Would you be annoyed

[tellyou]

DSC arrived today, I was in the bedroom with my 2 month old baby and DH told me that DSC had been exposed to chicken pox by their 4yo nephew who developed spots when they were visiting yesterday.
The DSC told my DH in the car on the way to ours, so exw never told DH but he phoned her to confirm it was true
DSC has never had CP so I've had to decamp to my sisters house with my baby for three nights to protect my baby, would you be annoyed?

Honestly, no really. Kids come in contact with CP all the time at school etc. What would do if it was your own older child, still decamp?
It would be different if they actually had chicken pox.

@FawnFrenchieMum I was advised by the health visitor if I could get away I should as it's dangerous for young babies, luckily I could decamp as DSC isn't my own child so that argument is null and void

Nope. Dc get ill, they spread it. DS1 got CP when DS2 was 4 weeks old.

Are you breastfeeding? DS should get your immunity if you are. (DS2 has never caught CP)

I wouldn't be annoyed at this.
Kids come into contact with chicken pox / covid / Sickness and diarrhoea all the time. Wouldn't decamp Everytime unless extremely vulnerable or have serious health issues.

What would decamp if your child or a member of your household family got ill with it? Genuine question.

Dh got chicken pox when ds was a week old. Ds didn’t catch it and was told probably as I was breastfeeding

Just following doctors orders so to speak, no I wouldn't decamp if it were my own child but they arnt my child and gives DH quality time with DSC so I don't see the problem

Very. Bang out of order of the ex not to give DH a heads up.

Major eye roll at the inevitable what if they were all your kids absolute fucking bollocks. If they were all yours they wouldn’t have another equal home to stay in till it’s known whether or not they catch it.

Your baby is tiny and very vulnerable and you’ve done the right thing. DH and his ex have both done the very wrong things. Hope your baby is okay and your sister is looking after you both.

Yes, furious, it is really irresponsible of her to send a small child likely to have CP into a home with a very small baby.

DH was daft not to have turned around, taken him back to his mothers & asked her what she thought she was playing at.

IF she had told your DH & said she had important plans & coukdnt keep Dsc this weekend, he could have called you & made suitable arrangements.

knowing exposing a young baby to CP is utterly ridiculous.

but maybe people who haven't seen a child on pediatric ICU with CP are a lot more blasé - they shouldn't be.

Hell yes I’d be furious. Not the same but during the worst of covid when we were all paranoid as hell, stupid ex wife and their daughter repeatedly broke the rules. When I expressed concern about step daughter visits and exposure I was shut down as the poor darling had to have daddy contact time!! She was 17!

@AnneLovesGilbert thank you
What would yo say DH should have done differently? When he confirmed over the phone he didn't pull his punches that he was disappointed with not being told!
That's the main issue I suppose, not being told so that we can make informed decisions

I would absolutely be annoyed and would ask my DH to turn the car around and return them to their mum.

You don’t see the problem, yet have posted about it?

Are you going to decamp every time their is an ill child in DSCs class?

You do realise that small babies are carrying immunity from you don't you?
I also call bull sh*t that your doctor advised this as the baby wlll he carrying antibodies from you. It's very rare for a baby under 3 months to get chicken pox

Are you a doctor who’s aware of the baby’s history? Because if not STFU!

@HumptyDumpty2022 I'm a medical professional yes

@supersonicginandtonic a health visitor said I should not expose my baby if I could help it, she's not my actual health visitor but a family member, very knowledgeable
She did say breast feeding should provide immunity but why take the risk

Nope. Children get chicken pox and will come into contact with it all the time. I'm surprised you were advised to move out while the children were there to be honest.

With knowledge of this baby’s history?

I'm also a step mum but not one who is nasty and treats their step child like a lesser being. I treat mine like an equal.
OP might as well lock her and baby in a bubble if they don't want to be exposed to childhood illnesses

He should have turned around and taken them straight back as soon as they told him. He’s got several children and the smallest most vulnerable is the priority when it comes to illness or potential illness.

She doesn’t see the problem with moving out for a bit to keep her baby safe and leaving her husband to have time with his older kids.

@tellyou so not even your own health visitor. Your poor stepson. Your doing a fine job of making him feel pushed out.

@AnneLovesGilbert they're not the most vulnerable though. It's very, very rare for such a small baby to get chicken pox. Colds and tummy bugs are likely to be much more concerning.

No step mother ever says, the poor child! Red rag to a bull!