also earn / own a lot already and her rational is they don't need it. My dad's will includes all 4 of his children and grandchildren.

Surely if he is worried about him dying and then none of his assets being passed to his son (your step son), he can simply have that written into his will?
Mine and my partners wills state that should one of us pass away and the other partner remarry etc. That the deceased parents assets would not be shared with any future partner or future children. Depressing convo but thought I'd add that.

Tell him you'll write his son into your will the day his ex writes your children into hers ! Should drive home how ridiculous he's being.

Its bugger all to do with him. He is your partner, not your husband. The blended families I know leave equal splits between their own children. Eg, one friend has a dd and a sdd, the friend's 50% goes to her one dd, whilst the father splits his half between his two daughters. Another friend is unmarried but lives with her partner in her home, her entire estate goes to her dc, not step dc or partner. His saving will go to his dc.

Tbh, I would not marry him at this stage. Get proper legal and IHT planning advice. He is behaving badly.