Partner wants joint christening

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My partner and I are expecting our first child together in the summer, he already has a 10yr old and we all get alone lovely, he also has a fantastic relationship with the mother. I can’t fault any of it.
My problem lies with a Conversation that was had last night.

I said from the start our baby will be christened and he wasn’t overly fussed by it but my reasoning was if he wants the baby to go to his school of choice it has to be christened.
His son was never christened and he’s been ok with that and it was never an issue.

Last night he told me that if the baby gets christened then he will get his older boy christened also. It never crossed my mind before but that would mean I would have to share my babies christening day with his ex and all her family and friends.
Am I being irrational to say I don’t want that? Christenings have always been a big thing in my family and now the thought of having to share it with his ex takes away all that special feeling and I just feel really odd about it. I don’t know how to approach it with my OH without sounding like a hormonal spoilt brat 😩

I would love to hear your opinions on this.

Equally so, extended family members are becoming accustomed to having to split time between events for these increasingly varied family structures.

Why on Earth would they have to get used to that for any event other than ones on fixed dates like Christmas, when those occasions could so easily happen on different days?

As I said before, there's nothing traditional about siblings of different ages being Christened on the same day. The vast majority of the time, it happens separately some time after each is born. It's not something the dastardly step parents need to get used to being done a certain way because they are in a blended family. This is simply not an established tradition that needs go be upheld.

No I wouldn't stand for that!

Your baby has their christening and dss is a part of the day. If he likes church/ the meaning etc he has his own special day where it's all about him and he can share with both his parents.

Tell 10 yr old his sibling is having a christening, explain it all. Say if he likes it he can have his own but at 10 I think he'd be expected to be attending church weekly and doing research about the catholic faith before the church would baptise him.

Sharing your baby's big day with dp's ex sounds awful.

Just sounds like dh doesn’t want to treat his kids differently... which in this context is ridiculous. The children will have different stuff with each family unit. It’s not a competition. No I wouldn’t share this type of celebration. If step child does want to be christened that’s great and they can have a separate celebration which focuses on them and their choice