Does anyone here have a stepmum that they love?

[Bridezillamaybe]

Sorry if this has been done to death but I think we could all do with hearing some positive stories. Being a stepmum is (IMO) far more challenging than people realise and it would be great to think that all the effort might be worth it for the kids.

Me! Not when I was a younger child but grew closer into adulthood and now (me in 40s) we are really close. She made some duff calls when I was younger and I was grouchy and resentful, but we have an amazing relationship now. She’s like a parent and a friend rolled into one and is a fantastic grandma, too

I love my ex step mum - her and my dad divorced years ago and we still keep in touch. Shes fab. My dad's current partner is nice too although I dont know her as well. Love my stepdad loads as well.

My stepson adores me as well but my stepdaughter not so much. I think that's out of loyalty to her mum though and I'd like to think we will have a nice relationship in the future,maybe when she comes through the other side of puberty

Yep.
Bit odd due to her age as she & my dad got together when his kids from his first marriage were adults.
She is considerably younger than me and much much MUCH younger than my dad but oh my, she is just one of the loveliest, funniest, most thoughtful people I have ever met. I bloody love her.
They have been together for about 15 years now. She makes my dad very happy.
Just a genuinely lovely person.

Me, my step mumps awesome. My SD who has lived with us for 10 years loves me.

I don’t have a step mump, definitely step mum

My dads wife. Is an amazing lady. She had no part in my up
Bringing. I lived with my mum. And visited my dad x 4 or so times a year. But in recent years since the break down of my own relationship she has sent regular messages. Checked in with my quietly and been so supportive and she is one of three strong women in my life who I am am blessed to have. My mum. My dads wife. And my ex mother in law.

Wicked step mother as I call her is absolute gem.
Thoughtful, kind person who rescued my father when he was bereaved from my mum.
She is also a widow and we were grown up but we get on well and she is thoughtful and kind to my children and they adore her

I have one. Got her when I was an adult. She’s very lovely.
I couldn’t write s-m because my own lovely old mum recently died and the only time ever my mum was really angry with me as an adult - stoney, cold and didn’t talk to me properly for a few hours was after I had described having a s-m (I used mother not mum) in front of her to a solicitor when I had to explain the family set up. My mum was furious (very upset) having spent decades saying nothing about my dad or s-m and was livid I had used the word mother.
Anyway she’s lovely !

Mine's amazing, love her to bits and all my friends want her to adopt them

No stepmum here but my stepdad is amazing

I do! 😊

I have a lovely stepmum. She really is amazing.
She and my dad met when I was 18, so she skipped all the raising a stepchild stuff which I can imagine is a relief. We’ve always been more like very good friends, and I feel very lucky to have her in our lives.

It's lovely to read all the positive posts but I've noticed they all seem to be from people who got their stepmums when they were into adulthood. That's a bit worrying. Does anyone love their stepmother who was on the scene when they were young?

I adore my step mum and she came in to my life when I was very small. Whenever I went to stay with my Dad it was my step mum who I really looked forward to seeing and it was her that made the effort to make the trips lovely for me. I have a great relationship with my step sister too which has continued into adulthood.

Yes, me. We met when I was 15 and though she was only in her 20s herself we got on well. Since my father's death 10 years ago we've remained close. We're best friends, more like sisters.

I should add, she went to a huge amount of effort for us as children.

I have a !ovely step mum, in fact,she's nicer than my real mum. I'm also a step mum and have a close relationship with my step children.

Oh sorry I should’ve said, I lived with my stepmum from around 8 years old ☺️

My stepmum was around when I was small. She brought a lot of brightness and cheer into the home. She even walked me down the aisle after my Dad died.

My step-mother is amazing, cool and calm and always there for me but never interfering unnecessarily and never trying to take too much of a ‘motherly’ role. She has been in my life since I was a young child and I think she is great. I don’t think I would have the good relationship that I now have with DF if it weren’t for her.

It's lovely to read all the positive posts but I've noticed they all seem to be from people who got their stepmums when they were into adulthood. That's a bit worrying. Does anyone love their stepmother who was on the scene when they were young?

Sorry I should have added to my post up thread.
My stepdad came in to my life when I was 11.
He’s always been nice and I’ve always got on with him. But as time has gone on and I’ve reached adulthood we really have just drifted apart because we were never that close anyway.

My Gran loved her Stepmum and we didn’t realise she wasn’t her real mum until at the funeral when a relative told us. She came into my Gran’s life when she was just a baby, as a wet nurse, and my Great-Grandad convinced her to marry him because she wasn’t going to get any better offers as a widow with 4 kids . In addition to her 4 and my Great Grandad’s 2, they had another 7 kids between them and they were all in each other’s pockets they were so close.

My 27 yr old DD adores her stepdad, his recent Father’s Day present was dinner for the two of them, she is also very close to her dad. In fact, the three of them often go out together. DD met her SD when she was 9.

I love my StepMum and my StepDad, both joined my family when I was very young. I feel very lucky to have them in my life!