I'm a wicked step mother because...

[FleaBagLarry]

There have been a few refreshing threads on here recently where some of us have been a bit more honest about how we actually feel!

In light of this, in what ways are you the stereotypical 'evil step mother'?

It got me thinking before, in my case, I'm the evil step mother because my DSC are isolating for 2 weeks and as much as we get on, I'm bloody enjoying the break! I'm looking forward to it being over for DHs sake but for me selfishly, it's been quite nice having a couple of weeks to ourselves. (We usually have the DC 50:50).

I know it's absolutely appalling that I haven't been sat in a darkened room sobbing the entire time! So shoot me 🤷

No one has Covid, no one is ill, just isolating before anyone suggests I don't care they are poorly.

Ooo I'm so glad to come back and see we haven't yet been infiltrated by the 'how can you be so callous as to not love them like you're own children?!?!?!' brigade it makes a nice change.

@FleaBagLarry I can make some posts up if you’d like along those lines. It’s good to be helpful

@FleaBagLarry

Ooo I'm so glad to come back and see we haven't yet been infiltrated by the 'how can you be so callous as to not love them like you're own children?!?!?!' brigade it makes a nice change.

I suspect it's on its way ........ 🙄😂

@Kel9

....Because it’s easier when he’s not here 🙈

I feel exactly the same. I don't have biological kids, and I absolutely do get on with DSS .. but oh my word, it's just so refreshing when he goes to his mum's for the weekend and I can watch what I want on TV, eat a biscuit without immediately being jumped on with 'can I have one' meaning I end up losing the majority of them, nobody screaming at a games console, nobody leaving mess all over the house .. all normal teen stuff, but it's lovely not to have the hassle for a few days!

I have found my people at last!
I am a wicked stepmother too for enjoying the half of th week we don't have DSS7. I refuse to take bad behaviour and rudeness off him that I wouldn't accept from my own child who is 2 so not at the same stage but I don't want to be accused of being mean later on.
DSS is also a licker/chewer. Has a smart answer for everything. I now refuse to collect him after school as I just can't deal with the ear ache of constant noises. If his dad wants him home then he can bring him. I will enjoy some nice playtime with my DS without SS having to muscle in on everything

@FleaBagLarry

Ooo I'm so glad to come back and see we haven't yet been infiltrated by the 'how can you be so callous as to not love them like you're own children?!?!?!' brigade it makes a nice change.

I’m amazed - I can’t work out what’s going on?

I’m wicked for suggesting it’s anything other than normal for sd 22 to be surfing online for designer jewellery expecting dh to pay.

@Songbird232018

oooooh I would be hung drawn and quartered even though it may still be a possibility that we get married alone

Quick, get it booked, COVID could be your friend...,*😉

@KylieKoKo

I'm apparently a wicked step mother for putting sanitary towels in the bathroom when it looked like dsd might start her period soon.

Classic Mumsnet

This one wins. I don't even know where to start with this ... I mean... how? Why?

@DaffodilsAndDandelions I think you might actually be me 🤣 you have literally just described SS and I also have a 2 year old. The attitude!! Also the constant need to be the centre of attention I work full time and would quite like to spend time with my own child on my days off not have to please/pander to SS! Should take a leaf out of others books and just take my child put alone now and again.

Also the not being able to eat ANYTHING without them asking for some of it/the same as what I'm having really bugs me, had his tea tonight then DH made us both spicy chicken wraps, SS eyeing them up and asking for one after he had been made a tea of his choosing and pudding he requested! He doesn't (obviously) even like spicy food! 🙈

@BlankTimes thanks, I'll leave his parents to address it though, his dad doesn't see that it's not right and absolutely vile for anyone else touching anything he's had his mouth on. Caught him just lickijg the palm of his hand earlier 🤢

[quote PhylisPrice]@DaffodilsAndDandelions I think you might actually be me 🤣 you have literally just described SS and I also have a 2 year old. The attitude!! Also the constant need to be the centre of attention I work full time and would quite like to spend time with my own child on my days off not have to please/pander to SS! Should take a leaf out of others books and just take my child put alone now and again.

Also the not being able to eat ANYTHING without them asking for some of it/the same as what I'm having really bugs me, had his tea tonight then DH made us both spicy chicken wraps, SS eyeing them up and asking for one after he had been made a tea of his choosing and pudding he requested! He doesn't (obviously) even like spicy food! 🙈[/quote]
My main annoyance (I'm a greedy bitch which doesn't help) is not being able to have ANYTHING with SS groaking me (Google what that means if you don't know - it's a new word I learned the other week which sums up SS perfectly!) to the point where it no longer becomes enjoyable.

I 100% refuse to share my 'special foods' with him, because he basically breathes them in and doesn't savour the taste or experience of them whatsoever, so he may as well just eat something else.

Classic point was I treated myself to some nice hummus, he groaked, eventually asked if he could have some .. I gave him a decent dollop along with some cheesy bread sticks on a plate. Asked him what he thought of them when he'd finished .. 'Oh I don't know really I was watching the film so I wasn't paying attention'.

