Evil Stepmum’s Greetings Card Collection

[KumquatSalad]

Here on stepparenting, we are developing an exciting new range of greetings cards to help express your feelings to the evil stepmother in your life.

Come share your designs with us. There’s a large untapped market out there to be captured. 😁

In fact, they’re direct quotes. From MN

Absolutely fucking brilliant OP!

This thread is fantastic!

Thank you for making this board a better place these days OP. People really really need it.

Could probably do with one about how SMs should be paying into their DSC savings, paying their mother child maintenance, paying for the their private education etc lest the SMs on child in any way benefit from their mothers money more than the DSC do.
While simultaneously not having any say over the DSC contact schedule or upbringing because shes not the mother and it’s not her business.
That seems to crop up quite routinely.

Also
“Q:- The DSC destroy my house every weekend, I’m not allowed to discipline them - Aibu to make myself scarce this weekend?
A:- those poor DC, you obviously hate them, you should do them all a favour and just leave your husband”

“Your house? Have you heard yourself? So territorial- it’s the DSC home and they can destroy it if they like”

Here's my contribution.

It’s back! Nicely done!

Thank you @FionaMumsnet

These are fab! It's like all the bingo phrases are being decorated!

Awesome!

Discipline an ill-behaved child? They already have two parents for that!
Funny how when it comes to all the grunt work/holiday babysitting and homeschooling suddenly you're good enough ..
Not sure how I'd phrase that card though!

Sorry but this is vile, and I say that as a stepdaughter and a step mum (nothing to do with the end of dh marriage!)

How is it vile? It’s just quotes from unreasonable people.

"YOUR toddler? I think you mean your DCS's sibling..."

Should have tagged @Youseethethingis 😂

Yes, heaven forbid I ever start my own thread, I’d be my DS -ing all over the place, feathers would be flying everywhere... 😂

You are just the NEW girlfriend (after 3 years living together.)

The child is not your step child as you are not married (and probably wont ever be)

Remember, the ex is the MOTHER of his children and what she says goes regarding her own children you dont get a say (even if they spend a lot of time in your home and you actually buy them everything from clothes, food, toys and the rent on the home their mother lives in.)

Oh. It’s reinstated. Wow.

Looks like I’ll need to get busy with the cards then. I will be delighted if anyone else wants to contribute designs as well as ideas.

Hopefully we can use this kind of humour to help support stepparents - and stepmother’s in particular - on MN. Because I think so many of us would like to see people stop saying this stuff on threads posted by women who are posting for support in difficult circumstances.

@FionaMumsnet

Sorry all - didn't quite pick up that this was meant to be a joke! We've reinstated now.

Thanks.

It’s really gallows humour.

I am most certainly not anti-SM! Even if I am a wicked SM.

If anyone thinks this is vile maybe they should hold the people who throw all this cliched crap at step parents responsible.

Ironic that on our own thread quoting other people’s attacks on us we still get the blame!

How about "he's their dad. He should spend every penny he earns on them and nothing on you."

How dare you accept a gift of your dp he could have spent that money on his dcs.

@Whatwouldnanado

Sorry but this is vile, and I say that as a stepdaughter and a step mum (nothing to do with the end of dh marriage!)

It IS vile. But only because this is exactly the stuff that posters say to SMs who are looking for some support on here.

The cards in the opening post are actually direct quotes from MNers on threads on this forum. No one should be receiving what one poster on the thread that inspired this described as the worst hallmark greeting ever. That’s the card telling a SM to get over it.

So I (and others) are making cards to emphasise the point that it’s just not ok to post this stuff. It’s not ok to tell someone that they knew what they were getting in to (so they’ve got not right to be at all upset about anything). It’s not ok to tell them that they don’t matter and will (indeed should) always come last.

That’s what’s vile. And nasty. And all of the other things people are upset about. If making cards helps people to see that, then that is a great thing.

@MyCatHatesEverybody

If anyone thinks this is vile maybe they should hold the people who throw all this cliched crap at step parents responsible.

Ironic that on our own thread quoting other people’s attacks on us we still get the blame!

I think some people are thinking that the thread is seriously aimed at telling SMs to put up and shut up. Or in any way anti-SM.

Because the sentiments on the cards are vile. Sadly, they are so often posted - repeatedly - on threads in this sub-forum.

Tbh, I suspect the complaints were from SMs who didn’t know the context. And that’s my fault for not making it clear.

Lol

What about:

You're thinking of having a nice day out with your child?

Don't be a dick, wait until next weekend when DSC is around.

Or something more punchy lol

@KumquatSalad then I suppose it’s a great illustration of just how hurtful all the judgement and lack of support is, which is a good thing to highlight I guess.

I can well imagine some posters will be rolling their eyes thinking evil bitches, talk about childish blah blah but like you said, it’s gallows humour. At the end of the day we’re fighting a losing battle against people who simply aren’t interested in whether we’re right or wrong so if they don’t like it they can go frequent a topic actually aimed at them.