Erm this is a weird one?

[Che3se]

I've been told by DH that he feels like I love my dog more than the rest of the family (him and his kids)....?!

I admit, I do love my dog an awful lot. I got him when I was going through a very bad time with depression, I was suicidal, on heavy ADs, seeing counsellors etc and I genuinely do credit him with saving my life at the time. I spend a lot of time out on walks with him and I found I enjoyed getting into training etc.., so I'd say essentially he is my hobby in a way.

I'm not really sure what to say to DH. I think he's being really weird about it, almost jealous of a pet? I obviously don't love the dog more than DH but I do coo over him more because DH is a human adult 😂. If I'm being honest here, I do love the dog more than his children (they weren't babies when we met) but I wouldn't ever say that to him and we have a perfectly good relationship, me and the kids. I'm not really sure what he wants me to do?!

I shouldn't take it to heart! Was it said in a jokey way? I'm not a step-parent, but am often told by dh that I think more of the cat than him or our ds, and that he rules the roost. Not so, but I must admit I have more photos of the cat on my phone than anyone else added up, and got guilt-tripped by one of my ds for having the cat as my screensaver instead of the dc! They're all big softies with the cat, though. Do the rest of your family love the dog too? If so, it's probably meant affectionately!

Does he have any specific grievances about how you act as a result? On paper it doesn't sound like this is a problem and it sounds like he is being childish, especially as he himself has the kids and you accept his love for them.

I do love the dog as much as I love him. Different type of love though but just as strong. Could it be the same for you?

Before I give an opinion I need to see the dog

Photo of the dog please 😊

I love my dog more than DH and DC sometimes because he doesn't judge me or criticise me, or ask me for money, or leave the kitchen looking like we've been burgled - he just unconditionally adores me.

Here you are.

Sprocker or Cocker?

Yeah I think I love your dog more than my husband too

You know in your heart that you love everyone in their way, but perhaps he isn't feeling it, because you haven't been communicating it to him recently. He can reasonably jealous of the dog, if you are showing the dog more affection than you show him, are putting the dogs needs before his wants (eg he says can we take a look at those holidays online, and you say 'let me just brush the dog first)
You don't have to reduce what you do for the dog or your doggy love at all, but consider whether you can dial up communicating how important your partner is to you in everyday ways at the same time

I prefer your dog to your husband too

Yep I prefer your dog to your husband too 😂

I think l prefer your dog to your husband and my fiancé

I'd love your dog more than most people tbh. He's a good boy

I prefer your dog to my boyfriend, ex husband, kids and step kids.

Can I swap them all for him?

Yup I have fallen in love with the dog. I realise this is of no help to you.

Oh my goodness of course you love him more - have you SEEN those eyes!!!

I love your dog more than most humans based on that photo alone.

He sounds like a man-baby.

I’d love your dog more too, look at him 😍

Your dogs just not giving anyone else a chance is he? Not playing fair! 😍

Totally understandable!

There's not a man alive that could come before your gorgeous boy!!

If he's serious you need to have a proper talk and see what makes him feel like that, then decide if there's anything you're prepared to change 🤷🏻‍♀️

I definitely love your dog more than my DP today!! I'm being given the cold shoulder today as I said 'no' when he said could he be my bubble. (I said no because he's too much of a risk for passing CV on to me, which is why we locked down separately. He's no less risk just because the Govt have made this allowance idiot.

(I'm pleased for those it's enabled to have contact with someone)

Your dog is gorgeous!

Your dogs very cute and walk past and pat your dh..who wants extra attention

That little cutie would be enough to make any man insecure! No competition at all, what a beaut.

Not gonna lie, I prefer that cute furry face to my kids too.

Is there anything specific he is upset about or is your DH saying it vaguely, what does he want you to do about it?

I want a dog.

I also told my kids they better be nice to our elderly cat, as I am leaving my half of everything to him. Eldest is singularly unimpressed, middle child is happy (as cats all love her), younger ones are blissfully unaware.