Covid and blended family set up

[candlelightsatdawn]

Hi all, ok just so I don't drif feed I'm a high risk pregnancy and I have been told if baby survives the pregnancy (it's not a given currently) they will want me to have a c section and baby need a stay in nuci .Problem being is me and my DH will ask to isolate 10 days before the OP

This means that my DD will probably have to stay with my mum due to me not wanting to interrupt her preschool time or routine and so we can't catch anything from her (kids are germy right) which might mean we can't spend time with baby (what time we may or may not have with baby) or me having to have c section on own due to him being sick and not let in (they do check they checked with my sisters husband)

Problem is DH ex on extreme the scale of totally and utterly relaxed re Covid. I totally respect everyone's views on Covid and I'm not entering into a debate over whether this is right or wrong. When I say relaxed I mean that life didn't change for them at all during all three lockdowns and ex doesn't believe in Covid really. Her choice.
We have DSD three nights a week and ever other evening randomly. She's 12 and her school and year group especially has had several rounds of Covid outbreaks in last few months. It's spreading like wild fire.

Problem is when we have date for c section I'm worried about isolation period and contact. We have caught Covid from them before and weirdly mum was Uber sick with it but it hasn't changed her view point. It's unlikely DSD will be sick with it again badly but very likely she may pass it on and therefore mean I get poorly or DH may not be able to spend time with new baby (it's not obviously a given baby will come home so it could be limited time)

Would I be a absolute 🔔 end to say to DH he needs to have a chat with ex (which we get on with well) we have to isolate before section and won't be having any children in house for a short period or change contact in some way ?

I realise this may all not plan out re the pregnancy and even post that baby may not make it but I just wanted everyone's views. It there any workable suggestions everyone has.

At this point things may change but I just wanted to hear what people thought .

I have a tendency to let people make their own choices but this one the other households choices will be directly impacting my choice to want to not be at risk and I don't want to impose anything on them but I also don't want to up my risk because other doesn't believe in Covid.

Help. Please don't tell me so many things may change right now. I'm so aware of of the changeable nature of the situation I'm in and I want to find out if anyone else has had this ect.

Just a little update for all that care or would find this amusing. Please note that DSD is not neotypical and she means no harm with any of this but we will keep a eye but she's gone through phases like this before and come out on other side.

DSD has taken her new role as big sister in charge and has taken to instructing all the kids in the family cousins ect about washing hands, alerting me to germ hazards (her youngest cousin 5 is a confirmed hazard and I must stay 2 meters away) and she's actively warning people to stay away if they have a cold. I have obviously told her that we don't need to do any of this that I'm perfectly safe right now and when babies here we can be extra vigilant but to not panic. However it is her natural nature to get hyper focused on things and DH coughed while she was around and she gave him side eye and told me "he's going on her watch list" 😂😂

I suspect that she's watched Big Bang theory with that sheldon character has taken inspiration from him. I fully suspect her to start handing out masks soon.

DH says she's become germ guard dog like around me which is lovely and fairly amusing at same time. It's her way of showing affection. She's hyper focused on things before and it's not been a issue as the fad usually passes soon.

But it seems for right now we are living with our own version of sheldon Cooper and I'm rather excited what she can do if she puts her laser focus on the world.

And don't worry she hasn't been cracking out the bleach or hyper focused on cleaning, she's still a normal teen in that area.

God knows what her mum thinks. Wanted to share for a bit of light heartiness given the terrible situation we are in, I'm actually finding this is vaguely amusing.I will update once we have had another meeting with consultant and when have update about baby.

So what’s the decision re isolation?

@Oftenithinkaboutit the decision is we will be guided by that the hospitals rules re isolation period and nicu.

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@Oftenithinkaboutit the decision is we will be guided by that the hospitals rules re isolation period and nicu.[/quote]
And what will that mean for DSD given they’ve said 10 days? Did you come to a decision on that?

As I thought that was the crux of your op

@Oftenithinkaboutit it means exactly what it says on the tin. We will follow whatever the hospital recommend re isolation periods. I would advise you read my post about what we told DSD about isolation periods and come back to me.

Am I missing something ?

I was genuinely asking no judgment either way. We each do what is right for our family

The crux of my post was actually a) worried about explaining this to DSD (which turns out she was more than supportive
B) find out what others have done re similar situations how it turned out C) how people suggest I handle this situation in a blended family given we are talking about one potentially v sick baby and germs or a dead one.

I'm sure my original post was clear I wasn't going to be debating Covid or going against medical advice. But heck with all the comments on here maybe I wasn't totally and utterly care ikd

I admit that when it comes to isolation and children - I shrug.
Both mine got covid. Some mothers had them isolating in their rooms

Me? I had my poorly daughter In bed with me and my son also climbed in to bed with me. I was literally covered with covid infected children.

But obviously very different when talking about a new born

If I wasn't in the situation I'm in now I would probably be a bit meh too.

However I have a social responsibility not only to my DC (fingers crossed they land here earth side) but to other babies and new mums to make sure I'm not bringing it to a ward. Let alone the ward with all the poorly babies.My DSD has totally gotten behind this because she's got different views to her mother re Covid and that's ok. We are all different.

However her behaviour may seem a little extreme at the moment (it's typical for her)

She also came over here with her bing covid positive and that was fine - I caught it and DD did too and was quite poorly but it didn't kill us.

It very well could kill baby. There in lines the problem and it could be any germ not just Covid so we have to be Uber careful.