Does anyone here have a stepmum that they love?

[Bridezillamaybe]

Sorry if this has been done to death but I think we could all do with hearing some positive stories. Being a stepmum is (IMO) far more challenging than people realise and it would be great to think that all the effort might be worth it for the kids.

I adore DD’s soon to be step-mum. She is a lovely, warm person who has cultivated a loving relationship with DD, she is genuinely interested in DD and her hobbies and while being great as a stepmam she has never over-stepped or tried to replace me. She’s like a bonus. DD thinks she’s fabulous. Her relationship with her dad has always been difficult and fractured as he’s a bit of a knob but he is trying hard to repair things with DD now, which I can only think is his fiancé’s influence.

Their wedding is coming up and exh has been engaged 3 times since we split up. DD was talking this week about how much she actually hopes this wedding goes ahead. We agreed if it didn’t then we would keep future stepmam and not her Dad

I got my stepmum at 13 so it could have been a disaster, imagine acquiring an angry hormonal girl when you meet the man you love 🤣 20 years later I still love her just as much we speak a couple of times a week and my kids adore her

@Bridezillamaybe

It's lovely to read all the positive posts but I've noticed they all seem to be from people who got their stepmums when they were into adulthood. That's a bit worrying. Does anyone love their stepmother who was on the scene when they were young?

I do! I’ve had a stepmum since I was 7 and I love her to bits.

She always made me feel so welcome and never like a guest (even during my rebellious teen years ).

She’s been there for every big event in my life and is a wonderful grandma to my son... I even joke that if her and my dad broke up I’d visit her more.

I do. She always said she was not trying to be a mother to me but has been more of a mother than my own. We have had ups and downs but yes I love her, and she is a fantastic grandmother to my children.

@Bridezillamaybe

It's lovely to read all the positive posts but I've noticed they all seem to be from people who got their stepmums when they were into adulthood. That's a bit worrying. Does anyone love their stepmother who was on the scene when they were young?

My step-mum has been in my life since I was 6.

I met my step mum when I was 9. She was great. She has been fantastic all these years (I am now 46). She and my Dad are good friends with my mum too which means we can all get together as a whole family. She adores my daughters and is a doting grandmother. Very happy she came into my dad's and my life.

My husbands step mum is amazing, we all love her! Granny was a LOT younger than grandad, so we got a very hands on, caperble and willing grandparent in his step mum
They are now divorced, we've gone NC with my father in law, but Granny still as involved as ever (and also NC).

I didn't when I was a kid, but now I do. More importantly I respect her. She's kind, hard working, funny and interesting and I can spend a good two to three hours gas-bagging on the phone to her. She also deserves a medal for putting up with my dad (who I love dearly btw, he's just a total wind-up merchant) and she is wonderful with my children.

My step-mum is amazing. My dad married her when I was in my twenties and she's just been fab.

My dad tragically died very suddenly and unexpectedly when I was in my 30s but she is still very much a part of my life. I can talk to her about anything and she's a great grandmother to my DD. I'm lucky to have her in my life.

My Step-Mother took 3 of us on at the ages of 6, 5 & 3. I was 5. I can honestly say that I really do love her even though her and my Father are no longer married. I cannot say the same for my elder or younger sisters.

Yes yes and yes! My parents split when I was 7 due to mums alcoholism , we lived at paternal grandparents for a few years and my dad got custody of the three of us ( pretty rare in the 1970’s and largely thanks to his brother paying for a barrister during the custody dispute) . Mum passed away due to her illness. He married my stepmum when I was 9 and that meant 5 kids in a 3 bed council house, two hard working parents and not much money .

We made the best of it and we have all done ok, I’m now 50 and facing a marriage ending, Both parents have been amazing but as always my step mum has been an absolute rock, totally none judgmental and checking in on me every day .

I’f Heineken made step mums , she would be the starting point, I absolutely adore her x

They’re not married but they’ve been together forever. My dad’s partner is a thoroughly decent human being and really came into herself when my siblings and I had children. She adores the little ones and vice versa. It’s a nice family dynamic and we all plod along. :)

Me I met my step mum when I was 10 she was just so loving and I echo previous poster she made the trips to see them fun and lovely not my dad. When my dad split up and subsequently
Died we still stay in touch I love her x

Had a step dad and mum from young age - the split when I was one.

Absolute gems and my god did they stick with me regardless of the hell I raised. I didn't appreciate it at the time but boy do I now ❤️

no. she's an utter cunt

My children love their step mum as do I. She’s too good for my ex frankly 😂😂

Yes! Not when I was growing up, but we are very close now, much closer than my mum and I. We are in contact most days, she's been a real rock throughout Covid. She's also a fantastic grandma to my son, he idolises her and my dad. If I have a crisis, she's the first person I'm on the phone to and she's always there with an ear to listen, sound advice or a pair of helping hands.

Just to add, my step mum married my dad when I was five. I have no memories of my parents together as I was three when they split.

I hope dp's dd likes me, she's chosen to move in with us so can't be doing too much wrong!

Not a stepmum but my stepdad came into my life when I was about 3.

Mum has always taken the lead with parenting but he has always been an amazing father figure (my bio dad has always been in my life so it's in addition).

Had the normal teenage years!

But he's a rock in my life and always will be, nothing I couldn't go to him for.

Mum and I often joke that I'm actually more similar to him than anyone else in the family.

That said I've also had a couple of stepmums too and always had good relationships with them, not the same as with my SD but lovely women I knew I could rely on.

I don’t have a SM but I am a SM to my DSD (6) and we mutually adore each other, my DH jokingly tells people we love each h other more than we love him I hope it always stays this way.

When DSDs were little they would make me little pictures telling me they love me. This has stopped now they are teens but I like to think that love is still there.

My children had a lovely relationship with their dad's partner. He left her but and our relationship only got stronger. We consider her and her children family. He's the dick.