Evil Stepmum’s Greetings Card Collection

[KumquatSalad]

Here on stepparenting, we are developing an exciting new range of greetings cards to help express your feelings to the evil stepmother in your life.

Come share your designs with us. There’s a large untapped market out there to be captured. 😁

@Dollyparton3

this is the first thing to make me properly laugh all week! well done everyone. Most of the ones I've enountered on here have been covered already (you knew what you were getting into, you dont sound cut out for this, you sound resentful, are you jealous of your SD?".

I'm going to suggest that the one that we haven't had yet is "but why won't you delay christmas dinner for 9 people on the request of your stepdaughter? No she hasn't got a valid reason for the request, she finishes work at 2:30 and lives 20 mins away but if I'd asked my mum she would have accomodated my request. How cruel to offer to warm up a plate for her when she decides to drop in"

Here you go.

Actually this is more to the point.

@harryclr

Lol

What about:

You're thinking of having a nice day out with your child?

Don't be a dick, wait until next weekend when DSC is around.

Or something more punchy lol

Will this do?

Congratulations on becoming a Step Mother!

(Welcome to a world where compromise is an action that only applies to you and where your DH, his Ex and their children decide what form it takes)

....--

I'm so sorry I paid to take your children on holiday.

I should have know it was a lifetime ambition of yours to show them the Statue of Liberty.

(Even if you didn't mention it when we checked with you about taking the children to New York)

.....

I'm sorry I took your child to get their haircut at the salon I usually go to and had their hair styled exactly as you'd asked me to because you had weekend plans.

I promise I won't raise their expectations again by taking them to Nicky Clarke.

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I'm sorry I took your child to get their haircut at the local salon on the high street and their hair styled exactly as you'd asked me to because you had weekend plans.

I promise I won't disappoint them again by taking not them to Nicky Clarke.

If we're talking actual comments from real threads, one of my all time favourites was a step mother looking after her DSC through lockdown so their parents could go to work. She'd taken them on a walk and received abuse from the mother about it afterwards. When she politely replied and said if she wasn't happy with the care being provided, she could arrange something else with their Dad or send them to school (keyworkers) posters said things like:

She just threatened someone with withdrawal of childcare as if she is a childminding service for the kids mum.

When it’s over and you and yours are well then, and only then, would it be reasonable to expect others to show gratitude. until then do what you’re doing and ignore what is no more than someone letting off steam as if it's perfectly okay for a mum to sent abusive messages to a step mum who's doing her a favour because she's having a bad day. I wonder if this logic would be accepted the other way around? 🤔

the reasonable, measured response to someone taking a tone with you is to threaten the health of their children because sending ranting and raving texts to the woman caring for your children so you can continue to work is just 'taking a tone'. And suggesting that if she isn't happy she may want to look elsewhere is 'threatening the health of her children'....

Honestly there have been some treasure troves on this board previously. I can't get over the entitlement of some people, it continues to amaze me. Always excusing poor behaviour that they wouldn't accept against themselves.

Sorry I've just added to your range a list of apology cards from evil stepmothers to their step children's mother....

I think it could be a new exciting market...

@FudgeBucket

Sorry I've just added to your range a list of apology cards from evil stepmothers to their step children's mother....

I think it could be a new exciting market...

It could indeed.

One of my favourites was the thread where the OP was told that she knew what she was getting into and she shouldn’t expect to be able to make any parental decisions for her child that might give them an advantage over the DSC and the parental decisions taken for them.
She was also told to work longer hours, put her young DC in longer childcare, and pay for her DSD to go to private school (because the child’s mother was a SAHM and couldn’t pay even if she was interested)
She was further told that because she couldn’t l/wouldn’t pay for her DSC, and their older maternal half siblings father also couldn’t pay (presumably), she had no right to make a decision for her DS because it advantaged him over his half siblings half siblings!
She’s was obviously also told that the DSC education was a matter for the mother alone in any case.