I just want to eat things that I've bought for myself, by myself. Is that so wrong?!

He's not starved, he gets three square meals, a variety of snacks he's free to have, plus an allowance if he wants anything special (and he's 17 ffs, we have a shop practically next door!)

Aaaaaand this is all why I didn't marry and move in with DH until his lot (all 4 of them!) had left home.

We still have visits from a couple of them, but one( my favourite )has married and lives abroad.

I've been jumping up and down at Xmas with just us and ds2 this year. I'm working (home) Xmas day so can't have visitors, but DH is going to see them on 26th.

I went on holiday with oh(as he was then) and 2 of them. Oh god! I cried one night as I got so hangry, as madam couldn't decide where to eat. In the end I checked a menu to make sure there were vegetarian options for her and just sat down. I was too tired and hungry and prepared to eat on my own if necessary. She was then 'ill' for 2 days, although we had plans. So we just went out anyway. (She was 16). I learnt after that and when DH went away the following year with his boys, I got a separate flight and only joined them for 3 nights

I'm a wicked stepmother because.....i switch 18 year old SS's internet off at night and advise him to go to bed! Which he happily does but I'm sure his mother thinks it's bordering child cruelty!

Ps I love this thread!!

Gosh how relatable.
I’m a wicked step mother because on our wedding night I had to ask my teenage son (15) to give us some space. We had 100 guests including his cousins and even invited a couple of his friends. We have a large happy group of friends and family. He however insisted on shadowing his dad around ALL day to the point where eventually I had to explain to him that I get ONE day to be a bride and could he please just give us a little space to be a couple...
Anyway, I’m the wicked step mother forever.
Ps his sister was quiet happy to just be happy! She mingled and played and danced and just had a good old happy time! In her books I’m not a wicked step mother.

@OldOrMaybeNotThatOld how very dare you! Expecting to spend some time with your DH on your wedding day. Don’t you know the day isn’t supposed to be about the bride at all when the blessed SC are present!

I'm a wicked step mum because I didn't smile at her mum when she turned up unexpected outside my house to drop her off, apparently I have a massive problem with her and how dare HIS GIRLFRIEND disrespect the mother of his child!
So some background information she is a massive bitch who stopped him seeing his daughter for a full year of her life and made up lots of lies about him, he had to spend thousands of pounds in court to get access to her. So yeah sorry if I'm not going to be fake and pretend you didn't do any of that and smile at you, I just won't do it, she is lucky I didn't stick 2 fingers up at her!!

how dare HIS GIRLFRIEND disrespect the mother of his child!
I remember those days - DH actually choosing to marry me, then us having our baby soon after (a son, no less, she actually crowed that he was “only a girl” when there was a mistake with the scan because I wasn’t giving him anything he didn’t already have, in her eyes - can only imagine how pissed off she was when he turned out to be a boy ) took away her special status as Holder of All the Cards and Mother of His Child. Went down like a fart in a lift.

Also the not being able to eat ANYTHING without them asking for some of it/the same as what I'm having really bugs me.
I can soooo identify with this. Back in the day exdp's kids but especially the youngest would do this ALL the time & it drove me insane. If in a restaurant he would order what he wanted, eat it, & then stick his fork in his brothers & dp's plates & just help himself!!! This would be after him eating ALL the bread basket or other sides without once asking did anyone else want some.
If eating at mine it would be the same - the 3 of them would literally hoover up everything in the fridge or at the dining table with the youngest leaning over the table to scoop food off others plates!! He was 12/13 at the time so should have known better.
If exdp corrected him he'd just laugh & give some cheeky comment.
If I or dp made a snack he would always want it even if he'd just had one.

I'm evil because I will be spending more on DD at Christmas than my SC's.

@Beamur

I'm evil because I will be spending more on DD at Christmas than my SC's.

I do this every year. My thinking is that SS has a mum and step dad buying for him as well so he gets double presents. My DD only has me and DH, therefore she gets more.

Doremisofarsogood
Exactly. Plus my SC's are adults. Actually DD does incredibly well at Christmas because her siblings buy her decent presents too
And, because we are all evil, DH's ex (and sometimes her Mum too) have got DD a little something BUT SPENT MORE ON THEIR ACTUAL KIDS. So selfish of them

Most recently because I told my DP that him and DSD needed to sort their own dinner out because I wanted a relaxing meal time chatting to my DC without cooking DSD's VERY limited choices, for her not to eat, whilst moaning about it not being the way her mum does it and sneering at me as only means of communication

This thread is amazing. I too am an evil stepmother! I hide MY chocolate for ME. Those gannets would have it long gone!

Im also an evil stepmother because I secretly loved that lockdown (not in the UK) meant that kids had to stay in the house in which they were normally resident or were in at midnight on the day lockdown started. 3 months of us not having to drive an hour on a Friday and back again and then again on a Sunday! Yay!

Even my husband said it felt like a much deserved break from always having to plan what every 2nd weekend would look like taking into account 4 hours of travelling!

We are terrible!