My already pretty weird stepsons just got even weirder, at least, *i* think so ;)

[Indyboymom4]

My super weird stepsons just keep getting weirder

So I’ve looked all over the internets and couldn’t find anything that could help me understand a new very strange (to me at least) thing my stepsons are doing so here I am asking you guys...very brief backstory is that up until several months ago, my husband had his own home and I had mine so on the weekends he had his boys they stayed over there & my four boys were of course at home with me. Our kids have very different personalities or things in common so we rarely hung out together. When we got married in July we gave up our respective homes and bought a house together. The upshot is his kids stay here and sleep in my kids’ rooms on the four days a month they are with their dad. I switched weekends with my ex-husband (the father of my kids) so we have them on different weekends. (Sorry for not being as brief as I promised!) Anyway, they seem very strange to me and I’m never sure if they really ARE weird or just seem like it to me because they are so different from my kids (they are all teenagers) here is the weird thing I have a question about...two of them choose to sleep together in the same bed even though there are two separate (but equal!) beds in the room. They are 16 & 14. There are no cultural differences since they are all the same race and were all born and raised in the same city in a midwestern state (in the US) does this seem odd to anyone else? Has anybody else dealt with something like this? Or am I the weird one for thinking it’s weird? I get that it probably feels not great to them to have to sleep in my kids’ beds & I totally understand & I try to make them feel comfortable when they are here. I just can’t wrap my head around them choosing to be in the same bed at their ages when they are already together in the very same room.

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@DoesntLeftoverTurkeySoupDragOn. I know, I'd already done that twice.

I would find it odd at that age but it may be they feel vulnerable in some way in a new house without their own room.

By the way, age 50ish friend of mine who has a younger brother said he didn’t find it odd at all. Not uncommon for friends when he was young, his own brother back then or for his teenage son now to share a bed with a sibling or friend.

Kind of messed up that we find it perfectly normal for girls but not boys.

I'd be a bit surprised if girls wanted to share a single bed, tbh.
All right if it's bigger than that, for boys or girls.

My dad shared a double bed with his two brothers until they left home. That was the only bed available. It’s definitely a cultural/sign of the times thing that we think it’s weird now.

Oh and my 8yo son sleeps in with my 15yo daughter quite often (double bed).

@Indyboymom4 no it's not weird 😂. When my DHs children and nephew visit (ages 15-16) they all chose to sleep crammed in one room(even sleeping on the floor). They do this at their moms house too😂. They don't have their own rooms here yet since it's a new arrangement, but there's plenty of other less crammed places for them to sleep🤔. It's just something they do. I find it funny since they spend most of their waking hours fussing with each other 🤣

I think most of the posters on this tread are being very judgmental 😔. Y'all act as if you know the OP personally and know what her family life is like. Her circumstances may not be as ideal as y'all think. I live in 2 bd apt with DH. His children's mother was very bad to him when it came to his children. We are just being able to have visitation with them and even though we are looking to move so they have their own rooms, these crazy children love our house and are begging us not to move (we still are though we need the space). And the have their own rooms at home. You never really know the other woman's situation.

I don't see how her being curious about something nw to her has caused such mean and ugly comments towards her. Be a stepparent is a lot like being a foster parent. We don't know the children, they are as new to us as we are to them and it takes loads of time and learning and understanding to achieve a great familial relationship.

I know ppl will always have their own opinions, but, as WOMEN, can we express them in less verbally lethal ways while also actually trying to help the OP's instead of ripping them a new one?

I have had teenage brothers, sons, nephews and numerous foster children.
None of them would have chosen ( at the OP's step children's ages )to sleep with a person of the same sex voluntarily.