Do I go my mother in laws wedding?

[kahmN88]

Iv been with my DP for 4 years now we both have kids he has 2 (age 8 & 9) I have 2 (age 9 &10) He moved in with me 3 years ago and his kids stay every wknd. His mum is getting married in 3weeks my DP and I got a all day invite but no invite for my children! Kids have been invited to the wedding they’ve even arranged a candy cart and children entertainment for the kids, My DP is best man and his daughters bridesmaids. I just think that my kids should have had an invite to the wedding as we have been together so long.

[SandyY2K]

But not everyone has a close or reasonable relationship with their mother and would infact put their stepchildren first.

That's irrelevant in this case, because the OPs DP and his mother are clearly close.

Why if you were "close" to your son would you not visit his home?
Because he might visit your house and seeing him is the objective...not where you see him.

Make an effort with his wife?

Perhaps because you might not like his GF/DP. Or because you just don't want to get close to her for whatever reason. Sometimes you just don't click with some people, but you remain cordial for the sake of your relative.



But want him to be bestman to your new husband at your wedding because you are so close?

Wanting your son as best man, has no bearing on whether you invite his GFs DC to your wedding.
I would also assume the new husband gets on well with him, hence he is happy for him to be the best man and could well have been the one who asked him.

[SandyY2K]

I think anyone with half a brain could see that it wasnt a very kind action to take or very welcoming

Only when it comes to step families, do some pp believe the bride and groom must invite them.

2 children you've seen a couple of
times, probably wouldn't even cross your mind to invite to your wedding.

[averythinline]

Not sure why your kids are bothered about someone they've met twice getting married and going to a wedding.... think you are projecting a bit here..

she doesn't see you as family - who knows why? and you havent made a fuss about not going to previous 'family' events...

whilst I think that its a shame, it is up to her...she has invited you as a+1 to your DP.... she is just not that into you....you cant change how she feels just how you react.....

I wouldn't go without my children - but often people do arrange babysitters to go to weddings as an adult couple so its not completely unheard of....

[WorkingItOutAsIGo]

You have a choice here. If you suck it up, organise childcare, go to the wedding and enjoy it, you will continue to build a stronger relationship with your DPs family. If that would help your future life together, then do it graciously.

If you decline, then it’s unlikely your relationship with them will improve and strengthen.

Which works better for you in the long term? Do that one.

[PinkCrayon]

Thats your opinion sandyy2k I have mine.

[SandyY2K]

PinkCrayon

Beyond opinion your comments are lack logic.