Thanks @KumquatSalad, that's absolutely spot on!!!!!

Anyone remember the thread where the adult DSD (who'd moved out) insisted on keeping "her" large bedroom for whenever she wanted to visit and the SM's children had to share a smaller room as the father wouldn't stand up to his DD?

Do you know what though? Don’t these all show just how hard it is? I mean I think they’re brilliant, but equally seeing them all lined up like this just really hits it home doesn’t it?

I mean the ones with wedding photos. Or the ones of the baby feet. Days/ moments that are and should be so special/ respected/ loving. And in most people’s world they would be. Unless you’re involved with a man with kids already.
In which case it’s just completely undermined. It’s such an antithesis to what would happen elsewhere. No wonder so many SM’s find this so hard. It’s a no win situation.

@KumquatSalad

Oh the second one didn’t post properly.

Oh I fucking hate the... 'It says a lot that you referred to them as add any factual description of relationship here i.e. Step children, DHs children etc...

Like what are you supposed to say? My kids? HOW DO THEY ACTUALLY WANT YOU TO DESCRIBE THE KIDS?! They never say.

All children are equal, but stepchildren are more equal than others.

@SpongebobNoPants your "You Sound Resentful" across a path of flowers has killed me

Oh I fucking hate the... 'It says a lot that you referred to them as add any factual description of relationship here i.e. Step children, DHs children etc...
Yes isn’t it odd. I got a telling off on here the other day for referring to my son as “my toddler” instead of as DSDs brother. Apparently that was evidence that I don’t like DSD.
Horrified, the poster was. Horrified. 😱

@Youseethethingis

Oh I fucking hate the... 'It says a lot that you referred to them as add any factual description of relationship here i.e. Step children, DHs children etc... Yes isn’t it odd. I got a telling off on here the other day for referring to my son as “my toddler” instead of as DSDs brother. Apparently that was evidence that I don’t like DSD. Horrified, the poster was. Horrified. 😱

I will now stop referring to DH as DH and instead only refer to him as DSCs Dad.

How about ‘BM?! Even if she hasn’t seen DD since birth she isn’t her BM she is her MOTHER. I’m assuming you were the other woman?’

If somebody told me I was resentful in some of these circumstances, I'd agree: I'd be bloody resentful and it would be an entirely appropriate emotion, imo.
It's not some clever riposte; I'd feel it was stating the bleeding obvious.

But I don't think I'm as nice as you lot.

@Courtney555 I’m glad it’s amused you

@KumquatSalad

Oh the second one didn’t post properly.

Then obviously if you refer to them as your step children and you’re not actually married to their father then that’s wrong too

I got slaughtered on a thread once for referring to my dps children as my soon to be step children as im not married to dp. I got told off for calling them dss as im not married im just the new girlfriend and more weirdly i was absolutely dragged for calling dsd the child. As in, the child is great the mother is the problem. Apparently me calling them kids or children is so cold and unfeeling and posters can feel my resentment oozing from the screen.

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The small one says

'My DH raised my DD since she was 4 days old and therefore you are unreasonable for not feeling the same about your step child you met at 11'.

Also being told 'you don't want the step children around' even when you've gone above and beyond for them.

No matter what you do its never enough just because you didn't give birth to them.

Howling with laughter here 😂 DH XW always brushed off my relationship to the DSDs (even thought we live in a small enough town for everyone to know who I was) and made a song and dance about saving the important mother daughter moments for her. So first bra, period, boyfriend, heartbreak, pregnancy, health scares all referred back to her when they asked for my help, only for XW to tell them that I should be doing it since I was married to DH(🤔), followed by the inevitable rant when I did "because you're not their mum"🙄 She was so protective of being called granny that I told DSD1 that it was fine if her kids just called me by my name, (anyway I'm still too young for that 😁) then proceeded to rant on FB about how I felt above being called granny 🙄 The DSDs rolled their eyes so hard I thought they would fall out 😂