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32 replies

tasht333 · 12/03/2022 17:29

Hi

My partner and I have been together just over 3 years. I have SS aged 9 and SD aged 7 from his previous relationship and we have a 50% share of custody (week at a time). I've always had a really good relationship with them, especially the SD.

Just over 2 weeks ago my partner and I welcomed our new son into the world. This has been something we've all been so excited for, especially my partner's children.

I am now rattled with guilt and plenty other emotions that I'm finding myself resenting the time they are now here. I have been completely bowled over by the emotions I feel for my son, and the anxiety that I am finding comes with it. With his children here for 50% of his paternity leave I have struggled. I've not wanted to be around them, for them to be around my son and have resented the time they take their dad away from our son.

This makes me sound dreadful. Re-reading this I can totally see how selfish and awful I sound but I'm hoping to hear from others that May have been in a similar situation and perhaps coped better....how?....or can relate to how I'm feeling and also tell me how you worked through it!

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curiousmum3 · 23/03/2022 14:43

@harryclr

I felt the exact same way about SD when my Son was born and had another child quite quickly after (18 months unplanned but my god hugely loved) and if im totally honest, all those feelings you've mentioned are still here....but i havent yet had the time for them to pass. I am too busy focusing in raising 2 under 2!!! Congratulations on your little one xx
I feel you ... it's very difficult with 2 under 2 when oh has a previous child - same situation can totally relate and it makes you feel so bad .. here if you need!
harryclr · 23/03/2022 18:42

@curiousmum3 how do we contact each other? Do you have instagram?

curiousmum3 · 24/03/2022 20:26

[quote harryclr]@curiousmum3 how do we contact each other? Do you have instagram?[/quote]
I'm actually so weary of putting my info publicly on here 😂😂!

harryclr · 24/03/2022 22:11

@curiousmum3 same...there doesnt seem to be an option to direct private message either ?

candlesandpitchforks · 25/03/2022 07:44

[quote harryclr]@curiousmum3 same...there doesnt seem to be an option to direct private message either ?[/quote]
It's not available on the app. You can message each other via the website but not via mumsnet app.

Hope this helps ! (Sorry to jump in)

curiousmum3 · 25/03/2022 11:17

Ah good to know, didn’t know we could private message on the web version! Thanks
@candlesandpitchforks

curiousmum3 · 25/03/2022 12:57

[quote harryclr]@curiousmum3 same...there doesnt seem to be an option to direct private message either ?[/quote]
Just web version !

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