Evil Stepmum’s Greetings Card Collection

[KumquatSalad]

Here on stepparenting, we are developing an exciting new range of greetings cards to help express your feelings to the evil stepmother in your life.

Come share your designs with us. There’s a large untapped market out there to be captured. 😁

How about this one:

I hear this all the time and I've not had a baby.

@OohImBlindedByTheLights I honestly don't understand why people just can't be happy that all the adults in DC's love them (obvious overstepping aside - but then I'd call that posturing not love)

@MyCatHatesEverybody exactly! My fear is that she keeps manipulating my DSC even more than what she already is!

Example- last year I got a new phone so I didn't need my old cases and they were some nice ones including a ted baker one which I offered to give to my DSC as their phone was the same as my old one. Their response "I really want it cause it's beautiful but my mum will either bin or or sell it because it came from you". How Fucked up is that!

I'm not in competition with my DSC mum and I never will be. That is their mum and I will do my best to make sure my DSC is happy and safe in my home.

For the new partners who will always be known as the OW even if they didn't even know the man before they separated.

[quote MyCatHatesEverybody]@Sillyduckseverywhere "I can't wait to meet them, but I'm so scared of not being what they want."

Be warm, be friendly, but don't get sucked into getting carried away doing stuff for them in an effort to prove you're not the evil stereotype. There's a certain poster on this board who insists it's because we're trying to prove we're better than the ex - that certainly wasn't the case for me. I was just trying to show the DC I accepted them! But it soon spirals and resentment swiftly kicks in as your DP gradually forgets that everything you're doing is a favour not an obligation.

Stay as fun auntie! I can't stress that enough. If it gradually evolves naturally into something more, great. But don't fall into the trap of picking up parenting duties where his ex left off - that way misery lies.[/quote]
Thank you
I have an amazing relationship with my own stepmum, I'm already a "cool auntie" I'll stick with that approach

We need a catchy greeting card phrase for the typical 'butt out, it's not your business... Unless it's to do with money'.

I'm not a stepmum (despite confusing username )

But the one I just don't get is why you are not supposed to discipline, care for or teach a child living in your house?

I am baffled by the - not your child, let dh deal with it - posts.

If, as a mum, we posted that a child had eg hit a sibling, and we had said - wait until your father gets home- mn would rip us to shreds. But if it is SC......

@steppemum

I'm not a stepmum (despite confusing username )

But the one I just don't get is why you are not supposed to discipline, care for or teach a child living in your house?

I am baffled by the - not your child, let dh deal with it - posts.

If, as a mum, we posted that a child had eg hit a sibling, and we had said - wait until your father gets home- mn would rip us to shreds. But if it is SC......

And then watch the same posters tie themselves in knots explaining why you shouldn't do any of the above but you absolutely should treat them the same in terms of treats, money, inheritance etc...

A personal favourite of mine.

You could have been married to your husband for 10 years, actually be his first wife (I am, my husband and ex were never married and only together a few years), they could have split up yonks ago but you'd still be referred to as Dad's 'new girlfriend'

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this is the first thing to make me properly laugh all week! well done everyone. Most of the ones I've enountered on here have been covered already (you knew what you were getting into, you dont sound cut out for this, you sound resentful, are you jealous of your SD?".

I'm going to suggest that the one that we haven't had yet is "but why won't you delay christmas dinner for 9 people on the request of your stepdaughter? No she hasn't got a valid reason for the request, she finishes work at 2:30 and lives 20 mins away but if I'd asked my mum she would have accomodated my request. How cruel to offer to warm up a plate for her when she decides to drop in"

@steppemum it’s because the children’s parents react badly to anyone else disciplining their child. Very badly indeed.

oh and this one, this was real life

Another favourite. Resident children's feelings don't ever need to be considered... Their parents are together.

These are brilliant

OK so this one cuts both ways but the difference is having no money is considered acceptable for NRPs but not for RPs even when access is shared.

@PurelyRidiculous even if your children’s parents aren’t together then their needs are still inferior towards your SC’s.

I have 2 DCs from previous relationships and I have been told on MN that my SCs are the only ones damaged by their parents break up and therefore I must excuse their vile behaviour at times.
It couldn’t possibly be that all the children were affected equally by past splits but I just managed to parent my children more effectively and instil appropriate boundaries

inferior to*

Some of the lovely contributions telling a SM that she must allow her SC to watch tv on her bed.

Because welcoming them, chatting with them, cooking and eating with them, and doing the housework just aren’t enough.

Haha loving seeing quotes I remember from threads on here 😂

Here’s two for @ RainbowCarpetSurfing. So you can remember not to post in AIBU that you are definitely in the wrong. Always.

Oh the second one didn’t post properly.

This thread is brilliant! Thank you @KumquatSalad