It's 8.30pm on a Sunday night, so let's play my favourite game...

[NinaBernina]

Every other weekend after we've had the children, we drop them back home to mum's at about 7pm.
Usually by 9pm we've had a snarky text message about some heinous crime that's been committed by me/us at some point over the weekend.

Particular highlights have previously included: an inside out sock in the washing; an unfolded clean T-shirt in the clean clothes, 1 missing bog standard hair grip, an incorrect answer in the maths homework and other unforgiveable offences!

Does anyone want to guess what this weekends will be?
I will be back to let you all know tomorrow!

No I simply did cheese AND Ham and pickle on wholemeal bread

Seedy bread even. And bought a babybel and a satsuma

You'd think I'd made a full on bento box style feast the way she had a go though

Thing with pants gate- just how many pairs do the poor DSC have to keep stored in their bedroom!!

Well after a couple of weekends of no drama, we're back with full force!
SHOUTY TEXT! Apparently SD's homework was ALL WRONG and she would have to do it ALL AGAIN! (I had helped her with it - as I'm sure she would have told her mum - she has no filter!)
I was a bit perplexed, as someone with a maths A-level and who uses maths in her daily job, I should be able to do year 4 maths - and I was fairly sure she'd done it right - and her dad had checked it too!
So we pushed back - apologised, but asked (very nicely) if it was possible to share the correct homework once it had been re-done so we could make sure she got it right next time...
turns out it was fine - the heinous crime I'd committed? GETTING HER TO SHOW HER WORKING!
Apparently she's just supposed to write the numbers down.
That'll teach me to "help" with the homework! no good deed ever goes unpunished by this woman!
and I haven't even started on the weekend swapping saga yet!

@NinaBernina oh dear

@NinaBernina she's unhinged.

In future please don't take the bait by replying to her, and try to get the child to explain to you what was wrong if they can.

(Oh and I could go into a rant about some of the Maths teaching in this country. However all I will say is myself and a few other people I know who are foreign educated have had to teach children "wrong" methods so they could actually understand what they were being taught... )

[quote RedWingBoots]@NinaBernina she's unhinged.

In future please don't take the bait by replying to her, and try to get the child to explain to you what was wrong if they can.

(Oh and I could go into a rant about some of the Maths teaching in this country. However all I will say is myself and a few other people I know who are foreign educated have had to teach children "wrong" methods so they could actually understand what they were being taught... )[/quote]
We normally don't take the bait - I'm usually fine with ignoring it and my OH is very good at grey rocking and replying with "OK" or "fine" when necessary - but she'd spent a lot of time on it, and I was gutted that she'd be made to do it again and I felt responsible for that (even though I was sure it was right!) I didn't even get any satisfaction in hearing her say it WAS actually ok and she didn't have to do it again!
I know I need to let it go and see it for what it is - just another stick to beat my OH with - but he has had a 5 year head-start over me in learning to deal with her shite - practice required, starting now!

(and I know what you mean about the maths teaching techniques - I've also been burned by that one in the past - trying to explain something in a different way to the way it's taught, and getting into trouble!)

What's really odd is that usually the teachers want methodology so I actually wonder if she is just making it up tbh.

So new one for everyone.

The hunt for the missing switch. The saga ongoing for last 2 weeks, DSD swears she's looked for switch in her house so it must be at ours says mum, suspicion had been put on me, DH, my DD, the cleaner and the cats (maybe they batted it into a vent or under sofa). We have torn house upside down to find it, we were going to be forced to buy a new one in Black Friday sales

After a week of it absolutely bull, and has to be here and various angry texts implying we were holding it hostage (yes because a switch is all I need in my life and DD is 3 so totally into those types of games)

DSD strolls in with it saying she found it under her bed. Then says she didn't even look for it and it had been knocked under her bed at DM house. She found it yesterday!

Literally 0 sorry from DM for all the agg, or even just letting us know (knowing we would have replaced it in Black Friday sales) so we didn't waste £200. I'm trying to keep stress levels low but this has really irked me.

Keep saying "there's no WiFi in prison, theres no WiFi in prison" 🤬

Perhaps as a consequence the switch needs to stay at her DMs house?

The next time it is claimed something else is lost at yours and you are told you will have to replace it you now can grey rock with "nope it will turn up like the switch did"

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@RandomMess

Perhaps as a consequence the switch needs to stay at her DMs house?

The next time it is claimed something else is lost at yours and you are told you will have to replace it you now can grey rock with "nope it will turn up like the switch did"

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I mean what is worse is DSD didn't care in the slightest she was like I told mum I wasn't fussed as she has Xbox, some DS thingy and a mobile.

Enraging. Because if we said Switch stays at mums, DSD would be narked as she games with DH as part of their one on one time (I wish they would have another hobby that wasn't the switch but DSD is likes it even if it's killing my soul to introduce more tech into a v teched teenager).

Teenage girl and DH isn't the best with girl things so this is kinda the thing they bond over 😓😓😩

They aren't even home yet and she's text to tell DH off for "letting" me buy takeaway last night.

Probably just bored stuck in traffic.

@Carrotte I mean that's odd ? Why does she think she can dictate what goes down in your house re takeaway ? Mental !

Not a SM sorry and I admit it's been a looooooooooooooong time since I did maths at school but I find it hard to believe that maths homework is wrong if a kid shows their working. It's literally so teachers know the kids haven't cheated or guessed....

[quote candlelightsatdawn]@Carrotte I mean that's odd ? Why does she think she can dictate what goes down in your house re takeaway ? Mental ! [/quote]
I think its because I paid for it tbh. She doesn't like me "flashing my cash"

I was ill with gallstones and was I hospital waiting on an op. My DSD, who was 11 at the time was on holiday with DM. She mentioned she was worried about me and hoped I was ok...DM went off on one accusing her of ruining the holiday by talking about me. Poor kid phoned DH upset at this.

DH has never acknowledged my existence, I dont get bitter ex. My kids DSM, we're not friends but we're civil, I say hello when she picks my DC up, she knows she can text me to alter timings if she's doing the drop off as they have a toddler and sometimes he's napping.

I just don't get it

I recently bought some hiking gear for my dss (second hand) as I got some for my kids and thought we could all hike together. Her response was ' who does she think she is, she's not their mother'. If I hadn't included dss I would have gotten ' what about dss, why has she left him out?'